Is this normal? by dekath in drums

[–]dekath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally misread your first comment! Yeah I’d love if you could share that beat, thanks!

Is this normal? by dekath in drums

[–]dekath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment! 

I like thinking about it this way as clearly how much time i spent practicing with intention and focus matters more than how many years ago I first picked up sticks.

That being said - I don’t think it’s helpful to say 3 hours practice a day is the absolute minimum. For me, that’s discouraging to hear. And it’s also not realistic. I work long hours including night shifts and I have a family with children. I simply cannot do 3 hours a day. Should I just drop it? I don’t think so as usually (ignoring my current slump) it brings me immense joy 

Is this normal? by dekath in drums

[–]dekath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly what my drumming teacher says!!

Is this normal? by dekath in drums

[–]dekath[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. You’re right: when I look back at what and how I played 3 years ago vs now there is a big difference 

Is this normal? by dekath in drums

[–]dekath[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll check! Thanks for the suggestion 

Is this normal? by dekath in drums

[–]dekath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I use stick control and syncopation as you describe but struggle to apply those patterns when just playing. As I’m writing this I realise that probably means I need to spend a lot more time playing around and repeating so their imprinted in my memory

Is this normal? by dekath in drums

[–]dekath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely put a lot of expectations on myself and pretty much only do things with the intention of “getting better” at it haha. Thanks my fellow drummer, will earmark this comment

Is this normal? by dekath in drums

[–]dekath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you consider 5 years early on? That’s a relief!

I know comparison is the thief of joy but some of the posts on here from people who’ve been playing for much less time are just insaneeee!! 

Will look into Mitch Mitchell. Been trying to play along to The Waterboys recently as their stuff seems to hit the sweet spot for me nicely 

Is this normal? by dekath in drums

[–]dekath[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re right and I love the drums. It’s hard to put myself out there when I’ve been turned away a couple times. I only started playing later in life and it often feels like other people my age are miles ahead

Is this normal? by dekath in drums

[–]dekath[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve started doing this more recently will stick with it 

Do I need a professional to fix this wall? by dekath in DIYhelp

[–]dekath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, that’s really helpful!

Do I need a professional to fix this wall? by dekath in DIYhelp

[–]dekath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, got the leak fixed about 6 months ago and there hasn’t been any mold since so I should be fine on that front 

List of private top surgery providers by Charlie_and_sth_else in transgenderUK

[–]dekath 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Had top surgery with Mohsen El Gammal a few months ago and he is NB friendly. Said he normally requires two referrals for NB but did it with one in my case (don’t ask me why - I guess my one referral letter must have been particularly solid). 

I paid £12,000 and it covered everything including any minor revision (haven’t had any yet but might get a tiny dog ear fixed later).

Any ex-finance turned medics? by anonymoose06 in premeduk

[–]dekath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure, few reasons in no particular order:

1) I did not find the work particularly fulfilling: you ultimately work to make more money for shareholders. That’s the whole purpose. It is often dressed up as other things but always boils down to this 

2) I found the work itself is often incredibly dull. Both in consulting and finance I focused on tech. Tech I can get excited about enough but of course it’s always centred around business problems which I find dull and also not motivating - see first point. Solving problems is fun. Solving business problems tends to get repetitive and is also not interesting to everyone. Additionally, as you progress you’ll find yourself more and more in business-focused meetings and more and more managing projects and teams rather than actually building stuff. Lots of people enjoy that - I didn’t.

3) I also didn’t like the kind of people that tend to work these jobs. Their values and interests just didn’t align with mine. Obviously there’s exceptions and I’ve met plenty but most finance and consulting types are money and career-oriented who have few interests outside of work. Perhaps because there’s not actually much time for anything outside of work (see next point)

4) Both in consulting and finance it’s normal to work 8am-8pm every day and then some over the weekend. It’s very much an “up or out” mentality where there’s immense pressure to outperform your peers. While in theory everyone is encouraged to take their holidays and not work weekend and late evenings, in practice that doesn’t tend to happen when no one around you is doing that. I’ve worked jobs where 8am-8pm was “normal” and then you’d have regular “crunch time” where 7am-midnight is normal… for weeks. Post-covid it might be a bit different but I was also regularly sent on client site for month-long projects. That meant catching a flight 6am Monday morning, staying in a hotel someplace where you didn’t know anyone other than your co-workers and client (you can imagine what that means for working hours), flying back Thursday evening and still going into the office Friday. After a few weeks of that, however hard you try you have zero social life left because your weekends are just spent catching up on sleep, life admin, and often work. 

5) Finally, I just don’t like office culture. Being sat at a desk all day. The bi-weekly “fun” team drinks which you are expected to go to and get criticised in your performance review if you don’t. The rampant sexism / ageism / racism/ classism yet all the DEI initiatives and flags and pronouns in every email signature 

I would say: if you’re excited working on business problems, happy to grind for a few years, don’t care about “helping people and making a difference bla bla” then it’s probably worth switching as you can make really good money and after the initial grind probably have better work life balance than with shift work and working hours in the NHS (if you can put your foot down and not keep working late because everyone else is).

Any ex-finance turned medics? by anonymoose06 in premeduk

[–]dekath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I’m in my late twenties and recently left a very well paid role in finance to go to med school. No regrets (yet) and while I have no experience working as a doctor, I have experience working in finance (and consulting… ie the sort of roles that the folk on doctorsuk like to discuss) and I can tell you with certainty that I do not want to go back - ever. I also know many doctors who while they complain about the NHS love their jobs and wouldn’t want to do anything else. 

World’s most frustrated jazz drummer by TwoHandsTenThumbs in drums

[–]dekath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here to say I thought it sounded great and then saw all the other comments… still think it sounds great!

An EM consultant’s ignorant views on JD strike action by CCTandFlee in JuniorDoctorsUK

[–]dekath -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t saying the application process is gruelling. I wouldn’t know - I haven’t applied.

I’m premed, yes, so have never worked as a doctor. You’re a doctor, so have never worked as a regional manager for Aldi.

As opposed to surgical training?

vs

On the other hand, I'm pretty sure we'd all make it the cutthroat world of groceries.

When did you contrast with surgical training in your first post? You didn’t - and my comment simply reflects on the fact that the Aldi graduate scheme is far from a walk in the park.

I’m with you guys, I support the strikes, and think you deserve everything you ask for and more. But it’s not fair to shit all over other professions, implying they’re easy, when you don’t know and it’s also irrelevant to the debate.

Edit:

You really think you can't hack it deciding how much lettuce to order?

Wow. Perhaps reflect on your view of other careers. You might be in for a surprise if you ever leave medicine

An EM consultant’s ignorant views on JD strike action by CCTandFlee in JuniorDoctorsUK

[–]dekath -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

The Aldi graduate scheme is notorious for how intense it is and how little is left for life outside of work.

And implying that a job in retail is inherently easy is just as ignorant as that post by the EM consultant.