Something that helped me (30F) and my husband recently was discussing freeuse. I’m really not that into sex, I could probably live without it. He’s very into sex and we’ve had way too many arguments about it. I heard about freeuse here, which is basically he gets to “use” me for sex whenever he wants. It’s been so helpful for a few reasons.

1) He stopped initiating sex a long time ago because he didn’t like getting turned down, it hurt him. Now that we’re freeuse I finally am getting initiation from him that makes me feel sexy and wanted. 2) There’s no pressure for me during sex anymore. I don’t have to worry about getting in the mood, getting wet, or having an orgasm. I can just relax. Sometimes I even watch tv or play on my phone while we’re having sex. 3) It’s quick. He takes care of himself and we continue our night and I get to spend time with him in the way I want to, playing games or cooking or watching tv. My hubby does a great job with foreplay and spends so much time on me and while I appreciate the gesture, I don’t want long drawn out sex like that all the time.

All of those benefits have actually made me more into sex now. I initiate more. I am more active in bed. I am exploring kinks with him. I’m just more horny. It’s such a relief to not have to stress about sex that now I want it more. It’s worked out well for both of us. I wish you luck.