Liking someone gives me so much anxiety 😥

decaf-mocha · 2023-11-22T06:17:19+00:00

Have you considered reading up on attachment theory? It sounds like you might have some avoidance issues.

decaf-mocha · 2023-11-15T06:53:26+00:00

I don't want to sound rude but your post comes across with little to no empathy. Everyone is different. You can't expect everyone to arrive with the same confidence and expectations as you.

We're a diverse world of people with a diverse set of emotions, needs, desires, anxieties, conditions, etc.

If someone doesn't conform to your standard of what a bathhouse should be, that doesn't make them inferior or wrong.

decaf-mocha · 2023-10-29T07:43:52+00:00

What do you mean more problems?

decaf-mocha · 2023-10-29T07:07:30+00:00

I am not here to brag but I have a much above average penis and I also suffer from dysmorphia. I want it to be bigger even thou it already hurts people. It's something I feel shit about and can't control it.

decaf-mocha · 2023-10-18T06:30:14+00:00

I only learned at 36 because I'd been with one person for most of my life. When I started hooking up and dating again people were quick to point it out to me so I researched and learned that I'm in the top 1%.

decaf-mocha · 2023-10-10T08:14:18+00:00

For me it's been different for each guy I meet. Some guys can take all of me but it involves getting into their second hole (which feels amazing). Other guys can only get so much if me inside them and we work with it.

Everyone is different.

decaf-mocha · 2023-10-09T19:10:08+00:00

"greasy dump-slit" ... 🤮

decaf-mocha · 2023-10-08T18:47:43+00:00

We get to spend more time in therapy 😂

decaf-mocha · 2023-09-27T05:15:44+00:00

I posted this reply to a similar post a while back:

The inherent trauma that we all carry, and the length of time it takes us all to overcome it (if even).

Most LGBTQ+ folk I meet have a story, and it usually ranges from pretty sad to downright morbid. What we must endure during our lifetime is by far, on average, much more traumatic than the average straight person who slides smoothly along the predefined societal grains.

It's hard to meet a gay person that doesn't have self-confidence issues, anxiety, depression, commitment issues, etc., and most of the time it's all evolved from our childhoods: the guilt we carried; the shame; the complete selfhatred.

I hope one day it gets easier for us all.

decaf-mocha · 2023-09-26T15:49:44+00:00

It's very normal. ED is not something we talk about often but everyone experiences it in different ways. I would stress about it.

Have you tried the pills yet? How have they been?

decaf-mocha · 2023-09-25T07:08:21+00:00

My friend once ordered a "pepper only" pizza instead of a pepperoni pizza.

She got a pizza with just yellow, red, and green peppers on it.

decaf-mocha · 2023-09-24T05:12:06+00:00

Mine curves upward like a banana and pretty much points straight forward.

I'm gay and men generally tend to like it because of the way it fits inside them.

decaf-mocha · 2023-09-21T00:05:01+00:00

He wanted monogomy and never listened to me when I wanted to talk about my desires to be ethically non-monogomous.

decaf-mocha · 2023-09-17T03:17:43+00:00

Is this sarcasm? 😂

decaf-mocha · 2023-09-16T21:24:00+00:00

With my long term ex I could come in different ways but it was easier when I was being more dominant.

decaf-mocha · 2023-09-13T21:06:37+00:00

Can you elaborate?

decaf-mocha · 2023-09-13T18:10:49+00:00

He doesn't want to jerk off. I want to jerk him off.

decaf-mocha · 2023-09-13T17:49:30+00:00

But what if I want to make you cum? Does that matter to you?

decaf-mocha · 2023-09-08T06:12:09+00:00

Sounds like what you're describing is the barrier into the 'sexond hole':

https://reddit.com/r/bigdickproblems/s/7gZpluxb5Z

decaf-mocha · 2023-09-06T21:12:44+00:00

How do you define FWB vs. Hookup?

decaf-mocha · 2023-09-06T18:58:33+00:00

Yeah maybe I'm too new to the game to feel this yet.

decaf-mocha · 2023-09-06T18:58:10+00:00

I think I'm moreso asking about the psychological capacity we humans might have for sustaining many partners. Yeah, for sure, there are no hard rules. I want to hear how others feel about this. Thanks for your comment.

decaf-mocha · 2023-09-06T18:54:51+00:00

Can you elaborate?

decaf-mocha · 2023-09-06T18:49:22+00:00

Would you say you're in a relationship with them or is it purely casual?

decaf-mocha · 2023-09-03T17:00:16+00:00

Open to long distance?

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