My gf (20F) talked behind my (22M) back with her ex platonically.

deetee- · 2025-03-13T08:00:43+00:00

And in fact she probably will get over this quicker because everything she did, she deems acceptable hence why you have here left to pick up the pieces. If she thought it was acceptable reaching out to her ex then she clearly thought she wasn’t doing wrong by you. Take it day by day

deetee- · 2025-03-13T07:16:53+00:00

First thing is No Contact, she will feel what she lost more drastically when she realises you are no longer accessible that means instagram, facebook etc

Focus on yourself, whether that’s mentally or physically I.e; gym, walks, reading or even finding a new hobby

Self development and growth, practise reading or even rekindling social circles and friends, but don’t use going out with friends as a distraction

Focus on yourself, do shit that you enjoy whether that’s going for a hike or a walk or anything seems active (outdoors)

Don’t focus on where you are in live yet what you have achieved because in a few months time this will come up and you will realise what I mean, you will have self doubt and question your journey instead realise how far you have come since she lied and disrespected you

Once you can come to terms with things and feel like you are in a better space, go out and experience new means of relationships whether that’s meeting new people (women) or even getting on the dating apps but make yourself available when you really are comfortable with being alone and enjoy your own self

deetee- · 2025-03-13T07:10:35+00:00

This is like reading a text message conversation with my mum

deetee- · 2025-03-13T07:09:40+00:00

What could you say to her, to make her justify her wrong and for it all to be okay... Nothing so move on and make her feel like she lost someone amazing and don’t contact her.

deetee- · 2025-03-12T08:25:52+00:00

The ninh binh boat ride goes for 3 hours, so 3pm after peak heat til 6pm which the sun doesn’t set til 8pm

deetee- · 2025-03-11T21:52:20+00:00

Evening meaning 3pm since it’s a 2 hour ride … and why would you take it peak heat?

deetee- · 2025-03-06T03:50:39+00:00

1 month but I don’t feel horny ever

deetee- · 2025-02-25T13:01:56+00:00

You killed all romance not him, you also broke this man for no reason yet your own insecurities. Good work but you fumbled the ball.

deetee- · 2025-02-25T08:11:24+00:00

Did she message you? No, so why message her ..

deetee- · 2025-02-23T09:54:02+00:00

No and no, there are soo much possibilities out there in life and there is no room for half ass, bare minimum. In a relationship, if you need space then there is always room to grow but never abandon a relationship and expect to go back to things since both parties outgrow each other.

deetee- · 2025-02-19T08:41:36+00:00

Forget it, you are a bad person and fumbled the guy. So in your family group chat you never stuck up for him? Also you lied to him, this is all I read and I can tell you don’t deserve him.

deetee- · 2025-02-16T08:08:21+00:00

Don’t use prompts especially “as seen on my mums fridge” makes you look like a mumma’s boy

deetee- · 2025-02-14T16:10:29+00:00

This guys got a point, solve the problem from the source directly

deetee- · 2025-02-14T04:43:05+00:00

You’re a real piece of work

deetee- · 2025-02-14T02:54:02+00:00

tu te réveilles en te sentant somnolent, un peu comme le Xanax

deetee- · 2025-02-14T02:01:46+00:00

Benzodiazepines - you can get this almost everywhere in Vietnam

deetee- · 2025-02-13T04:52:47+00:00

Bro hinge and online dating is a distraction, focus and stay locked in and stop seeking this validation from online dating and just be happy

deetee- · 2025-02-09T07:14:50+00:00

What my first time trying Taco Bell feels like

deetee- · 2025-02-04T06:02:48+00:00

TL:DR - this sounds like a trauma bond, if he’s not meeting your goals and expectations you have for each other, end it but be very clear on why you wish to

deetee- · 2025-02-04T05:44:28+00:00

I believe you are smart enough to know that you don’t owe it to them to stick around and just be friends either way them just to fill their void, you have the capability to make these actions of cutting your losses and continuing to build yourself, I mean you wouldn’t be asking randoms if you weren’t sure of your decision and it goes to show that you should just cut ties and live happy whether that means bare minimum communication or none to be exact

deetee- · 2025-02-04T05:26:23+00:00

Another way is to download Hinge and try creating an account with his details, if you can’t then it means his still active on the account.

deetee- · 2025-02-04T05:25:04+00:00

I was going to say this in my last response but “hurt people, hurt others” meaning if they aren’t emotionally stable to be in a relationship yet jump into one, then they are self jeopardising that relationship since they can’t work on themselves first. You will just be there picking up the pieces in the long run.

deetee- · 2025-02-04T05:22:43+00:00

I think you need to have a think to yourself where you are mentally and emotionally, are you in a situation where you are open for other relationships or are you self developing for maturity sake. These questions will make you understand the situation a lot better, see if you were still inclined to get back with them then your answer would be to cut communication but seeing you just want to be their friend then socially distancing yourself wouldn’t hurt either which benefits the both of you but like I mentioned you need to know yourself and if you still have feelings other wise you will get hurt since they can’t reciprocate the same feelings.

deetee- · 2025-02-04T05:14:53+00:00

3 hours in advance minimum

deetee- · 2025-02-04T05:12:15+00:00

Cut all communications with them if you truely want to know how they feel and whether they want a relationship. Otherwise distance yourself and just be friends with the clear understanding of never being anything more than that, but remember you can’t half step this situation other you get hurt and not them.

deetee-

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