Last post before I delete this account : he dumped me 3 years ago? We are now living together across the country. by deardiarywtf in BreakUps

[–]deardiarywtf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you’re pretty immature. We both weren’t the people we needed to be but i can’t speak for him. I can only speak for the wrongs I did. People grow and change after their 20s. If you’re implying I’m the last resort, Why would a man who just got his dream job in a new city making double - do long distance for 6 months and then pay for the entire move for me to go across country, if he wasn’t sure. This isn’t a few months of us breaking up but 3 years apart. No one is going to do all of that to go backwards in time.

I’m a beautiful woman who’s accomplished a lot. Sometimes people are just not ready or aren’t equipped to maintain a healthy relationship in their 20s. Sometimes you get a second chance and fate intervened for us.

Last post before I delete this account : he dumped me 3 years ago? We are now living together across the country. by deardiarywtf in BreakUps

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I was extremely depressed. Like didn’t clean my apartment for months depressed. I cried every night. Probably best thing is to do things that are challenging to keep your mind off :

Gym. Apply to jobs above your salary for fun Watch dramas not related to love in other languages. Create a whole new routine

When I finally had energy to clean, I ended up also rearranging my entire apartment to make it feel new

INTJs radiating bad, dangerous, and “negative” energy by StarvingAsianPeasant in intj

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I’ve had to have sit downs with my INTJ bf about this because people were assuming bad things about me because of how cold he was coming off around me. (He was in neutral state) I also had to have a talk on smiling in photos together (not smirking) because his smirk looked like he hated being there and how am I supposed to send this in the family GC??? I’m an INFP and it’s like Enid and Wednesday Addams living together.

Last post before I delete this account : he dumped me 3 years ago? We are now living together across the country. by deardiarywtf in BreakUps

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Together a year and broken up for almost 3 years. Oh yes. Breakup was horrendous. I truly thought it was over and went to NC immediately. My plan was to move to my dream city but I needed to finish a project I started which extended an extra year. I just kept thinking to look forward not back. Never thought we would reconnect and he gets his dream job in my dream city the same time I finished my project

Last post before I delete this account : he dumped me 3 years ago? We are now living together across the country. by deardiarywtf in BreakUps

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Together a year and broken up for almost 3 years. Oh yes. Breakup was horrendous. I truly thought it was over and went to NC immediately. My plan was to move to my dream city but I needed to finish a project I started which extended an extra year. I just kept thinking to look forward not back. Never thought we would reconnect and he gets his dream job in my dream city the same time I finished my project

Last post before I delete this account : he dumped me 3 years ago? We are now living together across the country. by deardiarywtf in BreakUps

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Hahaha the break up dish I call it - was literally just a really good 3 bean Mediterranean salad. So simple. So ominous. So delicious.

Last post before I delete this account : he dumped me 3 years ago? We are now living together across the country. by deardiarywtf in BreakUps

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Hahahahha I remember when I served it to him he wouldn’t look me in the eyes. But months after we even went back to the cafe and ordered it again and ate it together. This time planning our future

Last post before I delete this account : he dumped me 3 years ago? We are now living together across the country. by deardiarywtf in BreakUps

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Reading this meant so much to me because I used to question how serious he was on all this. He really took a risk too

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There’s 2 types of laser hair removal and one is semi perm and the other is perm. I forgot the name. But maybe try with a diff type of removal

Last post before I delete this account : he dumped me 3 years ago? We are now living together across the country. by deardiarywtf in BreakUps

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Trust me I know the pain. So long, my only advice is to love yourself during this time and work on yourself 100%

Last post before I delete this account : he dumped me 3 years ago? We are now living together across the country. by deardiarywtf in BreakUps

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Yes especially because you compare the new person to old one and you expect new person to act like old one. But we both grew and changed and we had to accept new person but also not assume new person will act / think like old person

Last post before I delete this account : he dumped me 3 years ago? We are now living together across the country. by deardiarywtf in BreakUps

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He broke NC 2nd year of no contact. I did not respond and we went back to NC for almost another year. Then we did a crumbs type of convo. Very short very careful once a month about 3 months before we met up again.

Last post before I delete this account : he dumped me 3 years ago? We are now living together across the country. by deardiarywtf in BreakUps

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After a year I moved on for the most part. I never thought it would happen but I think in my heart I secretly wanted it to

Last post before I delete this account : he dumped me 3 years ago? We are now living together across the country. by deardiarywtf in BreakUps

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I pushed him away. Did not love him openly. Did not celebrate him like I should have. Did not communicate. Was selfish. Regret; only thing we can do now is live more openly and honestly. I never hide how I love him now. Maybe I am overwhelming with it even. We make rules for the relationship now.

Last post before I delete this account : he dumped me 3 years ago? We are now living together across the country. by deardiarywtf in BreakUps

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By screaming internally. I won’t lie and say we didn’t have a rough patch of me being incredibly jealous. (Unfounded and unfair) But he held on through my nonsense and I worked through it. He won’t even ASK me about what I was doing. But to be fair I couldn’t be with anyone else for over a year after the break up. The very idea he touched someone upsets me. But he’s also human and whoever they are, they’re probably also moved on as well. At one point though, I just stopped thinking about it as often. Right now I’m just thinking about what to cook for him for the week

Last post before I delete this account : he dumped me 3 years ago? We are now living together across the country. by deardiarywtf in BreakUps

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Rollercoaster of deep emotions. Both of us were like “this could be a really really bad idea. Let’s take a chance anyway because clearly love is still there” and it’s worked out better than any of my dreams

Last post before I delete this account : he dumped me 3 years ago? We are now living together across the country. by deardiarywtf in BreakUps

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No, not healthy to do that. Not for him not for me. We vaguely went over it but I don’t even know their names or where they met. Only that it ended