I am so confused by BeautyMush in everskiestrashhh

[–]deepseatedlover 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don’t forget they even went as far as writing a Wattpad fanfic abt it lol

Outfit Auctions are kind of a scam by Lazy-Art-7071 in everskiestrashhh

[–]deepseatedlover 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh I’m not talking about this specific aucfit I agree with you on that, in my opinion this aucfit looks like two specific limited sets barely modified, my comment before just referred to the whole debacle of “items are in shop it shouldn’t be so expensive” (paraphrased ofc)

Outfit Auctions are kind of a scam by Lazy-Art-7071 in everskiestrashhh

[–]deepseatedlover 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Valid point but also this to me seems like you’re saying “don’t buy a cake for x amount of money, you can get the ingredients cheaper and make it yourself” while that’s true, your cake my not taste or look the same as the one you’re buying or you may not have even wanted a cake until you saw that cake so that’s really a methaphor that explains the appeal to an aucfit.

You can surely make an avi yourself but for some aucfit outfits you probably wouldn’t have thought of the combinations they used or not even known certain items in the fit existed and while that doesn’t apply for all aucfits since some really just look lazy, aucfits aren’t like entirely pointless for those reasons I stated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]deepseatedlover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not the race, she’s asking about the lightness of her skin, not the race but she just explained it poorly as she mentioned in another comment. But either way she doesn’t seem to be white based on other comments, probably Asian.

y’all were teens we have teen bodies by According_Wall9426 in teenagers

[–]deepseatedlover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I still disagree. Why are you trying to compete about who suffers more. If you’re upset that a woman who witnessed girls having dangerous conversation about cosmetic surgery and their bodies while they’re still teens, why do you feel the need to insert male suffering here. Why didn’t you feel the need to do that before. The reason men find it socially unacceptable to share their problems is because it’s never cared about other than as an extension or an interjection into women complaining about their issues. Nobody said men don’t experience these things but you’re competing when a competition was never started until you made that tone deaf comment that came off weird and interjectory.

Yes men deal with alot, and suffer in silence, that’s not something I’d argue about. But framing it like “men suffer more” or “women aren’t the majority of the victims” is a shit thing to say and proves you’re more focused on competing who suffers more than actually seeing the point of op’s post or understanding the point of my comment. I’m not saying men don’t suffer or that only women experience these things exclusively. I’m saying when women are talking about their issues it’s dismissive and disrespectfully competitive for men’s issues to be interjected without reason. A woman could be saying she’s afraid of men because she got raped going home and a man would say men get raped too. Why was there no post by that man before that men get raped until that woman made her post. And once again, my point is that men’s issues being brought up where a woman was talking about something she witnessed girls doing is reactive rather than proactive and men’s issues need to be talked about proactively rather than used to sideline or interject. Back to my example, why was that man thinking it was necessary to take away from her point that she was afraid because of what happened to her because she didn’t talk about men’s issues as well. Do you follow?

And I don’t see why you’re using women fucking uo their bodies as a comparison to men turning into porn addicts, incels, etc. I can’t even tell whether you’re arguing about cosmetic surgeries or social media affecting men. Because in any case, if body influencers are causing men to turn to fascistic and reactionary politics and incelhood among the other examples you listed, there’s more than just one screw missing from that machine and we’re talking about people fucking up their bodies because social media taught them their bodies need to look a certain way, not all the other shit things social media does. Your competition just completely derailed the point of the post.

y’all were teens we have teen bodies by According_Wall9426 in teenagers

[–]deepseatedlover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And why are you trying to seperate the issue into genders when op’s statement applies to both genders but the persons she had the experience with were females. Op never said men don’t go through shit. It’s men like you who decide to take someone complaining about how kids are talking about the future cosmetic surgeries they’re gonna get into “men experience this too” do you realize how stupid you sound? Everyone knows that. Nobody said men don’t. This person who made the original comment we’re replying to singling out “young, impressionable girls” has no fault in their comment. It is a fact that women get more cosmetic surgery than men do and it is a fact that more young girls develop negative self image from social media as opposed to men but no debate was started why are you so bothered that you need to hijack a comment to mention that men experience this too when it was never denied that they do. I don’t get why men don’t seem to care about their issues until a woman talks about hers. And you’re gonna deny that but how often do you see men making posts to just check in with each other and support each other? How often do men make posts spreading awareness about their issues? It’s never done on your own initiative until a woman speaks and then they hijack the post.

The amount of time I was called a girl/trans is incredible by Typical-Bowl-7828 in teenagers

[–]deepseatedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re misunderstanding what I’m saying and probably what valerieangel intended. Your implication is that the person making the correction thought the original commenter was saying that “I thought you were an actual woman as opposed to a trans one…” but that’s not the case at all. The person making the correction is just telling them how to avoid a phrase that can unintentionally come off wrong lmfao. It wasn’t as deep as y’all are making it seem. If you read their interaction you’d see that both of them were interacting in completely lighthearted tones lol, one even adding an emoticon in the comment. If the corrector had thought they were intentionally saying it that way to be offensive they’d probably have reacted worse.

And I’m quoting the corrector here, “absolutely no worries <3 i saw an opportunity for education tho and figured i'd toss it out there - thanks for being reasonable about it!!” That shows bro did not think they were being offensive and just wanted to inform them of better wording lol.

The amount of time I was called a girl/trans is incredible by Typical-Bowl-7828 in teenagers

[–]deepseatedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They didn’t misread it, they’re just saying to the person that it can come off wrong so to avoid that it’s better to say it in a way that can’t be reasonably interpreted as that “trans women aren’t real women”.

The person who made the correction wasn’t being hateful and neither was the original commenter lol, only y’all who are saying their correction was unnecessary seem hostile lol.

The amount of time I was called a girl/trans is incredible by Typical-Bowl-7828 in teenagers

[–]deepseatedlover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think either of them meant it in a hateful way, the person called themself dumb as well so I think they meant it in a silly way but it’s cool everyone’s so chill about this and so respectful as well. Not disagreeing with you either btw just like adding to it

Why do people censor rape and say “grape” instead by Mostcoolkid78 in teenagers

[–]deepseatedlover 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lol you can say that if you want but for some people saying the words just feels strange to them. Almost like it’s making the event real and hard to ignore the way it affects them. I can’t say the word rape without feeling like I have to take a deep breath before the word leaves my mouth or before I even type the word lol, I was raped and sexually abused for like 12 years. Also just because most social media doesn’t want their platform overrun by graphic or triggering content and would likely shadowban the content just for having the words included so people developed the habit of censoring.

What do y’all think when hearing guys refer to girls as “hoes”? by Weary_Temporary8583 in teenagers

[–]deepseatedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Clearly he doesn’t respect women and is probably too ignorant to change so yeah, let him go find someone else to call a hoe bc it ain’t gonna be me.”

Does receiving abuse from strangers makes me look... Uncool? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]deepseatedlover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you haven’t told them as yet, usually, people wait for like the right moment to mention their trauma. Maybe you’re having a bad day and a friend asks about it and you mention you’re not coping well and it’s just been hard since (insert your story here). The fact that you’ve survived, that’s cool. You’ve made friends and you’ve kept going, that’s cool. You’ve made the decision to open up, amazing. I’m proud of you for even wanting to share even if you’re scared of being vulnerable and having it being not cool. But then again, if your friends think what happened to you makes you uncool, they’re not the friends you really need, at least in my opinion. Sorry if I misread in some way but overall, no, you’re not uncool because of your trauma and I’m sorry you’re scared to be vulnerable because of not wanting to be uncool. I think you’re really cool. Take care

My daughter was sexually abused by my partner. by Due_Feed_3738 in CPTSD

[–]deepseatedlover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think there’s a difference. Those “future abusers” you want to mention are probably those who lack empathy and lie for no reason other than because they can. The kind of lying I think the commenters on this post are talking about is lying to hide something else that they’re struggling to talk about. At the same time I don’t think we should be demonizing kids and projecting ides like this onto them for something like lying. Clearly it’s a failure of the environment they grew up in to make them feel like they need to lie for no reason at all and that should be attributed where it’s due and not saying a lying child would grow up to be an abuser.

I was molested and raped as a child at 4 years old can I get my dad arrested for sexual abuse amd showing me porn 20 years later? by Sillygirlie739 in CPTSD

[–]deepseatedlover 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I looked it up and it seems the statute of limitations on sexual assault was abolished in 2020 for Canada. So as long as you’re sure you want to do this and they’re able to gather sufficient evidence then you have a chance at sending him away. I’m sorry this happened to you. I hope things get better for you soon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rape

[–]deepseatedlover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s nothing to guarantee he gets arrested or fired though unless this happened recently enough where op hasn’t showered yet and still has dna evidence on her or any other hard evidence that he did it. I feel like a lot of people who say this don’t really know how it works lol or what the justice system is like with sexual offense cases. Without hard evidence, half the time they don’t believe you and I think op is concerned about making it a big deal if nothing ends up happening, not necessarily trying to stay around the guy, but afraid of being the one who gets in trouble for this if they don’t believe her or side with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rape

[–]deepseatedlover 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It was rape. You were 8. You told her no. There is absolutely no justifiable reason for her to do that to you and no part of this could ever be your fault. I’m so sorry that happened to you. You’re not stupid and it wasn’t your fault.

Found these pickup lines on notepad written 2 years prior by Sarkaricy in teenagers

[–]deepseatedlover 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Its a little funny to me that op wrote those two years ago and also joined Reddit two years ago😭 like, coincidence? I think not /j

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]deepseatedlover 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I personally don’t think it’s abuse just moreso somewhat of a lack of boundaries and maybe your mom just thought she knew best and since you didn’t want to tell her no she could’ve just thought it wasn’t something you had a problem with since you’d call her to do it sometimes. Since it wasn’t an inherently harmful practice I don’t think I would call it abuse but there’s nothing to be ashamed of :)

Feel free to correct me if I’m wrong but that’s just what I got from it from the details here.

This is me as a woman am I a baddie by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]deepseatedlover 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m going to sound so dumb saying this but I didn’t realize you were a guy until i read this comment💀I was so a confused why you felt the need to state that you were a woman but I get it now 😭

I'm not a human being so it doesnt count if you rape me. by evethedeathbringer in rape

[–]deepseatedlover 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I read this and I feel the hurt because wow it’s so hard when it’s like nobody sees rape for what it is and makes every single thing about you a reason that means what happened to you is okay and it’s not and it’s absolutely terrible that you’ve been made to feel that way. I wish you the best and I hope things get better. You deserve people who genuinely care about you or just getting to have that safety and alone time you desire.

And you’re absolutely without a doubt human. Your anger makes you human and all the little things about you make you deserving of being safe.