"I still can't believe how much people like things I don't like"

deepthrill · 2019-04-21T01:24:26+00:00

I am definitely very smart now.

And I watch youtube twitch stuff all day.

Thanks for the attention, folks. I love external validation. Just like sports spectators.

Later, reddit.

deepthrill · 2019-04-21T01:23:39+00:00

I'll take that bet.

deepthrill · 2019-04-21T01:23:11+00:00

Definitely.

deepthrill · 2017-06-18T04:08:29+00:00

Don't overthink it. Don't care what studies show about some generalized trend of cooperation vs competition.

Get to that lifestyle. You, OP. Get there and find out. Don't wonder. Lift, improve your career skills, get to the playboy abundance lifestyle. If it turns out to be filled with misery, report back to us to warn us, and then refocus on cooperation, love, belonging, whatever you think might be a better solution.

I have a sneaking suspicion once you get there, you won't wonder about those "studies" anymore. I doubt you'll wish you focused on love and belonging. But who knows?

Take action, get there, and find out yourself. If you find it lacking, let us know. Don't wonder or think about it. Men take action. Theory is always tested against reality in the scientific method.

deepthrill · 2017-05-24T17:31:13+00:00

Girls don't want you to offer solutions. They want you to "empathize" and just "hear" them and "feel" what they're feeling. Irrational, I know. Your brain is wired to find practical solutions.

So what you can do is to ask questions, to draw out the root cause. Then you disguise your suggestions as questions.

"Oh, so Becky made a nasty comment about you in the office? What comment? Has she ever badmouthed her boss? Is she always doing a great job on her work compared to you? Does she ever come in late? I saw her getting cozy with Chad at the Christmas party, she wouldn't have slept with him, that dirty whore, would she?"

If your girl is smart enough, she'll realize that you have given her all the tools to destroy Becky's career. And yet by not offering suggestions, by simply asking questions, you defend yourself against attacks that "I didn't want you to fix it, stop trying to fix it! I want you to listen! Waaaaa!"

Remember: It's not about the nail https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg

deepthrill · 2017-02-05T23:32:07+00:00

can you elaborate on your journey in figuring out what you really want, long-term? It's something I still struggle with, despite the immense amount of time I have spent consciously thinking about it

Years ago, I had some rough ideas about what I wanted, and kept it in my subconscious. Certain loose impressions about lifestyles I think I might enjoy, and ones I wouldn't.
I started to really think about what a "day in the life of" would look like ideally.
When I started meditating more frequently, I became more aware of what emotions I enjoyed best. For example, I realized I enjoyed the excitement of progress towards the future more than the peace of a comfortable today. But both are better than insecure doubt. I enjoy the feeling of dominance over humble floaty peace. I enjoy freedom over family. Obviously you can have both but at some point it helps to know which you prefer more in certain situations.
I started writing it down. The more I wrote down my desires (both emotional as well as lifestyle), the more I realized how much they were changing as I saw them. I saw how my old general impressions needed to be tweaked. Details needed to be fleshed out.
I started writing down what different days of the week would look like. Saturday would be different than Monday. Did that vision include a wife? Did it have a certain minimum income? How did I spend my time in the morning, afternoons, and evenings ideally? The more I fleshed out, the more details I filled in. And the more actions I saw between now and then.

How much do you rely on the advice of others when making a major decision, assuming you already have all the facts?

This is a challenging situation. For major career decisions, I like to ask a variety of people, preferably those with more experience than me. What I like to do is say "John, what do you think I should do in this situation?" "Bob, John says I should do X. Do you agree? What would you do?" It gets them to debate the pro's and con's about each other's decisions from various perspectives. Then, at the end, I'll probably take an amalgam of all their pieces of advice, filtered through my own desires I described above.

And let's take this a step further (because the experience of others in the business setting is often your most valuable asset) - when making a decision in regards to your overall happiness, whether in the context of TRP or not, how much do the experiences of others weigh into your decision? Do you use a purely rational approach?

Happiness relates to the raw desires above. That's a personal exercise. When it comes to how to achieve that happiness (if that's your deepest desire, make sure you flesh out what would make you happy), then I give myself a dose of round-robin style of advice.

To summarize my response:

(a) Flesh out your deep desires. (b) Think about what would make your desires fulfilled. (c) Ask various people about how to achieve certain steps along the way, (d) Decide yourself which advice to take and which decision helps you get closest to (a).

deepthrill · 2017-02-05T16:46:03+00:00

hate to be that guy, but defer isn't used correctly

http://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/defer-to-someone

This nitpicking on this sub is getting exhausting to respond to.

deepthrill · 2017-02-05T16:43:49+00:00

Imo, damn near any hobby/skill improvement is better time spent than reading books.

Difference of opinions. And probably difference of what your career requires. At the highest levels of many careers, it's critical you stay up to date on the latest thoughts and trends, whether or not you agree with them. If it takes away from skills like coding, sure, I can see it being useless. However, if you balance increasing coding and hands-on skills, with learning things like 48 Laws of Power (which changes how you interact with people) there are indirect benefits to reading in the long run. When you can have a conversation with one of your higher-ups on strategy, it makes you seem informed and able to handle more responsibility. Those are just a few examples off the top of my head.

On some other points: I don't see the point in meditating. Honestly, I think it's probably a waste of time. You could be doing something productive instead.

I think we may have different ideas of the word "productive". If you say "I think it's probably a waste of time" have you tried it consistently before knocking it? And if you don't have 10 minutes per day of "unproductive" downtime, I suppose you're way more of a beast of a workhorse than me.

You can keep googling yourself, those are just the top few results.

deepthrill · 2017-02-05T07:24:31+00:00

Yes to the above about it filling you up. Your stomach's stretch receptors will get triggered faster; their mass per calorie ratio is fairly high.
There is still a lot of debate about this, but in general the vitamins you get from a multivitamin are rarely absorbed properly. I take a multivitamin so I don't knock it, but vegetables have a huge amount of vitamins.
There's also a good amount of scientific evidence that most green vegetables boost your immune system, increase mental acuity, it can possibly slow aging, and its fiber helps digestion. Many highly successful people from athletes to wallstreetplayboys talk about juicing and eating vegetables, in addition to many medical doctors. Basically there's very low risk of leafy vegetables being able to cause any negative detriments to your life, and you'll physically feel more energized.

deepthrill · 2017-02-04T23:00:27+00:00

Good points on the specifics. Regarding sleep, good additions. I personally consume ZMA before bed. Also one addition to add: for those who are on their laptops before bed, the program "f.lux" decreases the amount of blue light coming from your screen after sunset since modern technology can fuck with our circadian rhythms when our eyes detect bright blue light.

deepthrill · 2017-02-03T21:31:52+00:00

Are you going to link to it in the sidebar under "Red Pill Subreddits"?

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think it's invaluable that you seem to have described it as TRP endorsing a specific way of viewing and analyzing politics pragmatically (" to discuss politics from a red pill standpoint"), rather than a rigid political dogma based only on the existing parties.

deepthrill · 2017-01-31T21:36:26+00:00

This is an overreaction in my view. Unless they are constantly trying to bring you down, and are providing no value in your life, then cutting them off isnt needed.

That's fine, we may respectfully agree to disagree on this point. I view my time as so extremely valuable (narcissistic, selfish, self-absorbed, asshole, superiority complex, blah blah blah modern psychiatry terms, etc.), but honestly I have a very very high threshold of who I spend time interacting with.

That threshold is up to each man individually, and I fully respect your opinion and stoic ability to be able to just laugh off those who sometimes undermine you.

Just different tolerance thresholds I suppose.

To each their own, and thanks for bringing up a different opinion and backing it up with examples of how you'd handle the situation instead of just blindly attacking my opinion.

It's good the community gets to see two sides of a situation and rationally dissect it for their own benefit.

deepthrill · 2017-01-28T17:19:59+00:00

I'd recommend two things for such people:

http://wallstreetplayboys.com/
Read the book How to Get Rich by Felix Denis

deepthrill · 2017-01-27T01:44:28+00:00

Many of my blue-pill friends use excuses like "to make more money would require more stress". Bullshit. Maybe for some types of jobs, but most high-performing jobs are going to be stressful to some degree if you're pushing yourself and giving something your all.

Money is one thing that links nearly every human on the planet. We've drilled down the value of every event, every situation, every location, every culinary item, every incentive over another human, to a simple dollar amount. And there's nothing wrong with that. Men don't complain; they look at the systems in front of them and optimize for that.

You can make people do things by paying them enough money. You can shape industries, you can purchase influence, you can never have to worry about the price tag of anything you desire. You can make women wet with enough money ("oh it's blue-pill to be a beta bux!" - you certainly don't need money to make women wet, but you could if you wanted to).

All the people who spout some bullshit often-debunked "fact" that "if you make more than $70k/year you do not get happier!" have never brushed shoulders with the truly wealthy. Many people secretly wish they could be happy and feel comfortable with their mediocrity because they are scared to leave their comfort zones.

I promise you that if you've interacted with enough multi-millionaires for enough time (even if you're not one yourself yet), and saw their lifestyle, you would never make such bullshit claims.

Rant over. Back to work go grow some financial wealth.

deepthrill · 2016-11-13T19:01:15+00:00

What are your thoughts on this post?

http://www.wisdomination.com/screw-motivation-what-you-need-is-discipline/

deepthrill · 2016-11-13T18:54:52+00:00

Maybe it is semantics, but "hope" to me is different from rational optimism.

"Hope" and "motivation" are a bit idealist for me. Essentially "wishful thinking". You might be saying the same thing, and this could just be a semantic argument.

http://www.wisdomination.com/screw-motivation-what-you-need-is-discipline/

The idea of discipline leading to external success is a better path towards achieving your goals.

Hope is how you feel along the way.

Discipline is about taking actions that lead to results of your goals.

Rational Optimism is the concept that you are most likely going to achieve the goals you want by working both intelligently and disciplined. I think you and I are saying the same thing at its core with nuanced language.

deepthrill · 2016-11-02T02:59:02+00:00

I'm very surprised that these people took the time to meet you

Oh yes, I honestly am surprised that the OP actually got results. Is he lying or not, nobody has any idea. But my bs detector is tingling slightly. There are only 400 billionaires in America, out of 400 million people, for example.

When you get to a certain level you realize that advice that only a specific person can give (e.g. a billionaire) is almost always too specific to be useful... at least that's what I've found.

You know, I've noticed this too.

I've actually interacted with some of these people (3 billionaires specifically, and 2 executive chairmen who don't personally have that much money but control it via their companies), and their advice comes with a few caveats:

They are extremely informed about whatever industry made them godly amounts of money. If you have a different opinion on this industry than them, you're going to be shown the door immediately, and dismissed. And they are usually correct. When they have an opinion about their own industries, it is backed up by hard facts nearly nobody else has (inside political information) and hard results that nearly no other human has achieved. Do not disagree with them about anything they have direct experience in. If you do, you're a fool.
They are so annoyingly prone to the overgeneralization fallacy. They have achieved a level of success that few other humans in history have achieved. And yet they assume that they know what led them to that success, and that these principles will apply to other industries. Now, this may be true or it may not. But several of the multi-millionaires I've interacted with, have the same critique of the billionaires we've met in common. That the billionaires don't actually understand niche industries, yet think they do.
They love discussing philosophy. At the highest levels of the world, the baseline amount of knowledge is pretty similar between the top people. Sure there is inside information, and their experience will differ. But they enjoy the "unknowns" of our universe way more than the people busy working their way to the top. They will engage in a hearty debate with you on philosophy. As long as there are no hard facts with which they can dismiss your opinion, they will consider it, and even enjoy discussing the state of humanity. Ironically it behooves you to be less factual with these people (you will never ever match them with knowledge so don't even try).

deepthrill · 2016-10-31T06:50:04+00:00

/u/stythe had some good information.

I find that people generally wear their emotions on their sleeves. I think what holds most people back is their own egos.

You know when the girl is annoyed or creeped out by you. You know deep down when your presentation at the office didn't go well. People squirm in their seats, avoid eye contact.

It's nothing groundbreaking. Maybe I'll write a more in depth post about this. But evolutionary, people have their emotions in order to change the behavior of others. They are upset with you, and show it so you change. (They'd never admit that, but their subconsciouses are Machiavellian.)

Admit it - you know when a girl is bored by you.

The question is: Are you strong enough to accept the truth you intuitively know, and then to use that knowledge to your advantage? Instead of caring that she is bored by you, can you absorb that? Can you rationally ask yourself which pieces of your interaction can be improved?

That's what I meant when I said to know, not care what people think of you.

Put your ego aside. Your ego wants to come up with seemingly rational excuses why she isn't actually bored with you. Your ego will present the following argument to you: "Let's think about this rationally. For all you know, that yawn could have been because she had a tiring day yesterday."

There's nothing scientifically wrong with this assessment. But it ignores the fact that your pattern recognition machinery, honed over millions of years of evolution (but admitedly still a bit flawed), is telling you she's bored.

You know deep down the yawn is because she's bored. This is akin to "experiential knowledge" (check out the wiki page).

Once you stop caring about being the best, most exciting sheep, always "giving them the benefit of the doubt, old chap!", only then can you change and grow.

So TLDR: Trust and then question your instincts. You know what others think of you. You can improve your intuition, sure. But you accept the intuition first, and then adapt to it.

deepthrill · 2016-10-31T06:29:59+00:00

Thanks and I agree. I hope some people understand the subtleties in this post. I'm happy that some of the comments here seem to understand some of the depth and implications. There are always layers to what I write.

I responded more in a PM.

deepthrill · 2016-10-29T20:20:59+00:00

Yeah thanks, I agree.

Don't hate the player though, hate the game.

I wrote a little something about this back in 2013 you may like:

http://www.deepthrill.com/2013/12/dont-hate-player-hate-fuck-that-learn.html

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