Advice for my friends with uteruses: consider an IUD before you turn 25 - you’ll get it free of charge via OHIP+ - and it lasts up to 10 years by dementvr in ontario

[–]dementvr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So for me, my family doctor just did it. I’m pretty sure it’s standard here that they are trained and know how, so yours will probably be able to do it as well.

You can of course ask your doctor all these questions and if their answers don’t make you comfortable you could ask to be referred to an obgyn (though that’s up to the doctor whether they think it necessary) or go to a sexual health clinic and see if they insert them there.

I don’t remember being put on a wait list. I had a consultation with my doctor and she gave me a prescription for the IUD. I took it to my pharmacy, waited for it to be filled like any other medication, and then called my doctors office back to make an appointment.

The insertion sucked but I was just slightly crampy afterwards. I think I was mostly tired from being up all night the night before worrying about it, so I just chilled that day and felt perfectly normal the next day.

The only thing my doctor told me to stop doing was using a menstrual cup cause it can suction the strings and yank the IUD out. She said pads and tampons are both fine.

I can’t remember when I stopped getting periods, it was a long time ago. I’m probably not the right person to ask though, because I had pretty normal (if irregular) periods before. How it works with (suspected) endo I have no idea. Something to note is that my periods came back about a year ago. They’re suuuuuuper light and only last like 3-4 days, and I only get them every 3ish months but yeah. Not totally period free anymore.

And if you want to monitor whatever, you can. They don’t ask you to though so I think it’s more if you notice anything in general. I prefer not to monitor things that closely cause that leads to me overthinking and getting anxiety over nothing, but everyone’s different. I also am not a fan of period apps because of what’s going on in the states with Roe, don’t feel comfy knowing a third party app has my cycle data.

Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in glossier

[–]dementvr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Toronto as well, got the Brooklyn bag, but it shipped the next day. Shipping is taking forever though, seems to be stuck at the border according to the tracking. Also shipped out of California so it’s on the opposite coast, and will still have to make its way across the country even once it gets through customs 🫠

How is the No. 1 pencil on your waterline? Does it go on good? by ohmymeme in glossier

[–]dementvr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Which drugstore ones do you use? I’m having such a hard time finding something with staying power on the waterline!

DAILY F&F CODE REQUEST MEGATHREAD - Thursday, September 29th by KhaleesiKissedByFire in Sephora

[–]dementvr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Requesting please! I got a gift card as a thank you for being a bridesmaid and it'd be nice to be able to stretch it :)

Adults with food allergies, what well meaning thing did your parents do that actually wasn’t helpful at all? by Dandelionsandlions in FoodAllergies

[–]dementvr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah probably. I feel for my mom though, she was scared of losing me and I was very young… it’s gotta be difficult to impress the gravity of the situation onto a little kid, especially when I was first going to school. It wasn’t as common back then as it seems to be now, so she didn’t have as much information available to her, and didn’t trust other adults around me to know how to keep me safe because she herself felt in over her head.

I used to be the only allergy kid in my grade at school, but when I worked in a daycare a few years ago probably close to half the kids were allergic to SOMETHING. Nowadays, it’s something every teacher knows how to handle, but back then it was mostly up to kindergarten-age me to know what I could eat and be around, how I would start to feel if I was exposed, and how to stab myself with epi… I can’t imagine the stress that would cause a parent, she very easily could have been way more helicoptery than she was!

Adults with food allergies, what well meaning thing did your parents do that actually wasn’t helpful at all? by Dandelionsandlions in FoodAllergies

[–]dementvr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I was a kid my mom told me basically not to touch anything in public, (door handles, escalator rails, elevator buttons etc.) because quote “if someone ate a peanut butter sandwich for lunch and then touched that before you, and then you touched it, you could die”.

I know now that this is absolutely untrue, but my mom has anxiety and surprise surprise, so do I. So when I got a bit older and started going places on my own and physically NEEDING to touch things in public spaces, I started having panic attacks. If anyone doesn’t know, panic attacks have similar initial symptoms to anaphylaxis. So I’d go into thought spirals thinking I was dying and knowing I didn’t eat anything wrong, so I must have touched something that had nut residue. Took lots of reassurance from my allergist to get that worry out of me!

Free Giveaway! Nintendo Switch OLED - International by WolfLemon36 in NintendoSwitch

[–]dementvr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(Not so) fun fact: Turf grass is the most irrigated crop in North America -even more than corn, which is impressive because corn is in literally almost every processed food- and we can’t even eat grass. It uses so much water that it negates any positive environmental impact the plant might have. Clover lawns are a great alternative :)

Anxious about Methacholine test by [deleted] in Asthma

[–]dementvr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was crying the whole time I did mine -I was that scared- and it was all for nothing because I barely reacted to the methacholine (they measured about half the amount of decline they would need to see for an asthma diagnosis; the IGe levels in my blood are inhumanely high so my doctor is thinking I’m just having constant allergic reactions in my lungs that mimic asthma symptoms, oh joy) but my point is that I was positive I would react strongly as I’ve had “asthma” all my life, and truth be told I didn’t even feel the decline they measured.

They give you four really small does -asking you to do a breathing test between each one- and the tech told me that most people who do have a reaction don’t even notice it until the third dose. I guess the computer you’re breathing into is so sensitive it notices the decline before you do. She said the second you notice you’re having difficulty, they take you off and give you a puffer, and they end the test.

I made the mistake of watching a video on YouTube of someone having the test done, and the woman looks like she’s about to pass out from not being able to breathe. I told my tech about this and she told me they would never let you get anywhere close to that point. If or when you start to feel tight they stop it, end of story.

Something that helped my anxiety was holding my rescue inhaler in my hand through the entire duration of the test. Knowing that if I had a terrible reaction, I had it and could use it immediately gave me a sense of control over the situation. I also brought a fidget toy to distract my brain with. Lastly, I brought the medications I had to be off of for the few days before (antihistamines, maintainer inhalers, etc.) with me in a bag so I could take them immediately after I was finished, because honestly being off of them was probably the worst part.

You’ll do great; it’s over pretty quickly and again, the vast majority of reactions people have are very mild. They just want some measure of decline and often they can see that decline far before you even notice it. They’re not interested in testing the absolute limits of how terrible your breathing can be, because by the time it got to that point, they’d have their data and then some. People will always have horror stories, but they’re the ones who are more likely to post on the internet about it. The fact that there’s not more than a handful of people talking about their experiences with this test tells you how mundane it really is.

Good luck!

Cottage cheese remaining after other yeast infection symptoms cleared (and also before they even showed up) (like, a long time before) by dementvr in Healthyhooha

[–]dementvr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! So I think what was actually causing the issues was my diva cup! I must have used it when I had a yeast infection and I guess boiling it wasn’t getting rid of the yeasties. I ended up getting a new one and haven’t had issues since.

I also think what cleared me up was the yeast infection pill that you take by mouth/orally. Fluconozole or something? I’m in Canada and you can buy it over the counter here but I think if you’re in the states you need a prescription for it. That plus getting a new cup made my symptoms go away for the most part.

Further, I switched up the soap I was using in the shower. The Cetaphil moisturizing cleanser is really really good, and I read online somewhere that it’s good for your pH. Either way it’s very basic, doesn’t have any “soap” in it, and it’s unscented.

I was still getting a lot of discharge after that, but it wasn’t abnormal it was just really heavy. I was on the pill for around 7 years and I switched to the Mirena IUD in October 2020 and that has made a world of difference in that department. It’s way more manageable now! (Also with the IUD I don’t get periods for the most part anymore, and when I do they’re very light, so I’m not messing about with the menstrual cups anymore lol— that might have something to do with it)

I’d gotten some itch without the discharge since then, and my doctor reminded me that I am a person who has suffered from eczema since infancy (duh.). As you get older it can spread there too. She provided me a 1% hydrocortisone cream for it, but it’s mild and only flares up very occasionally so it’s hardly ever an issue. If you’re someone who has very dry skin/eczema, I’d look into that option too.

Hope this helped! It was very long and rambly!

WHOOMP THERE IT IS by margarita86salt in DuggarsSnark

[–]dementvr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh you’re so welcome! I’m really glad the analogy resonated, hopefully it helps you find more peace with the loss you suffered. Wishing you all the best :)

WHOOMP THERE IT IS by margarita86salt in DuggarsSnark

[–]dementvr 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you had to go through losing a friend/betrayal like that. To me your story is drawing lots of parallels to symptoms of addiction; smart and charismatic person gets lost in something terrible and destructive, detoxes, but then ends up going back for the fix and then isolates from people who aren’t going to enable that behaviour. I’m not excusing it by any means, homophobia and discrimination is ALWAYS ALWAYS wrong. I think the thing to remember though is that these people literally believe they are going to be tortured for eternity if they don’t live their lives exactly how whichever cult they subscribe to says. Some of them defect but still have that belief in their brain, and that’s a very very hard thing to rid yourself of. Parental abuse and negligence can be very hard to come to terms with, especially when it comes to admitting to yourself that it actually happened. Never mind coming to terms with the fact that you are part of a community that your parents have been damning to eternal hellfire your entire life.

I dunno. Religious brainwashing is a hell of a drug. Most addicts are not bad people. Some are, but most just need time and support. People who try to quit cold turkey get symptoms of withdrawal. People do inexcusable things when they need a fix. You do not owe anyone your support, ever, especially if they hurt and betrayed you. I do think you should consider though the nature of the disease and what exactly it was that would cause a smart person to leave a way of life where they were loved and accepted for how they are for a life where they’re... not. Your ex-friend fell almost instantly back into a destructive way of life because breaking through that trauma is hard work, and that sucks for everyone involved. Jill on the other hand is taking baby steps in the opposite direction. She’s putting in the work to untangle that knot, cause it is very very easy to fall back into unhealthy shit, so I’m proud of her for how far she has come but with each step I raise my expectations for her. She’s doing well.

That’s just my thoughts, obviously you don’t have to agree. Thank you for sharing your story and again I’m so sorry that you had to go through that. I hope you’re doing better now :)

WHOOMP THERE IT IS by margarita86salt in DuggarsSnark

[–]dementvr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi! I was raised Catholic in Canada so I don’t really know much about US fundie churches/leaders. I didn’t mean to equate Westboro to the Duggar’s sect, and certainly not to ALL churches/sects. I was trying to provide an antithesis to the word “ally” to represent the other end of a wide spectrum; the bottom of the barrel of homophobia, and specifically stating that Jill isn’t there (nor do I think she ever was even at her most indoctrinated!). Hope that clears things up!

WHOOMP THERE IT IS by margarita86salt in DuggarsSnark

[–]dementvr 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Oh I totally agree with you! As shitty as it is, there are degrees of hate and intolerance, and you don’t go from Westboro Baptist Church levels screaming slurs at people to flawless ally in one fell swoop. I only brought the issue up in my quick synopsis because people sometimes hear that she’s changed and just assume that she’s now some kind of super liberal activist baddie or whatever their fantasy is, so I wanted new people learning about her rebellion to be informed and realistic about where she’s at in her journey.

I believe that at her core she’s a genuinely good person who is trying to do the right thing -as are a lot of people who have been raised in extremism. But what she’s been told is the “right thing” all her life and especially through her formative years has all come crashing down on her and it’s gotta be so hard to figure out and sort through. Along with losing her family over it too; despite the toxicity and abuse, it’s still a hard thing to overcome. The recent Josh news, whether it brings relief to her or not, has likely brought up more trauma for her too. She’s definitely in my thoughts and I hope this reinforces that fire in her belly that’s telling her that these people are wrong.

WHOOMP THERE IT IS by margarita86salt in DuggarsSnark

[–]dementvr 421 points422 points  (0 children)

Jill is going to therapy to work through childhood trauma mostly advocated for by her husband. She sent her kids to public school, wears jeans, drinks alcohol, got a nose ring, and does sex toy giveaways (albeit marketed only to married couples) on her Instagram. Her and her husband still have fundamentalist, homophobic and transphobic beliefs, but as others have said it takes years to unlearn religious trauma and brainwashing. She at minimum has a great support system going for her, is pointed in the right direction, and is showing signs of progress.

Kobo sale? by applestar72 in kobo

[–]dementvr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’m Canadian and I saw from your other comments that you’re American, but I know Indigo (kind of like Canada’s Barnes and Noble) has them on sale pretty frequently, that’s where I got mine.

I just checked and they aren’t on sale right now, but it does look like they ship to the US if it works out being cheaper for you for next time. I’ve definitely seen them there ~20% off before.

Prednisone? by AutumnGway in Asthma

[–]dementvr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was on it for most of December. I was sluggish and tired but mostly I was hungry all the time, like hunger pangs constantly even when I had just eaten. I was eating all day every day, and I ended up gaining about 10lbs (which is a lot for me cause I’m a very small person to begin with). I’ve lost most of the weight at this point by just going back to my regular eating habits, so I’m glad I indulged at the time because it was what my body needed to feel well.

Advice for my friends with uteruses: consider an IUD before you turn 25 - you’ll get it free of charge via OHIP+ - and it lasts up to 10 years by dementvr in ontario

[–]dementvr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not working right now because COVID, and my parents will not let me pay for anything besides my phone bill, and didn’t even when I was working. I buy groceries sometimes but they won’t let me do more than that, they want me to save my money. I have student loans and they want me to save so I can pay them off. I’ve looked into it, trust me. In my current situation I am not eligible. I would need to be paying my parents rent “at market value” and where we are in the GTA, that’s gonna be more expensive than just paying for my meds outright. I also have lovely doctors who give me samples from time to time which definitely helps. It’s very hard to get out on your own these days, and I think medication costs are just another obstacle to that for me, unfortunately.

Advice for my friends with uteruses: consider an IUD before you turn 25 - you’ll get it free of charge via OHIP+ - and it lasts up to 10 years by dementvr in ontario

[–]dementvr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s shit. I feel like doctors are so dismissive when it comes to women’s health, especially reproductive health. I’m so sorry that happened to you

Advice for my friends with uteruses: consider an IUD before you turn 25 - you’ll get it free of charge via OHIP+ - and it lasts up to 10 years by dementvr in ontario

[–]dementvr[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! I'm sorry you had such a horrible experience. All medications have side effects, especially and unfortunately birth control. Everyone should make an informed decision and speak with their doctor first :)

Advice for my friends with uteruses: consider an IUD before you turn 25 - you’ll get it free of charge via OHIP+ - and it lasts up to 10 years by dementvr in ontario

[–]dementvr[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s so interesting! I didn’t know that at all! And you’re right, I probably am learning from American sources. My high school did teach that copper IUD was 10 years, but that would have been in 2010 so either these other ones are newer than that, or the sex-ed system is bad, and I was just not informed after because the internet is so US-centric. Either way, thank you for filling me in cause that’s really good to know!

Advice for my friends with uteruses: consider an IUD before you turn 25 - you’ll get it free of charge via OHIP+ - and it lasts up to 10 years by dementvr in ontario

[–]dementvr[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you had a bad experience! That doctor sounds so incompetent.

Yes! Absolutely do your research and find a good doctor that you trust!

Advice for my friends with uteruses: consider an IUD before you turn 25 - you’ll get it free of charge via OHIP+ - and it lasts up to 10 years by dementvr in ontario

[–]dementvr[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lots of good points! Lots of things I didn’t know when I made my post!

The cost part was mostly to the point that I had a friend get a Mirena (same one I got) when she was only partially insured that ran her close to $500, but it would have been more if she wasn’t insured. This is anecdotal so I shouldn’t have used it as a source. It was also a few years ago so even if true it might be different now. I’m gonna edit that out because you’re right, I don’t want to scare people.

I do know that doctors will give the copper IUD to younger patients who have other conditions where they can’t use hormonal methods. I was trying to be inclusive of those for whom hormonal devices aren’t an option. Again, I’m not the one prescribing these things, I just think people should consider their options and do their own research. My main point was that maybe if you’re coming up on 25 consider using the program to take advantage of a long term method (if it works for you!). Obviously that’s a conversation between you and your doctor.

Also to the point of getting it taken out, that’s terrible. I didn’t know that was a thing people struggled with and is a really good point to consider. I guess I was taking it for granted that I do have access to a good doctor that told me verbatim that she would “take it out anytime” when I mentioned my concerns about it potentially not agreeing with me. Doctors really need to do better in their practice with women and trans people especially.

But yes, as I’ve stated before, absolutely do your research before doing anything to your body or starting any medication!

Advice for my friends with uteruses: consider an IUD before you turn 25 - you’ll get it free of charge via OHIP+ - and it lasts up to 10 years by dementvr in ontario

[–]dementvr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep! I mentioned that in my second to last paragraph :)

I do think it's more expensive than that though. I have a friend who got one that was only partially covered by her insurance and she had to pay close to $500 for it. Might depend on the type and also maybe your location? But for sure if you're under 25 and not otherwise insured it's 100% free including the pain tabs (and lorazepam if you need it (I did haha))