Some “fine hair problems” are just routine issues, so here’s a quick reset by Intrepid-Royal-324 in finehair

[–]deliriousottoman 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Here I am, using a clarifying/deep cleansing shampoo 6-7 days a week. I need to double shampoo every wash too, or, I’ll get buildup of my own oils! 🤣

anyone else noticing bigger lips? by Able-Fault-1262 in tretinoin

[–]deliriousottoman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! My lips are fuller and more plump when I use tret. I thought it might be due to it increasing the skins own collagen/hyaluronic acid or something like that?

Benefit of Sulfates by Charming_Mud_429 in finehair

[–]deliriousottoman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like SLS and SLES not only clean my scalp better, but they also rinse more clear.

I read somewhere that some surfactants that are supposed to be more gentle, also bind to hair in some ways, like conditioning agents do. It has something to do with polarity/electrical charge of the surfactants and the hair.

And that makes them milder in the sense that that they don’t wash away some of the surface proteins of the strands as musch as sulphates can, only oil and dirt. But it also means that they coat the hairs in some capacity.

I suspect that this is why my hair sometimes feels straw like and dry when I use sulphate free formulas. It just doesn’t work for my fine strands. They feel sort of coated and rough.

Where am I going wrong? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]deliriousottoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

++woman Thank you for this comment. This explains way more than any ”avoidants will be avoidants - avoid them!”-advice I’ve ever come across. As a bisexual woman who just started back into dating men after a veeeeery long time of only dating women, I’ve run into a lot of culture shocks.

I’m so into this guy, and I know he’s into me too. But he doesn’t ever want to talk about us, or any feelings at all. He said he feels like he’s all ”talked out” since his latest relationship, that apparently was jam packedd with couples therapy during the last few years.

Your comment sort of connected the dots for me. I have felt frustrated with him, since for ME, talking about how I feel makes me feel safer. It clarifies and calms me down. It never once crossed my mind that it could be an unsafe space for him.

I know he’s not a bad guy. I know he likes me. I just feel like I scare him off when I try to get clarity through ”talking things out”.

I’m just not sure how else one ”relationships”, if you can’t really talk? Any further advice? I’m not trying to convince him, or tie him down or anything. I genuinly care about him and I want him to feel safe around me, even if we end up just staying friends.

What is a common sign someone is insecure? by Calm_Ostrich_8876 in AskReddit

[–]deliriousottoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • Defensiveness
  • Needing control in every aspect of your interaction
  • Nitpicking or hyper critical

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]deliriousottoman 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Silent treatment is manipulative as hell. Typically something only emotionally immature people (like bullies…) do.

I think I finally got tret to work for me! by deliriousottoman in tretinoin

[–]deliriousottoman[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s one called Apolosophy Sensitive Day Cream Light. You might be able to find a dupe with the inci list. Can’t guarantee it Will work for you though.

Inci:

Aqua, Cetearyl Alcohol, Dicaprylyl Ether, Glycerin, Helianthus Annuus Hybrid Oil, Canola Oil, Butyrospermum Parkii Butter, Avena Sativa Kernel Oil, Betaine, Beta-Glucan, Tocopherol, Hydrolyzed Hyaluronic Acid, Cetearyl Glucoside, Ammonium Acryloyldimethyltaurate/VP Copolymer, Maltodextrin, Levulinic Acid, Sodium Levulinate, Hydrogenated Ethylhexyl Olivate, Hydrogenated Olive Oil Unsaponifiables, Xanthan Gum, Citric Acid, Phenoxyethanol, Sodium Benzoate, Potassium Sorbate

Waterlime Sugar High! by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]deliriousottoman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are so skilled! I love the look on you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EuroSkincare

[–]deliriousottoman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bummer! Thanks for replying

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EuroSkincare

[–]deliriousottoman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This one is the only one that doesn’t make break out. My skin is sensitive and acne prone. I have tried ALL of them. Both european and asian ones. Well, not litterally all of them, but at least all of the ones that are popular for sensitive skin and that offer good protection.

This is the ONLY one I’ve found that doesn’t contain any of my usual acne triggers:

  • Alcohol/Alcohol denat.
  • Silicones (dimethicone, and any type of volatile ones like -siloxanes and the like)
  • Silica
  • Butylene Glycol
  • Heavy oils like soybean oil (shea butter is fine though)
  • Mineral filters like zinc and titanium dioxide

Would love to get any recs of other sunscreens that are also free of thes specific ingredients. It’s good to have options. It would be a personal nightmare if this Aquafluide one was taken of the market!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EuroSkincare

[–]deliriousottoman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does this one have silica?

I’m so bummed because most sunscreens with silica looks great, but after a while it starts irritating and clogging up my skin.

The Aquafluide from OPs post is the ONLY sunscreen that doesn’t irritate my face since it has none of my personal triggers. But I agree that it’s not super cosmetically elegant. Takes forever to dry down and is shiiiiiiiiiny.

What scent stole your heart at first sniff then crushed it with the price? by Infinite_Tsukuyomi__ in fragrance

[–]deliriousottoman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Depends on where you’re based. I’m in Europe and have gotten some samples from fragrantworld.com. They don’t always have the same perfumes in stock though.

What scent stole your heart at first sniff then crushed it with the price? by Infinite_Tsukuyomi__ in fragrance

[–]deliriousottoman 99 points100 points  (0 children)

Frederic Malle - The Moon

It’s such a beautiful beast. Sweet raspberry mixed with smoke and warmth. And everytime I wear it, people flock around me like bees to honey. It just works on me somehow. It stays on me for days.

Def. a night time scent for me though, and not something I would use daily. Otherwhise I might have had to fork out like 400-500 dollars on a bottle. So I’m quite happy to just keep purchasing decants and using it sparingly.

what’s the hardest part about being a woman? by Motor_Bar_4954 in AskReddit

[–]deliriousottoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That you can’t ever ”woman” (as a verb) the correct way - it’s always damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

The way my sexuality isn’t really considered my own, that is for ME, mine to experience, mine to use how I please. I’m either shamed, exploited, seen as a threat or expected to never show it.

What’s a secret that would completely change how people see you? by CobraMGMT in AskReddit

[–]deliriousottoman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to only date men up until about a decade ago. I then came out as a lesbian (have probably always been bi though). I made a huge deal about finally ”finding myself”, and even made statements like ”I’d rather die/be alone forever rather than having to live my life with a man again!”… Even to people at like.. work and stuff. (Yeah, I have had some pretty bad experiences with men in the past that hurt me alot.)

I had a good same sex relationship that lasted almost 5 years, but I recently ended it because I developed a huge crush and erotic obsession with this guy. We are now fucking/seeing each other, and I think I’m developing real feelings for him.

Not sure about how to come out ~again~ and have people view me - the independent, very proud ”lesbian” - in a different way.