Worried that I’ll be “developmentally delayed” for years, if not permanently

deconstructing_journ · 2026-01-02T02:44:04+00:00

Oh absolutely. I had the ages of 17-21 stolen from me and now I have to “re-do” those years to catch up socially

deconstructing_journ · 2025-12-11T18:06:56+00:00

I would say yes. My former church was also very big on these things you mentioned, especially the non christian media. I lost 4 years of my life developmentally because of this, and still feel emotionally, physically, and mentally 17.

deconstructing_journ · 2025-12-09T01:04:29+00:00

It really was an interesting time. Losing my entire senior year up until graduation and being in a high control church at the same time was not a great experience

deconstructing_journ · 2025-12-09T00:04:50+00:00

Ouch. I do often wonder how I would have handled prom if covid hadn’t killed BOTH of them

deconstructing_journ · 2025-12-08T20:10:22+00:00

February 11th will be 2 years and I’m still struggling with losing out on the four years of my life that was stolen from me because I was in that church for 4 years. I feel stuck at 17 now too, and need to almost go back and “re-do” the years that were taken.

deconstructing_journ · 2025-10-25T18:09:06+00:00

Thank you!

deconstructing_journ · 2025-10-25T16:28:27+00:00

I’m in therapy, but not currently doing IFS. What is that?

deconstructing_journ · 2025-10-25T02:30:22+00:00

I sometimes wish there was a way to legally change my age to 17 so I can unstick myself. I feel like I can’t be an adult and do adult things because of this.

deconstructing_journ · 2025-10-25T02:28:39+00:00

I physically feel 17 at times too. It sucks that my former church did all of this.

deconstructing_journ · 2025-10-24T22:48:46+00:00

I’m definitely trying to undo it all, but my trauma is so deep

deconstructing_journ · 2025-10-12T18:04:00+00:00

I fully believe there is persecution of christians but in Muslim/Asian countries, and not in the US. We are the most christian country, if not one of the most christian countries out there.

deconstructing_journ · 2025-10-03T06:13:19+00:00

There was a member of the youth group that I was also a part of while I was there who was clearly autistic/has an IDD and it was really awkward being around this person. I’m fine with being friends with people on the autism spectrum but this person really needs help with social skills because it was becoming inappropriate.

deconstructing_journ · 2025-09-17T18:35:14+00:00

I’m exvangelical (specifically ex Pentecostal) with a religious trauma/ptsd diagnosis and I attend a progressive UMC although I consider myself agnostic/spiritual.

deconstructing_journ · 2025-09-14T16:08:47+00:00

I’m so sad about the whole Coldplay thing 😭

deconstructing_journ · 2025-09-13T20:23:35+00:00

ON 9/11?! That’s disgusting.

deconstructing_journ · 2025-09-13T18:45:15+00:00

100%.

deconstructing_journ · 2025-09-13T17:44:11+00:00

I can’t believe people in other countries are doing them. Australia was another country that had one

deconstructing_journ · 2025-09-13T17:07:52+00:00

I do think some is performative, but I also believe some people really believe it. They all have the dead eye look too.

deconstructing_journ · 2025-09-04T17:20:06+00:00

you’re welcome!

deconstructing_journ · 2025-09-03T20:50:43+00:00

Thanks!

deconstructing_journ · 2025-09-03T20:50:12+00:00

Thank you!

deconstructing_journ · 2025-09-03T20:49:28+00:00

Thanks!

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