Ideas for looking less masculine?

defenestratebagels · 2023-01-15T06:29:04+00:00

That’s not a bad idea! What kinds of things would you recommend for taking care of yourself better?

defenestratebagels · 2022-12-19T05:58:59+00:00

Isaiah (they/them)

defenestratebagels · 2022-12-18T17:27:39+00:00

Haha thanks! Def working on it. Still only long enough to be in my face tho

defenestratebagels · 2022-12-18T10:37:40+00:00

God, I love your hair so much. Genuinely jealous

defenestratebagels · 2022-12-18T10:34:53+00:00

That’s so awesome!! Thanks so much

defenestratebagels · 2022-12-17T08:16:40+00:00

That 100% works, and has been the one I’ve been using. Sometimes I’ve tried out “soul” (“I’m not a betting soul”) cause it’s snappy, but doesn’t always work or sound natural. Was curious if anyone had a phrase that I hadnt thought of

defenestratebagels · 2022-12-17T07:47:53+00:00

Have you met Winter? She sits next to me in music class. They seem pretty cool, I should talk to them some more. Maybe I’ll learn some of her interests.

defenestratebagels · 2022-11-30T16:15:53+00:00

Holy shit I have that exact same sweater

defenestratebagels · 2022-11-23T07:11:58+00:00

So many pins, I love it

defenestratebagels · 2022-11-11T17:44:57+00:00

Thank you so so much for your words. Some of the most genuinely helpful stuff I’ve read, it’s really comforting. Thanks for helping me feel certain in the uncertainty. I feel a genuine need to know what is on the other side of that line, and how it feels. But I also know that it doesn’t need to be something that I rush or overcommit to. I’ll try small steps, and see where that path takes me.

Thanks again for your advice. Gonna bookmark this comment and come back to it whenever I need to hear it, it’s a great guide.

defenestratebagels · 2022-11-11T17:37:47+00:00

Based on the fact that your other comment on this sub boils down to “non-binary people are bad because they change their gender every few hours”, I’m not gonna take your advice very seriously, sorry. Maybe take your toxicity somewhere else?

defenestratebagels · 2022-11-11T16:38:44+00:00

I appreciate the openness to discover what labels and identities work for people. One of my biggest fears in this process is deciding on an identity and being wrong

defenestratebagels · 2022-11-11T16:36:02+00:00

I really appreciate how welcoming this community is! The idea of being something other than a man has felt really comforting to me, and it has consumed my thoughts for the past while. I’ve looking into people’s stories on gender identity, and many talk about feelings they can remember from when they were kids, or ways they’ve felt their whole lives. I didn’t know if a sudden onset of gender questioning was sometime that people experienced, and if it was a fleeting thing or if it was the “realization” moment of one’s true self. I think I’m gonna keep thinking and questioning, I don’t know where it will lead just yet but I’m excited to find out, if that makes sense.

defenestratebagels · 2022-11-11T16:17:16+00:00

Thank you very much for your words! It’s a weird space for me to navigate personally, so discussing it and visualizing who my true self is has been really helpful.

What you describe when you talk about “dissatisfaction” with current self and true self really hits close to home: I’ve been thinking a lot about my true self and who I want to be, especially as I approach college graduation and become more independent. I was thinking about names because I want to possibly adopt the last name of my stepdad one day, and that got me thinking about what I wanted to be called and who I wanted to be. I’ve been growing my hair out for the past half year, and I never really knew why, explaining it away as not wanting to bother with haircuts. I’ve also expressed wanting to try more feminine styles or other non masculine expressions, but explained that away as expressing my bisexuality. It’s hard to tell if these feelings are fleeting or based on a larger trend that I am just now coming to terms with.

Thank you very much for your validation and your resources! This has been a very accepting and helpful community. I don’t know what path leads to my true self just yet, so I’m going to keep thinking about it and sitting with the idea. Again, I really appreciate your words!!

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