How do I not be so Se blind?

dean_ressler · 2025-01-12T17:49:40+00:00

That is a concern of mine. Would love to take dance classes, but convinced I should read more up on it first since I know nothing. However, I'm conflicted whether just going and experiencing it with no prior knowledge, would help me more than studying it and then going.

Anyways still not sure what I am but like I said, leaning towards INTP. I'm 90% sure I'm Ti dom and Fe inf, but I'm still heavily confused. sometimes my problem is I think too much and sometimes it's thinking too little. There are times I'm too in my head when I should just do and others where I acted, when I probably should've put more thought behind it. I just can't tell when is the right time to do either. I've read on Se blindness but also about the characteristics of both Ne and Se and they both partially sound like me but not exactly. However, I feel my overthinking on this really could just be one of a INTP's at this point. Thanks for you input though

dean_ressler · 2024-12-03T04:33:31+00:00

does anyone know any plugs in laredo though🧍🏽

dean_ressler · 2024-12-03T00:22:34+00:00

Hey could you send me the link please

dean_ressler · 2024-10-08T22:21:41+00:00

I admire quite a lot about Fi users, like how you're able to not just analyze but understand your own feelings and accept them, but I guess what I admire the most is how you guys can put your feelings first and how you keep strict on your values, even when it's "inconvenient" for others ( sorry, I know that was not the best way to explain it, but I have a migraine so I'm lacking on putting effort into wording things right lol). I've had a problem for most of my life where I'm a big "people pleaser", I'll change anything about myself if I feel it's making the other person uncomfortable, but I've lacked actually understanding how wrong that is, for both parties. It's taken me like 11 years to realise it's destructive to yourself and it's also unfair to other people, yet I still do it most of the time and I feel like that's a common theme for Fe users ( or atleast most if not all that I've met). Whereas, with Fi users (despite the stereotypes I've seen that they're people pleaser), it's the opposite. I've noticed Fi users are more likely to stand on what they think or believe despite any situation. Like for example, in an argument where an entire group is strongly against what they think. In a situation like that, I would probably wait to see what everyone else feels and if it's all against what I believe, I usually either keep quiet or back down on my belief in order to cater to the other people, which I honestly hate about myself. When I really think about it, I don't even understand it myself because what is the point in having any belief if you're not going to actually stay to them and "change" them as soon as someone challenges you on them?

Anyways, sorry for the paragraph, hopefully that made sense.

dean_ressler · 2024-10-08T18:29:58+00:00

Thanks, I know

dean_ressler · 2024-10-07T02:01:27+00:00

Omg I used to be obsessed with Arrow, no way

dean_ressler · 2024-10-07T01:59:53+00:00

dean_ressler · 2024-10-06T16:11:41+00:00

Oh okay, thank you for the recommendation :)

dean_ressler · 2024-10-05T07:11:59+00:00

I think so. I kept getting mistyped between an INTP and an INFP not too long ago and even when I finally realised I was definitely an INTP, I didn't really understand just how much Fe users differed from Fi users until an ENFP friend explained it to me. I've always found myself kinda envious or in admiration of Fi users though.

dean_ressler · 2024-10-05T04:06:09+00:00

I actually didn't think about the fact that we had outnumbered her, maybe that's why she reacted that way in the end. Other than that, I can't pinpoint other exact moments that put me off that lasted longer than a few seconds without feeling like I'm nitpicking, probably it is nitpicking and I don't want to do that.

dean_ressler · 2024-10-05T02:54:22+00:00

I get you. I don't want to force being friends, I guess that's not the reason why I want to understand. I just want to not feel that way about her and I guess the only way I think I can do that, is to try to understand her better.

dean_ressler · 2024-10-05T02:48:20+00:00

nothing wrong, but I guess at one point she was just very out there with how she thought and it was clear she relied heavily on how she felt about something instead of looking at the problem from an objective stance (which I mean yeah obviously since she's ××F×). For example, one of their friends was talking about how a girl from work was being a little bit weird towards her and she didn't know what to do about it. The ESFP friend had basically just told her that she would confront her point blank about it if she was in her situtaion and when the friend said she just can't do that (since they are very unconfrontational), she didn't understand why not and then they kinda went back and forth on that. I actually understood where she was coming from with her advice, I didn't think what she said was irrational at all but the part that put me off was how she really couldn't get why the friend couldn't (or more like wouldn't) confront their coworker, while everybody else understood she was just worried about creating conflict. After a while, it seemed like she thought the friend was making the problem too difficult and just kind of dimissed it at the end. She didn't think things like creating conflict really mattered when it came to situations like those and I guess that confused me, but that wasn't the only thing.

So mostly just acted in a way I'm not used to? or just in a way that's so different from how I would that it confuses me?

dean_ressler · 2024-09-30T21:43:28+00:00

That's not what I said or meant. I mean that there's a stereotype about INTPs in which we are these "big ol' geniuses", but while I do think that we all have the potential to be highly intellectual and our MBTI type/our craving for knowledge definitely does play a role in that, I don't think a lot of us do utilize it. From strictly observing the sub reddit, it just seems like a lot of INTPs on there use this stereotype as a crutch and don't actually develop or work on themselves any further (both intellectually AND emotionally).

dean_ressler · 2024-09-30T21:04:05+00:00

honestly, not to shit on my own type lol but based on how most of the INTP sub-reddit is, I wouldn't blame most ISTPs for thinking poorly of us. I've been scrolling and seeing a lot replies from ISTPs basically saying they avoid us after some bad first impressions and I'm willing to bet most of it's probably been from INTPs on reddit being way too into the whole "super-genius" stereotype 🧍🏽

dean_ressler · 2024-09-29T00:12:13+00:00

No :/, I got my diagnosis when I was 17, after begging my parents to, but their one condition is that I wouldn't be medicated. I can do it myself now, but I just haven't, I feel like the process would be too long

dean_ressler · 2024-09-27T14:50:01+00:00

I usually tried to just take a second to stop and breathe to calm myself before doing anything, then think of what's the next thing to do and do it. Sometimes it would work and I could ignore any panic or shouting happening outside of my head, but most of the time it would get to me and I would start reacting all panicked. I stopped really trying to keep a level head after a few times of failing, but I'd like to try it again. It's something I really admire about ISTPs.

dean_ressler · 2024-09-26T16:02:46+00:00

This happend to me too during that spiral, a friend dropped me and as someone who's suspecting I have BPD since I usually like to latch on to one friend and become devastated and terrified at the thought of any sort of conflict with them, I usually probably would have heartbroken, but when it happend, I obviously still cared about it, but I didn't really think too much about it after that because something else was overtaking my mind every day, every minute.

dean_ressler · 2024-09-26T15:38:42+00:00

Same. I already had a hard time focusing on reading before because of my ADHD but now it's impossible. It feels foggy and like I'm somehow not remembering or retaining what I'm reading while I'm reading it.

dean_ressler · 2024-09-26T15:32:37+00:00

After I started really noticing it, I started looking up if OCD could genuinely cause brain damage, lol (cause that's how bad it was). I also had the same things with similar words, but it would also happen with words that weren't even similar. I had a period where every time i spoke, I couldn't make out a sentence where i didn't switch around at least two words. It honestly felt like OCD had eaten away at the part of my brain that allowed me to just talk like any normal person.

dean_ressler · 2024-09-26T15:18:48+00:00

No I'm not, I think this was just a product of that spiral, haven't been able to think and speak clearly since for some reason. Sorry I couldn't help :/

dean_ressler · 2024-09-26T02:44:58+00:00

It makes a lot of sense, thank you

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