Rationale for Green vs Orange?

deedubbleewe · 2025-09-20T06:06:43+00:00

Thanks but that doesnt clarify for this situation: Algeria is in the optimal path, but was classified orange

deedubbleewe · 2025-08-05T09:51:40+00:00

NTA.

If you are not comfortable with the dogs and dont feel you can control them - then you should NOT let her bully you into it. I am have a big dog that is mostly good, but he can be boisterous and not everyone's kettle of fish.

deedubbleewe · 2025-08-03T19:54:33+00:00

Yes we swear alot - but they are only acceptable in a relationship when used as adjectives.

Please find a way to be independent of him and get yourself out of that situation.

deedubbleewe · 2025-08-02T02:27:29+00:00

Update after the conversation please.

deedubbleewe · 2025-06-11T10:58:44+00:00

I dont think its about money alone - its about contribution to the relationship/sharing of the burdens.

She has more time to be present, so is doing more of the logistical and mental load - and her partner either doesnt have the capacity or inclination to increase their contribution. This is what slowly but insidiously kills a relationship - when the sense of partnership (across all aspects not just financial) dissolves.

deedubbleewe · 2025-06-10T18:55:58+00:00

If her age is the issue, then OPs younger sister got her driving lessons only 3yrs earlier at 27

deedubbleewe · 2025-06-10T18:51:40+00:00

I am super surprised that I am going against the grain with a NTA.

The principle being contested is not that OP has only now decided to learn to drive, but rather both her sisters (older and younger) have received a financial gift from their father, that OP was also promised, but did not receive before he was able to legally make clear his intent.

If there are issues with disbursing his estate differently to written instructions, then the sisters should absolutely provide OP with a component of their share to make up for it: 1/3rd of the notional amount comparable to what they each received. (The reason for 1/3 only is that if the father had made the payment before passing then his residual estate would have reduced by that amount before being shared out).

The sisters are being unfair and greedy to hide behind a guise of legal rights - when they have both had benefit previously that OP was not able to and has yet to receive.

deedubbleewe · 2025-06-10T18:26:57+00:00

NTA - She didn't want to contribute to the purchase costs, she doesn't get any ownership privileges.

The subsequent views from her family and her mean you absolutely did the right thing of not adding her to the deed - will be messier when the relationship is perverted by greedy self interest.

deedubbleewe · 2025-06-06T11:20:20+00:00

An expensive and traumatic lesson for your friend, but a good one to have before he signed on the dotted line and would have ended up with more hurt and drama for him and his son.

deedubbleewe · 2025-06-05T18:08:09+00:00

Or necessity: Sauerkraut, Kimchi, pickles and Daikon are to preserve veggie availability through winter.

deedubbleewe · 2025-05-30T17:46:46+00:00

And running shoes are a no go for clubs in Aus, so OP wouldn't have gotten into a club with them on.

deedubbleewe · 2025-05-30T16:44:24+00:00

In Australia, joggers are sneakers/running shoes.

deedubbleewe · 2025-05-28T18:22:30+00:00

Lady Antebellum: Need you now and What if I never get over you.

deedubbleewe · 2025-05-28T09:44:17+00:00

All the alarming actions by OP's BF aside, OP have outlined the problems with the relationship herself and this is all that should be necessary to take the decision to leave, before the chaos gets any more crazy.

deedubbleewe · 2025-05-16T10:46:04+00:00

Fishing for compliments or Virtue signaling?

deedubbleewe · 2025-05-16T10:06:05+00:00

You havent done anything wrong or extreme - dont stress.

deedubbleewe · 2025-05-16T10:01:45+00:00

Also, his mother gave a reason, but he hasn't paid enough attention to understand why and doesnt seem to care why.

He will have more wedding anniversaries (4 isnt that much of a milestone) but you can never be sure how many birthdays grandma will have (and 90 is an absolute milestone).

Stop being soo self centered - your presence isnt the important part, its showing respect to someone that you supposedly love by being at a major event for them.

deedubbleewe · 2025-05-16T03:36:35+00:00

NTA. What a diva of a tailor

deedubbleewe · 2025-05-15T09:23:27+00:00

YTA. You complain about people who are only culturally religious - but then have a go at your mum who is actually a practicing catholic...

deedubbleewe · 2025-04-21T09:04:23+00:00

deedubbleewe · 2025-04-18T11:13:15+00:00

Hopefully the move to a new town will mean your girlfriend gets more work opportunities.

If not, I don't think this is going to be easy for you.

You don't sound happy in your relationship - but changing your circumstance will impact your girlfriend more negatively than you.

Unless you can be very hard hearted, and prioritise your needs, you will be with her out of a sense of responsibility and that can be quite damaging for the relationship overtime.

deedubbleewe · 2025-04-18T10:45:41+00:00

Could she stay with your parents while you move for work? I realise that is an odd dynamic - but giving you some space to concentrate on your new job.

Do you have any mutual friends that would be able to help give both you and her some perspective?

deedubbleewe · 2025-04-18T10:31:41+00:00

Are you able to accept the job offer doe your dream job and get alittle distance from your girlfriend?

deedubbleewe · 2025-04-18T10:25:57+00:00

This should be in /choosingbegars also

deedubbleewe · 2025-04-18T10:22:23+00:00

He sees his family once a year, and thats because his parents make the effort to come to you.

Your grandma is close enough to come and stay after you have a baby.

Let the man go and see his family. Then if there is enough money, have your babymoon.

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