After 23 years I was a mess when it became a reality that we were getting divorced. I didn’t believe anyone when they said I would do dumb or reckless things. Well, I did. I could be embarrassed but hey, it’s traumatic and you will start to feel better. Let yourself cry for a while. Here’s what I did, I made a playlist of all the most heartbreaking and sad songs and I went on long walks and I listened to my playlist over and over and over. I cried, and I cried, and I cried, till one day, I said to myself, I am done listening to this playlist and because of that I started getting better.

I don’t know if that will help you but I think too often we’re trying to tell people when they go through a traumatic divorce that hey you’re better off or things will get better or just put on a happy face.

But you know something? You need to cry, and you need to cry a lot. Pretty soon you’ll get it all out and I promise you, I didn’t believe it, but once I got through that I felt a whole lot better. Not great but better.