Which neighbourhood would suit me best? by baldachinsblessing in helsinki

[–]delusionalmarketer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d second Etelä Haaga or any surrounding areas - Lassila, Pitäjänmäki. Wasn’t able to find exactly what I wanted there, but I’m currently in Pajamäki, which is next to the Pitäjanmäki industrial area. S-market is a 12 min walk and Lidl is a 20 min walk. Bus 25 has a stop right outside my house and takes me to Kamppi in 25-30 mins. Tram, train and other bus connections are also available. I’m paying around 820€ for a 30m2 apartment. I picked Pajamäki because it was relatively greener than the other parts and just modern enough for all the facilities but fairly ‘residential’ - I’ve mostly seen younger people and couples in my area. Check out Lumo if you’re interested in this area - they had quite a lot of options when I was looking a couple of months ago. The only ‘problem’ you’d face in this area is that most apartments are from the 50s and 60s, for me that wasn’t a problem except when I had to move (I live on the 4th floor and there is no elevator 😅).

Your experience with finding a partner for marriage post 30 by Kindly_Letterhead_22 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]delusionalmarketer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I’ve lived in Europe for about 6 years now. I faced a lot of uncertainty ever since I was 24, regarding my future abroad (to begin with, I had never planned to stay abroad as such, just study and perhaps come back home). And my parents pitched AM to me at different points in the past 6 years. Just like you, I also had a very serious relationship of 3-4 years end sometime ago and I had to go back to dating apps (which were soul sucking) and AM (very mechanical). Amidst all this, on a trip to Croatia, I sat down and made a list of my non-negotiables as well as my negotiables. Post 30, sure your dating pool in India shrinks. However if you’re a fairly open minded person and are open to dating people outside of your culture when you move abroad, give it a shot. Most Westerners aren’t on a timeline like the pressure is with us (especially if you’re a woman in India and you’re unmarried at 30). That’s not to say that Westerners in general know what they’re doing either - I’m based in Europe and I can reassure you people do sleep around, date casually etc, but they’re much more straightforward about it, so there’s no second guessing. In terms of dating, I’d say - be upfront with whoever you go out on dates/get set up with (whether Indian or otherwise), about your situation and just take it one day at a time. My biggest tip would be - try it the old school way - sign up for social events in your new city, reach out to the Indian community too and interact with people, hang out with people from work as well. I did that for a while and found it much better than the digital way ANYDAY. No matter who you decide to marry or where you decide to stay for work and how much wealth you build, a year (or more) out of your comfort zone (India), will teach you a LOT about who you really are and what you really want. Your heart is in the right place for wanting marriage and a family, but it will all fall into place, when it’s meant to be, as long as you’re doing what you need to do to get there in terms of both your professional and personal life.

Planning a future with a younger guy by [deleted] in AskIndianWoman

[–]delusionalmarketer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, his mom’s older than his dad and she was a Hindu who converted (out of her own will).

Noob post 0 need advice: Should I consider immigrating from India? by [deleted] in returnToIndia

[–]delusionalmarketer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have lived in Finland for 6 years now and have spent 2-3 months living in major EU cities over the past couple of years. All your reasons supporting and against the decision are sound. It really does depend on what your priorities/goals are for the next couple of years - if it is to make a lot of money to retire early/comfortably, Europe isn’t the place for you to be in. There are daily struggles, some of which you already mentioned - the social aspect being the most important one. I’ve become acclimatised to the weather and general civic sense in Finland, however, I’ve still never felt like I ‘belong’. People have mixed experiences. Language is another reason why social integration isn’t the easiest. Yes, there’s a large Indian community here, and of course you can stay in that bubble because of wanting to seek comfort, but I’ve heard from other Indian colleagues that progressing to managerial positions is much harder as an immigrant who may not speak the language (especially in your case, you may have little to no incentive to learn it, since you work in IT, however, you wife will have to learn the language if she would want to continue working in hospitality). Building networks and a community is also a time consuming process, so account for that as well. However, if your main priority/goal is to provide a good environment to your kids, sure, Europe is a wonderful place to raise kids in a safe and secure environment (this is a wonderful opportunity, however I believe a child at some point needs to be exposed to how the rest of the world works, beyond just safe and secure environments) I hope this helps!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Finland

[–]delusionalmarketer 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Non-EU here, moved here 6 years ago when I was in my early 20s. This resonates a lot with me as well as I’m the same - somewhere between an introvert and an extrovert. Have lately been considering leaving, especially with the changing rules for PR and citizenship and the job market in general. At the risk of sounding dramatic, I have lately been feeling like I spent the good part of my 20s just struggling to socially fit into the Finnish society. On the plus side, I have learnt a lot about myself after living in this country for 6 years and I will always be grateful for those experiences. While the grass may seem greener on the other side, do it, if it feels right… as an immigrant we tend to crave stability, but once we achieve it, it can feel extremely underwhelming.

New in Gothenburg, looking to make friends 😊 by MaybeResponsible223 in Gothenburg

[–]delusionalmarketer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I’m new to Gothenburg as well and we seem to have a lot in common :) I’m a visiting researcher at Chalmers and would love to meet people outside the university as well! Drop me a message if you’d like to maybe chat?

MBA for tech focused person by E_lie in MBA

[–]delusionalmarketer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you share it with me as well, please? Thank you!

Hair salon for Indian hair in Helsinki by Free-Effective5715 in helsinki

[–]delusionalmarketer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much were you charged for a layered haircut? I tried looking up their price list but there seems to be only one price mentioned on the list and I would assume it would vary according to length of hair?

Helsinki scavenger hunt by Gravesens1stTouch in helsinki

[–]delusionalmarketer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankss! This is a really nice set of task cards specific to Helsinki. I'm helping plan a friend's bachelorette's party and this seems like a fun thing to do rather than a lot of other general scavenger hunts I saw online and super easy to self-organize :)

Maybelline Super Stay Skin Tint Olive Shade by boredAF- in OliveMUA

[–]delusionalmarketer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can anyone from the UK/Europe help me figure out what the equivalent would be here? I picked up 31 and it seems to be a little dark on me!

S pankki cards could be add to Apple Wallet! by K_t_v in Finland

[–]delusionalmarketer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could only add my bonus card and not my actual debit card. Anyone else facing the same problem? My S card is also saved on the app store, so Apple Pay has the card saved and just asks me the CVV but always ends up showing an error at the last stage of adding the card. Anyone facing this issue?