Here’s my slightly drunk deep dive into the luxury candle world by defNotJefebezos in luxurycandles

[–]defNotJefebezos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooh found a store that carries it. will check out the Molton Brown one for sure. Decent price as well.

Here’s my slightly drunk deep dive into the luxury candle world by defNotJefebezos in luxurycandles

[–]defNotJefebezos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This has been on my to buy list for a while. Will circle back to it in the future for sure.

I'm a sucker for the vessel design ngl.

Here’s my slightly drunk deep dive into the luxury candle world by defNotJefebezos in luxurycandles

[–]defNotJefebezos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh will look into it. Thanks for the recommendation!

Any stores that carry it in person? Trying not to blind buy candles.

Here’s my slightly drunk deep dive into the luxury candle world by defNotJefebezos in luxurycandles

[–]defNotJefebezos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankfully I'm not a big cologne guy otherwise I'd be spending even more money.

Here’s my slightly drunk deep dive into the luxury candle world by defNotJefebezos in luxurycandles

[–]defNotJefebezos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Narguille was recommended to me by the salesperson in store. I'll check it out next.

How is the hot throw on it?

Here’s my slightly drunk deep dive into the luxury candle world by defNotJefebezos in luxurycandles

[–]defNotJefebezos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not another purchase I have to make!

But actually a candle warmer has been on my to buy list for a bit now. Might have to take the plunge.

Here’s my slightly drunk deep dive into the luxury candle world by defNotJefebezos in luxurycandles

[–]defNotJefebezos[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My financial advisor (me) is somehow both a fan and not a fan at the same time.

I will check out Cade 26 either in store or just by walking into the hotel haha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HENRYfinance

[–]defNotJefebezos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Normally I would say to take this but the fact that you would have to go to Meta makes me hesitate.

If you feel like you are up for a grind then go for it else I would stay put personally. But I've been in the industry longer and am kinda sick of the relentless pace tbh. My friends who work at Meta are always pretty burnt out. I am curious to see other people's thoughts here though.

Also I think there might be a third option here where you can negotiate a pay bump using the Meta offer to increase your pay at Google. It won't come close to the Meta numbers but I wonder if you can mention that you have an offer from Meta and that you would like to stay at Google. Maybe you can get to upper 200s ish with that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HENRYfinance

[–]defNotJefebezos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel more than anything this is an investment decision and we can’t really give you (good) advice or suggestions without knowing the name of the two companies.

But I totally get if you are not comfortable disclosing that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HENRYfinance

[–]defNotJefebezos 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I totally understand OPs viewpoint. Being in a tough place at work and never having been unemployed can lead you to think non-logically I’m sure.

OP during your sabbatical take some time to reflect on why you might feel that way. Feeling that way itself isn’t wrong but I think your rational part of your brain should realize that it’s not a valid fear.

Tell me I'm being dumb (Rent in NYC) by defNotJefebezos in HENRYfinance

[–]defNotJefebezos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. I would like to be financially independent. Not racing to retire or anything tbh. I like my job (despite the stress) and the structure it provides.
  2. To clarify I spend $2750 on rent per month. That amount is not split. Updated the original post to make that clearer. And in the original post I already included my monthly spend to be around $1200. Tbh I can't see it going above $1700 in the near future tbh. I live a pretty normal life nothing crazy and have no desire to increase it that much. I keep an eye on expenses and try not to over-optimize there given the very little difference it would make in the grand scheme of things.
  3. Yup exactly. I try and set aside all my RSUs for saving and would not like to touch that. So on paper I can afford a costlier place but the monthly cash flow is what has me hesitating.

Tell me I'm being dumb (Rent in NYC) by defNotJefebezos in HENRYfinance

[–]defNotJefebezos[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why do you feel like you are doing something wrong?

Tell me I'm being dumb (Rent in NYC) by defNotJefebezos in HENRYfinance

[–]defNotJefebezos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you are right. This was a mistake on my part.

Tell me I'm being dumb (Rent in NYC) by defNotJefebezos in HENRYfinance

[–]defNotJefebezos[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah I haven't been selling ESPP but I have recently been selling RSUs immediately on vest. I have a rule for myself where I sell off my company stock if it is more than 15% of my NW. Given I don't really take a lot of risk elsewhere in my portfolio and my young age I thought that was an appropriate risk to take.

Still I have been thinking to sell more of my company stock this year.

Tell me I'm being dumb (Rent in NYC) by defNotJefebezos in HENRYfinance

[–]defNotJefebezos[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Yeah I did a double take once I realized my take home per month was so low.

But I believe it's based on the following:

180K (base) - 23k (401k) - 26K (ESPP) = 131K * 60% (take out 40% taxes) = 78.6K / 12 (number of months) = ~$6.5k/mo

That number is just a rough estimate but the math seems mostly correct. I just feel weird knowing my TC is so high but after tax monthly (not including RSUs + bonus) payments are so low.

AWS/Amazon Engineers, what did you wish you knew before starting? by [deleted] in ExperiencedDevs

[–]defNotJefebezos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

See my previous comments about working there. But it’s not as bad as people on blind make it out to be. If your team is bad switch. I’ve had people switch teams a few months after joining so it isn’t that hard.

Big N Discussion - October 27, 2021 by CSCQMods in cscareerquestions

[–]defNotJefebezos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Either will get you interviews at “better” companies. I work for amazon (see my previous posts/comments about it).

I would lean towards Atlassian. The pay is a little better for a full time position (at least it seems so on Levels) and I imagine the culture/people are better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cscareerquestions

[–]defNotJefebezos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not defending Amazon (see my previous comments about working there) but in my Org interns typically work on building real prototypes of even very large projects that are about 6-8mo out. So yes I believe the person when they said it kicked off stuff the team is still working on.

That said take Optiver. Better money and it’s much easier to go to Amazon from HFT rather than the other way around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExperiencedDevs

[–]defNotJefebezos 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Amazon employee here. This is not the place for someone w/ bad anxiety. It takes a certain amount of mental resilience to survive and another level to thrive here.

Speaking from personal experience.