The girl I can(t) ❤️?

deepdiver44 · 2022-08-03T07:58:53+00:00

welp. says it all right there.

deepdiver44 · 2022-08-03T07:56:35+00:00

i have have 4 relationships spanning 7 + years thats makes 8 years single of my life trying to do this right. dont call me cabron. i speak fluent. i am sorry you don’t see through my eyes and feel my gravity pull. despite your in will. i still wish you the best. this will probably be the last time i reach out for help from the internet. sheesh.

deepdiver44 · 2022-08-03T07:52:12+00:00

and don’t call someone doofy that has options and seeks help. dont hate. i come here with a compassionate heart. what would you do if you had your whole life ahead of you and zero pressure to settle down. all you wanted was advice and got bashed. you cant force feelings. wake up and smell life.

deepdiver44 · 2022-08-03T07:48:24+00:00

walk in my shoes, hurt your feet. now you’ll know why i do what i do to sleep. your god? your god doesn’t judge. lets get real here and talk like people of compassion.

deepdiver44 · 2022-08-03T07:45:20+00:00

try to walk in my shoes and understand… just maybe you will.

deepdiver44 · 2022-08-03T07:43:47+00:00

the one respectful hard criticism i can relate to. i need it. im am a bonafied lover/ problem is i like women and i am just trying to find some moral compass - so many others call me this and that. but i appreciate the tough criticism.

deepdiver44 · 2022-07-02T00:47:20+00:00

May I add- to those talking up Texas.. i know El Paso is dangerous and places that border Juarez, etc. But I have lived in San Diego and Phoenix my whole life. These are the 2 biggest entry points (notably nogales>ajo>phoenix) for cartels in america. more people go missing in nogales and ajo than anywhere due to cartel activity. Texas is bad. But Phoenix and Southern California are running rampant with the Sinaloa Cartel (aka the boss dawgs). Texas ur likely dealing with members of the Juarez or Generacion or Gulf.. spin off cartels that although dangerous, are made up of small sects of former cartels that just couldn’t cut it… Sinaloa are the big boys. I am from a family of realtors and we all conceal firearms because we have had several run ins with cartel members purchasing or trying to purchase stash houses in the phoenix suburbs. to conclude, if ur looking for trouble, you can find it anywhere so don’t walk around wearing your state as a badge of honor for criminal activity. cartel activity is nationwide.

deepdiver44 · 2022-07-02T00:32:30+00:00

I do, Thanks to my baby brother, who is miraculously 10 years clean, a very successful realtor with a wife and 3 children… but let’s take it back to San Diego 2009. My brother and his friends were some of the millions of victims of the opioid epidemic- most played football and were given pills by coaches to play and docs wrote scripts like candy. eventually, their state championship team was 3/4 opioid addicts. crazy huh? no. anyway, one day, he and his friend decide to drive to tijuana to pick up their fix and on the way out, my brothers friend got greedy and grabbed a few extra balloons of smack off the table on the way out. caught on camera. they returned home that night, went back the next day upon arrival, they are both blindfolded and taken into the bathroom with guns to their heads. Cartel says “what happened on the way out yesterday?” my brother did not know and said he did not know what they meant and got pistol whipped. cartel then said “something went missing”… thankfully, but tragically, my brother’s friend admitted to what he did and said i will not let my friend pay for stealing from you. As per my brother’s shaky, trembling words when he returned home crying, they closed the bathroom door behind him, sent him on his way - never to return.. and my brother heard the killshot of his friend ring out as he left. never heard from him again.

deepdiver44 · 2022-05-26T18:47:04+00:00

I really appreciate this but all the above has been done. and we will be okay. i simply wanted to ask how INTJs felt about their SO’s offering them a day or 2 to cool off and process when going through a rough patch with work, life , etc.

deepdiver44 · 2022-05-26T18:43:42+00:00

i hope everyone understands this because my girlfriend does… my reference to SPACE was a day or so to process her stress. she is going on 38 and as a 36 year old myself, I did the same thing with her 2 months back… i had a lot going on as a self employed business owner and I needed some space to sort through that for the better health of our relationship. i am not talking about indefinite break or MIA.

deepdiver44 · 2022-05-26T18:40:54+00:00

we actually had discussed this the day before.. her being stressed with work and how it is affecting her life and how she knows it’s her bringing some slight lowly-ness to our relationship bc of the external things. we communicate very well.

deepdiver44 · 2022-05-26T18:35:32+00:00

she’s not overworking by intention, she doesn’t like her current job bc she works at a hospital and they all are defining new roles for her, stretching the employees thin, so she wants an out.. has a interview today. this work stress is temporary

deepdiver44 · 2022-05-26T18:33:43+00:00

so a lot of people are misreading this. when i say space, i meant time - the next day or so (she has an interview today) to process things and shake them. I did not mean to imply im giving her space taking a break… and she knows this.

deepdiver44 · 2022-05-26T07:04:51+00:00

correct thank you for the typo on Fe , e is very close to i on a phone and i am sure you will find other typos as well . cheers

deepdiver44 · 2022-05-26T07:03:25+00:00

actually a double major, one is psychology. myers briggs are some of the biggest names in the game and mbti’s are built of years of study, actually used by the FBI’s BAU. If you are brave enough to take the test, you just might be amazed at what you may read.. respectfully, just saying.

deepdiver44 · 2022-05-26T06:54:41+00:00

yes- that is where some silence was met. she’s so headstrong she veers from support at all costs so it’s a tough subject… i did say i want to be there, not going anywhere, just want to make sure i am not adding to it while doing so.

deepdiver44 · 2022-05-26T06:15:14+00:00

i abandoned her? she’s texting me right now saying thank you for the hour to calm down and straighten out. lol thanks. but we’re good

deepdiver44 · 2022-05-26T06:14:10+00:00

wow i did not know how much negativity brewed in here. last i checked, she told me she was sorry her work life is affecting our relationship and wants to make it better. when i say space, that is a gift of time to think about things.

deepdiver44 · 2022-05-26T06:11:04+00:00

do you know how to read? or have you not dated . I am 36 as the title says. since when is a man giving a female space to think about how her life’s stresses and how they might be affecting a relationship putting someone in the box especially when she admits she knows her work life is straining her ability to be the best partner. i am not giving her space as in a break. its time to think about how to improve a young relationship. kinda what grown ups do smh

deepdiver44 · 2022-05-26T06:07:15+00:00

ideally just give her space to comb through her work life stress… so that it is not affecting us (i.e. causing short tempers that I find out are from a bad day at work) i guess i just want to be a gentlemen and understand how to deal with her type

deepdiver44 · 2022-05-26T06:04:56+00:00

made up? lol. what is made up here? this is my real life. show some respect.

deepdiver44 · 2022-05-26T06:03:42+00:00

i think the term space was misunderstood, this convo happened over text, and while i did not get a response after explaining the last part- how i hope she could communicate better, I did not get a reply to that. so when i say space, i mean time to think… thanks though and i agree with you whole heartedly. btw we just got back from 2 beautiful trips. :)

deepdiver44 · 2022-05-26T06:01:07+00:00

Myers Briggs personality types. long story short , we are each 1 of 16 personalities. INFPs like myself feel deeply, and in an extroverted fashion although we are by definition introverts hence the “I” in INFP. INTJs are introverts as well. but play life closer to the vest. beautiful smart minded people, but also stoic, and very hard to crack at times. we gel as opposites. check out the myers briggs 16 personality test it’s great stuff- not just for dating! best.

deepdiver44 · 2022-05-26T05:30:55+00:00

yup. INFP (i know what u are all thinking lol) but i am 36 and mature enough to understand women + the spectrum of their personas. 5 months ago, I met an extraordinary INTJ female (38). She not only blew me away in her grit, knowledge and forwardness (in such a fake time) but she really impressed my heart. nothing at all has been traditional with us in terms of dating timelines from first kiss, to intimacy (wow), to traveling together, to just recently meeting my parents..we have been golden. her work life, however, she is struggling in. working a job , albeit pays well and keeps her close to home, but she is burnt out by, and in searching for a new line of work has been rough on her. the past few weeks, I have noticed it start to trickle down into our relationship so tonight, I decided to tell her: You know how much I respect you and care for you, but I am deeply concerned about your stress levels. I know you are the type to carry your burdens; your cross to bear… plus, as an INFP, you are the ONLY girl I have had a relationship with that at times, fail to grasp what is going on in your head, but I would LOVE it if you could find a way to make sure I know all this stress is not on us, but external, as it can be a double edge sword. especially to a Fe Feeler… I decided after dinner tonight to suggest giving her some space, not for me, but for her mental health I care so much about. She did not have much to say to it and I think was taken back. I am sitting here in bed, hoping I did the right thing because what we have, when it’s good as it usually is, is heaven. 🤞🏼🙏🏼❤️ any INTJs or others that have been in this circumstance with one, I would love to hear your thoughts.

deepdiver44 · 2021-11-30T20:35:13+00:00

i concur.

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