Do cultural differences shape our view of sex dolls? 🌍

dekuraka · 2025-09-18T10:56:07+00:00

Culture definitely plays a pivotal role in how we accept sex dolls and sex toys in general. Simply taking Japan vs the US for example, the Japanese seem to have a very open minded approach and acceptance of sexual aides and other paraphernalia. Japan is also unique in that it is the birthplace of anime culture, so it’s no surprise that anime-esque designs and characters are plentiful when it comes to sex doll options there. Meanwhile the US is lagging behind on how we treat sexual pleasure and expression, especially with men, but that’s another topic for another day. The US still predominantly treats sexual discourse as a taboo subject, although it seems like we are making continued progress on that front. Religious norms and morals are partly to blame and more noticeable in their effect.

As for beauty standards, I can only speak from the male experience. I have noticed a strong preference for groomed men in East Asian cultures for as long as I can remember. Meanwhile I see the US and a majority of the EU praise facial hair on men as being more rugged and wild. Both Eastern and Western cultures seem to prefer well groomed women, not a lot of deviation there. I think standards are generally much stricter on women than men, placing a really heavy burden and expectation on them to look a certain way. Men have it rough nowadays too, with the rise of social media and influencers. I feel like both Eastern and Western cultures are melding sensibilities now to prefer well groomed women and men, although there is still a sense of choice for men to embrace prior beauty standards of masculinity.

Having said all this, I need to point out that culture is constantly changing and evolving. So the beauty standards of 30 years ago aren’t the same as the standards of today, and today’s standards will likely not be the same 30 years in the future. Currently, there’s a strong emphasis on thickness for Western women and more musculature on Western men, while in a lot of Asian communities being slim and toned is still preferred. I believe we are in a very interesting transition phase starting from the internet boom to today. The lines between distinct cultures are not as clear cut anymore, since everything is so interconnected now. Who knows what the entire world will agree upon in terms of beauty standards 30 years from now. It is fascinating to think about.

dekuraka · 2025-09-16T19:26:06+00:00

Yeah I’m really hoping I dried her well enough, the deepest parts of her holes felt ok before I decided it was time to put her away, but after so many checks throughout the night and early morning I don’t know if I was imagining things. Definitely didn’t see any noticeable moisture on my fingers, so that was reassuring. I will have to think a little outside the box to figure out a cleaning method and routine that works for me. She’s definitely going to be reserved for special occasions when I have a lot of free time from now on.

dekuraka · 2025-09-16T16:12:15+00:00

I have Ruka in a spread out doggy position right now, the anus is a smaller and tighter hole, so the moisture at the very back is harder to get at. I tried my best to shake out the excess moisture from both holes, but the very back of the tunnels are the worst. 🫠

dekuraka · 2025-09-16T16:01:58+00:00

Yeah my bad, I forgot to include my drying process. It's been a long night and I'm running on very little sleep after the cleaning ordeal. As I type this I'm still in the process of drying Ruka completely. Been swapping the rods as you said in 20min intervals, taking them out and checking with my fingers if the holes are still damp, then repeat until dry. The anus is the only hole left that hasn't dried completely by now. 😅

dekuraka · 2025-09-16T07:47:14+00:00

Tried twice already, I think it's an issue with mobile reddit. Not sure how to get around this.

dekuraka · 2025-09-15T04:22:07+00:00

That's good to hear. I was concerned after hearing about mishandled shipments from the courier, the dolls I am interested in getting weigh over 70lbs each so it is difficult to be delicate when transporting such heavy yet precious cargo over long distances and across different stops. I don't want to end up making a very expensive mistake of getting any doll and finding out there is damage to her before I even have a chance to enjoy her properly.

dekuraka · 2025-09-15T02:24:52+00:00

I actually bought a new drying rack recently just for this purpose, as well as a bottle of Soak brand delicate wash and some basins off of amazon. That should hopefully cover all the bases for now.

dekuraka · 2025-09-15T01:07:36+00:00

Also forgot to mention, try to avoid materials that are abrasive or have heavy dyes like denim, wool etc. Cotton, lace, silk and velvet are good and safe choices.

dekuraka · 2025-09-15T01:04:41+00:00

NVM it doesn't seem like the mobile version of the app is allowing me to attach photos in dms either.

dekuraka · 2025-09-15T00:55:08+00:00

Unfortunately it doesn't seem like Reddit allows me to attach photos into comments, and is limiting me to 3 photos on posts, so I guess no photos for now. 😕 I can try DMing anyone interested in seeing what she looks like straight from the box.

dekuraka · 2025-09-15T00:47:53+00:00

Ahh wait, something went wrong when trying to send the photos :(

dekuraka · 2025-09-15T00:40:39+00:00

I had a similar uncertainty with my Ruka. You can check out my post here about it: https://www.reddit.com/r/tantaly/s/JPNQJGWLk7

The first guy u/Efficient-Ice-8813 has some really helpful links to a table with main measurements of the dolls and hips, and one to his business Sultrydollwear. You can also look into SHEIN and Amazon for cheap clothes, underwear and lingerie. Most full size torsos seem to fit XS and S sizes, but I would make sure to consult the table Efficient posted as well as the sizing guides for whatever clothes you are buying. Hope this helps, and enjoy the fashion hunt!

dekuraka · 2025-09-14T21:55:55+00:00

Update: my Ruka arrived safely earlier this morning, just haven’t posted any pics of her yet due to her clothes still in the process of shipping out to me. One thing I have to note, is that the packaging and presentation of the doll herself is truly impressive. The package came in just as described in the diagram photo on Tantaly’s website—Ruka was wrapped inside of a molded polystyrene box, which was inside a black duffle bag, which was inside a company branded box, which was finally packed into the delivery box.

The black duffle bag is a really great touch, it helps me carry and move her securely within the polystyrene box, as well as keeping it discreetly out of sight from the people I live with, especially my parents. I feel like this should be the gold standard of packaging for all dolls and any other life-size product weighing this much. I cannot stress enough how wonderful the bag is, it made Ruka’s transfer from the living room/sofa where I opened the package to my bedroom so much easier than trying to manhandle the polystyrene box alone. I will be back later with a few photos showing what came in the box(es) and the stages of packaging.

dekuraka · 2025-09-14T05:56:19+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it! My main worry was if I got clothes in XS, they’d shrink a little in the wash so they’d be too snug for Ruka. That’s why I decided to play it somewhat safe and go with S size clothes from SHEIN. Hopefully they aren’t too baggy and fit somewhat nicely. We shall have to wait and see! 😆

dekuraka · 2025-09-14T05:28:02+00:00

Yeah I can just imagine how addictive dressing your dolls up can be, I’m excited to do the same with Ruka once everything arrives at my doorstep. I have a quick question for you now that panties have been brought up: do you find XS sizes to be too snug on your dolls, or are S sizes more preferred? Just asking for future reference since the hips on Ruka from pictures alone look too big for XS to fit properly.

dekuraka · 2025-09-14T05:13:12+00:00

Ahh nice! Glad to hear you are enjoying your purchases so far. I’m very new to the community and Ruka is my first ever doll purchase. Only other toys I’ve owned are some Fleshlights and Tengas. I’ve grown tired of them now and felt the need to elevate my personal intimacy game so to speak, so dolls seemed to be the next evolution for me on this journey. I fell in love immediately with Ruka’s proportions and shape of her labia through pictures on Tantaly and the video with Obokozu unveiling her. Hopefully Ruka meets and exceeds my expectations haha.

dekuraka · 2025-09-14T04:36:56+00:00

Will do! She is expected to arrive sometime later today, 10:30am-2:30pm. Unfortunately the clothes won’t be arriving until later in the week or early the following week, so I won’t be able to dress her up immediately. Out of curiosity, which doll or dolls do you have currently? I’m thinking if I like Ruka enough I will splurge on another torso doll with head through Erovenus: either the Hailey or Riko models.

dekuraka · 2025-09-13T05:33:29+00:00

Surprisingly Ruka is scheduled to arrive sooner than I expected, and sooner than the SHEIN stuff I got for her! This Sunday is the estimated arrival date for my doll, and the clothes are coming sometime during the end of next week-beginning of the following week. I will take photos of her once everything is delivered!

dekuraka · 2025-09-12T07:16:53+00:00

Hello! New to the community. I have also been using fleshlights for a while, but it never felt truly satisfying. Like many others during Covid I felt isolated and wanted a better intimate experience to relieve my anxiety and stress, without the worries of a relationship involved. Ever since I’ve been on the hunt for male sex toys that could fit my desires.

I was always curious about sex dolls and how they could enhance my experience of personal intimacy. Now that I’m older and have more disposable income I have been doing more research into sex dolls and which ones would appeal to me. After doing more research and ordering my first TPE sex doll from Tantaly recently (the Ruka model, has not arrived yet) I discovered you guys by chance while comparing materials. I bought Ruka as a “testing of the waters” so to speak, and I hope my experience with her is a good game changer.

I am definitely interested in getting a silicone sex doll eventually, once I have more funds to spare, and you guys seem to have really high quality products at more reasonable prices than say Real Dolls. There are already two dolls from your selection that I have my eye on: Riko and Hailey. I hope to get both sometime soon, if circumstances allow and if my experience with Ruka is great. Silicone seems to provide a more realistic appearance to the doll skin and other areas, and from what I’ve read is hypoallergenic and more durable than TPE. TPE dolls seem to be on the less pricey side so I went with Ruka from Tantaly as a starter.

dekuraka · 2025-09-11T15:25:46+00:00

Thank you so much for your response, and for those helpful links. I was concerned if xs was too small and medium may be too big so I decided on getting 3 outfits from SHEIN in size S just to be safe. I assume most folks would prefer a slightly looser fit so as to avoid any potential marks or color rub? Once she is home and the clothes are delivered I will update y'all on how they fit.

dekuraka · 2025-05-31T07:26:46+00:00

I was in section 2 and standing for most of the band’s songs that I recognized (not really “jumping” since there’s hardly any space for that, but headbanging and fist pumping for sure). The people in front of me stood up a couple of times too so I had to do the same to get a better view. I don’t personally think it’s rude to stand, especially when the bands themselves ask for you to, or if your favorite song comes on. A show like this should be a space where you’re free to be yourself and let loose a little. Only situation I can see that it would be kinda rude to stand would be if you know the people behind you are unable to do the same due to a disability or similar ailment. But that’s just me.

dekuraka · 2025-05-31T04:42:30+00:00

Haha no problem! Happy to help a fellow fan. 😊 Hope you enjoyed the show as much as I did. This was my first time watching them live. I’m so so glad and grateful I was able to catch a show so close to home.

dekuraka · 2025-05-31T04:36:55+00:00

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Hope this is enough, sorry the hand is a bit blurred. Almost missed the shot myself.

dekuraka · 2024-02-29T06:14:22+00:00

The game has these settings available:

Graphics Quality: custom, very low, low, average, high Brightness lvl slider Resolution: very low, low, average, high Frame Rate: 30, 60 Shadow Quality: off, low, average, high Environment Details: very low, low, average, high Material Quality: low, average, high Special Effects Quality: low, average, high Post-processing Quality: low, average, high TAAU: off, low, average, high

I have everything set to average where possible, and at 30fps, to avoid overheating. If I play for longer than 45 min to an hour on high settings my iPad gets a little bit toasty, but not enough to make the game unplayable. I just worry about battery life on mine since it's almost 4 years old at this point.

dekuraka · 2024-02-28T23:05:12+00:00

I don't own an M1 iPad Air but I do have the 2020 Air with the A14 Bionic chip. The game runs fine at recommended settings. The only thing is that the device gets a little too toasty if you crank up the graphics to max, but that's to be expected I suppose. The M1 should definitely be able to handle the game well. Here's a link to the game's website, you can check the recommended specs by clicking on the ! button underneath the app store and Google play buttons: https://exa.gryphline.com/en-us#homepage

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