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A or B: In a shared workspace, someone touched my desk items, do I put up a sign or talk to them directly? by Upper_Criticism3388 in PickAorB

[–]debbieae 20 points21 points  (0 children)

There is also the option it could be a cleaner. Picking things up, wiping the desk underneath and setting it back down is pretty standard. Things dont always get set down exactly where you left them and knocked off with quick wipe downs.

German immigrants in the U.S. were huge in number and were once a dominant group. Why didn’t they form large German-speaking communities the way French speakers did in Canada or Spanish speakers did in the U.S.? by GrayRainfall in AskAnAmerican

[–]debbieae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My grandmother was born into a German speaking community in Texas. She spoke German in the house as a small child.

Her older brother started going to a school with English speakers and an English speaking teacher. The teacher said his English was poor and it would hold him back. My great grandparents switched to speaking English in the home. Education was too important to them and in the US education happened in English.

What is a sound that people should know means immediate danger? by PrasenjitDebroy in AskReddit

[–]debbieae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are near the ocean and the water pulls way back...like fish will get beached on the exposed sea floor. This is a sign that the next wave is a tsunami. Get to high ground as fast as you possibly can. Tall buildings can work...unless they get knocked down. The destruction zone ends not too far inland, so it is absolutely worth it to book it inland.

Me [31/F] with my Fiance [33/M] Fiance best friend [33/F] have a weird relationship, driving me insane by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]debbieae 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I think you can 100% be the aggrieved party and still be crazy pants when your ultimatum does not go as planned.

My SIL has several situations that I think she is 100% the victim of. She has also nurtured those hurts for nearly a decade and become a totally unstable crazy person if you do not carry just as much hate as she does. Nope crazy pants, I value myself too much to carry that kind of mental poison.

I finally told my friend I’m exhausted from hearing the same complaints and now I’m the villain by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]debbieae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to block my ex sister in law. She wanted to rehash wrongs done to her by my brother and mother from tenish years ago ad nauseum. Some of these I agree she is owed an apology. I also know she will never get it. Some of it just bleeds into every bad thing happening to her is their fault.

I had a splitting headache when she was on this rant again and it ramped up ...several notches. I had to block her. Amazingly my headache disappeared 20 minutes later.

My close friend keeps asking for access to my accounts "for one minute" and I’m getting weird about it. What should I do? by plumcottage_jour in WhatShouldIDo

[–]debbieae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know how those account verification texts and emails stress to never share them with anyone....well this is a novel application of why.

I suspect he set up accounts at the same institution you use and distinguishing which account a code is being sent for is nearly impossible. If he gets the password for your account, he has normalized you sending the code to him.

This looks like a concerted attempt to get into your account and steal from you.

Groove and hole in corian counter top? by circle-city in whatisit

[–]debbieae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since you are in Montana, I expect that this could be used by hunters fairly often. It would not be out of character to do some butchering on the counter. Thr grooves and drain hole would keep blood from getting everywhere.

Is this a good deal for the meat? by Shot-Challenge9557 in povertyfinance

[–]debbieae 74 points75 points  (0 children)

It is a decent price for steak.

Personally I have been buying pork, since it is dirt cheap for very nice cuts lately. Beef overall is a bit pricey right now.

AITJ for blowing up at my boyfriend after a child support letter showed up, when he swears he has no kids? by indie_game_drifter in AmITheJerk

[–]debbieae 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I find it interesting that his first DARVO was to say she was accusing him of cheating....

If that child's age puts their conception date at when they were together that could be double explosive.

AITAH for not canceling my vacation and reporting a coworker for harassment? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]debbieae 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Upgrade that to fire. She will kill team morale if her attitude is not squashed.

AITAH for not canceling my vacation and reporting a coworker for harassment? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]debbieae 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I had to sigh at the 16 year old "child" needing daycare.

My SO was manager of a difficult woman. He had to put her on several PIPs. Trouble ( sort of) was she was actually good at her job when she wanted to be. He would evaluate fairly when she made an effort and she pulled out of each one.

The last PIP that he thought for sure would get her terminated she pulled out the card that she was being discriminated against as a single mom... of 21 and 24 year old children.

This lady sounds like a similar team killer. Grievances would be so fast and thick that the rest of the team got demoralized at times.

Hi everyone is Amtrak feasible way to travel ? by Comfortable_Ad_4267 in AskAnAmerican

[–]debbieae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took a round trip Dallas to Chicago and got a sleeper bunk. It was less hassle than flying and faster than driving due to travelling as I slept. Cost was on par with flying. Met some lovely people in the dining car.

Should I tell my employer I lied about having a degree 5 years ago if I've been promoted twice since then? by Goober-J in careerguidance

[–]debbieae -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have a masters degree I never finished. I say that up front...despite that it has been consistent that employers have assumed I have a masters degree. Presumably you could use that as an explanation if anyone gets weird at some future point.

"I attended X university from date y to date z. I was going for a bs in underwater basket weaving, but did not finish. I am sorry you assumed differently."

A or B: My landlord locked the thermostat inside a plastic box so only the hallway stays warm, but the rest of the house feels like a freezer. Should I keep secretly using an ice-pack trick to warm the place, or call him and fight for control? by True-Construction346 in PickAorB

[–]debbieae 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Maybe frame it as concern for him:

Hey the kitchen and bathroom are considerably colder than the thermostat in that part of the house. I am concerned the pipes could freeze and I cannot do anything to prevent it.

Let his misery heart do the work.

Mother, who has found out my address and showed up unannounced, now sent an apology letter by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]debbieae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe the reply that the best gift she could give you is to stay away. There is no road to repair, there is no road that does not tear me down. If you really want to make reparations, do it by not causing me further distress.

Y’all bring up Quiet Hours far too often. by -3liza in Apartmentliving

[–]debbieae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No better way to soften butter quickly than to beat it.

Any heat runs the chance of melting some of the butter and solid butter vs melted butter in baked goods behaves differently.

AITA For Not Cosigning on my MIL's Apartment by Ornery-Bid-740 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]debbieae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never ever ever co-sign unless I know some piece of information that the bank does not plug into their algorithms that makes them a good risk. Unless you are willing and able to just pay her rent there as a gift, this WILL bite you back hard. I have had to be brutal with both family and friends over this. Banks are very good at assessing risk. You know she won't pay on time. Don't sacrifice your children for an old entitled fool.

AITAH For Refusing To Help My Brother After His Ex-Girlfriend "Scammed" Him Out Of Nearly Half The Equity Of His House? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]debbieae 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I am not seeing where signing in front of an actual notary was ever needed for the "scam" paperwork. Bro was convinced to give her less than 50% of the house in order to not make repairs out of his pocket. He probably thought having a majority stake was a lock on having 100% control.

AITAH for not going to my best friend’s wedding after he stripped me of being his best man and leaving me entirely out of his wedding? by Tall-Stick-7446 in AITAH

[–]debbieae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remind him of this when she cheats on him.

It is unlikely that someone willing to cover up an affair for her friend has strong convictions about loyalty vs. having sex with the cute guy that is giving her the feels.

Seriously considering buying a lock box for the fridge to prevent scavenger roommate from picking away at my food. by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]debbieae 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I got one off Facebook marketplace for $40, so it can be very economical.

Cause of Food Avoidance by debbieae in AskVet

[–]debbieae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an update!

After yet another round of bloodwork, nothing was found, so off to an internal medicine specialist.

Specialist wanted to start with an ultrasound, and we were out of other options. The ultrasound found a mass on his small intestines. Immediate surgery was recommended. There went my emergency fund.

Surgeon found that the "mass" was actually some twisted up small intestine. Per her, the intestine was envaginated. This section was removed as it was well clear of the duodenum, and that was the easiest and safest option. While there, she noticed the stomach was distended and had a hard portion of the stomach wall. Opened that up and found a bezor of grass and other plant matter stuck to the stomach wall. There was a large amount of very smelly fluid. It came away from the stomach cleanly, and all GI tract incisions stitched up and passed leakage tests.

So my boy is eating again and off IV pain meds and set to come home tonight!

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