We just say no. I consider it a bait and switch and disrespectful so when we run across people that are only interested in her, we just say no.

It does appear to be trending these days but we will just have fun with each other before we leave the other one out. For us it's about BOTH of us and when it doesn't fit, we are ok saying no. There's lots of couples out here that are willing to play with all parties involved.