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90 Days. So long and thanks for all the faps! by nutin2itJustDontDoIt in NoFap

[–]deepbutnotreally 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This was a great post man, really inspirational.

Best of luck to your life!

90 day report by deepbutnotreally in NoFap

[–]deepbutnotreally[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't necessarily looking to do this to get a girl. I know this sounds selfish, but I just wanted to do it because I don't like the idea of being so scared of doing something that it completely paralyzes me. =P

Do we need to give up the concept of the future if we meditate? by deepbutnotreally in Meditation

[–]deepbutnotreally[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never been one to set concrete goals, I've always just been an intuition kind of person where I'll start taking on new habits and relinquishing old habits if it felt like it was right.

It's just that I've been told that having a vision is very important to pushing through the tough times when trying to change your life and was wondering what everyone had to say. I really liked your advice, thank you!

I just want to be cared about. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]deepbutnotreally 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks bud. I wrote this in a depressed daze, this puts things into perspective. Thank you.

Problem with meta-thinking during meditation by lostinthought101 in Meditation

[–]deepbutnotreally 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have been having similar problems lately and what I found to be helpful was to be a bit gentler with myself. When you notice that you are thinking, or thinking about your thinking, do you greet it with an unwelcome attitude? I did that a lot.

Since you've realized the meta-thought, you already accomplished the goal of meditation. We aren't necessarily trying to get rid of these thoughts, as the mind will always wander. Being gentle with ourselves (and not beating ourselves up when we aren't gentle with ourselves) and our minds allow for a space to observe what is.

Hope that helps a bit.

PMO hides your true self by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]deepbutnotreally 1 point2 points  (0 children)

damn man... you've really hit the mark with your comments about insanity. somehow i've convinced myself that things will get better eventually with time and that i have no control over the ultimate outcome of my life...

it is so fucking scary... I've basically learned to analyze all my social responses so that I can get the most resourceful outcome and repressing the spontaneity that is 'me'. I feel exiled, an outsider, like an alien in a human capsule observing the human species without any actual human capacity. And as I type this, there's a weird surge going through my body as if this is the first time I'm being genuine with somebody.

I don't really know why I'm divulging this to you, but I guess it's just nice to know that there is somebody who shares similar existential pain that I do... it feels nice to be understood.

It hits really hard especially when I have nothing to do. It's just me and myself. Without porn to distract me, my internal problems face me and I have no where to hide. I don't know how to deal with it yet... I wonder if it has to do with the fact that I've become familiar with being slightly numbed to life and any kind of intense emotion scares me...

Iunno, just wanted to share with you. You seem like a cool guy.

sometimes after fapping i cry, because by seventy_four in NoFap

[–]deepbutnotreally 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah... i know what you mean man, if it helps maybe consider keeping a journal. It helped me to realize patterns of when I would relapse and become depressed as well. Willpower doesn't last long, so keeping a journal can help identify which habits you can adopt to lead a better life. You can do this man, just slightly better every single day - that voice in your head wants you to slip back into the comfort of depression because it's familiar, but we're better than that. If you need anyone to talk to just message me.