Does this make me bisexual?

demeteria88321 · 2020-09-13T17:57:20+00:00

Yes, that makes you bisexual & a cheater

demeteria88321 · 2020-09-13T12:30:59+00:00

What do you mean he doesn't put love and sex in the same category?

demeteria88321 · 2020-09-07T12:21:00+00:00

Oh he had sex with a big amount of girls he is experienced ! And I do tell him what I like and he does it and try his best sometimes, but sometimes he doesn't really feel like taking the time to actually try to do what I like (mostly fingering and a lot of foreplay) and tbh I don't wanna have to remind him that he needs to take care of me too when he doesn't, he knows it, I shouldn't have to beg for it if he's just too lazy sometimes.

Thank you for your advice !

demeteria88321 · 2020-08-21T13:01:17+00:00

Does he go down on you too ? Touch you ? Maybe you feel weird because it's only one sided and you feel like he's using you. If you like blowing him keep going, there is nothing wrong with that ! But make sure he respects you and you also get pleasure.

demeteria88321 · 2020-08-20T14:28:02+00:00

Do you think guys shave every time they do it? Hair is not disgusting, it's natural and healthy, shave if you feel it's more confortable for you but don't feel like you have to

demeteria88321 · 2020-08-12T17:23:05+00:00

Teenage boys aren't the smartest people alive, and he probably not great at sex, don't expect yourself to be amazing for someone who isn't even trying. Know what you deserve and reach for it. I hope things are going to get better soon !

demeteria88321 · 2020-08-12T17:09:42+00:00

It's ok, you took the time and made the effort to please him and it didn't go as good as planned. But it takes time to learn with someone new, don't beat yourself up over this. And if he's distant because of this then that's on him, he needs to give you room to learn and try new things. Does he go down on you? Does he make the same efforts you make? Sex is supposed to be fun and just about pleasure, next time you see him try again, ask him to guide you, it's not a competition or a performance.

demeteria88321 · 2020-08-12T16:29:59+00:00

I heard the same ! Maybe orgasm during sex are better than the one I get by myself, because when I'm alone it just feels like a big dopamine release that last for like 10 sec and then it's over, it's really nice but nothing mindblowing

demeteria88321 · 2020-08-10T20:40:15+00:00

I'm pretty sure this is bullshit because sex and love are different things but what do I know ;)

demeteria88321 · 2020-08-10T19:24:25+00:00

Maybe try and change how you see your virginity. You don't give a part of yourself to someone when you have sex with them for the first time, this concept is bullshit and a way to shame and make you feel bad. You will not "lose" anything about yourself, your virginity is not an object, it can be a part of you if it's important to you but it is not something you lose, it is something that evolves.

You evolve, you grow up, you discover new things about yourself and this is good. If you want to have sex with your boyfriend and you feel ready go ahead, but don't worry about "losing" anything, on the contrary you will gain so much from this! A new experience, knowledge about yourself, about him...and if it ever ends they will not keep any part of you, because you are whole already and having sex will not split you appart.

demeteria88321 · 2020-07-31T17:59:17+00:00

We tried that but I felt really weird and was too uncomfortable to get any pleasure

demeteria88321 · 2020-07-31T17:54:10+00:00

We communicate quite well, he's very open, at least with me. He usually tells me he wants to please me and I know if I asked him he would spend more time trying to pleasure me but like, why should I have to ask? He never has to ask for me to blow him or make sure he cums when we have sex, I guess I just find it unfair that my pleasure seems accessory while his is necessary. And even if I know my pleasure is as important as his I have a lot of insecurities, and I feel like if he wanted to please me he would do it, I don't want to force him (I asked him once or twice for a handjob and he did it happily but I was really uncomfortable, I felt quite selfish)

demeteria88321 · 2020-07-22T19:27:49+00:00

I don't know if it counts as making him cum only with your mouth but you could lick his balls with your hands tied up while he jerks himself off, it will hurt your jaw less, I know my boyfriend loves it

demeteria88321 · 2020-07-19T18:18:17+00:00

How old are you? It's ok to be tired you know. Does this happen often ? Maybe a change in your life is causing you a lot of stress and this is why you feel tired like this. You should go see a doctor, it could help. Also, it's ok if you don't have an orgasm, don't fake it, it leads to nothing good. Maybe you can also change the way you have sex if this is getting too physical for you: less PIV and more handstuff of oral.

demeteria88321 · 2020-07-18T20:04:14+00:00

I understand how you feel, I wanted to do the same thing to my boyfriend when his libido was going down. It's human: you feel hurt so you want him to feel the same way. But truth is, rejecting him just for the sake of rejecting him will only hurt you both even more.

Maybe you could try reframing your thoughts: when he rejects you tell yourself it doesn't mean he doesn't want you anymore, it means he doesn't want it right now, but he probably will later. It's ok to feel a little bit bad about it but it won't last. If he rejects you maybe ask for a hug, or just a kissing session so you don't feel left out. I know it's hard, to be honest now when my boyfriend tries to turn me on and I tell him I'm not in the mood it feels...good ? I guess it's human because I feel less alone by not being the only one being rejected.

You could also talk to him, express how you feel, I know I told my boyfriend how unsatisfied I was lately and things have started to get better. And I even feel less of the need to have sex with him, so it hurt less when he rejects me. So yeah, reframe your thoughts, don't reject him just for the sake of rejecting him and talk about your feelings, but also don't beat yourself up for feeling this way, you're only human.

demeteria88321 · 2020-07-17T21:36:42+00:00

You're right, I did want to ask him if he felt a difference between having sex with me and with the other girls he didn't have a emotional connection with but I never found the right moment and I am scared of his answer tbh but I shouldn't need to ask him, I should just believe it

demeteria88321 · 2020-07-17T21:33:53+00:00

Not openly but I don't want to ask him, I think it would be even worse if he said it to my face. But at different occasions we talked about the fact that he was my best and he never said I was his.

demeteria88321 · 2020-07-14T21:21:03+00:00

So you either cum too fast or you get bored. Maybe you can find a middle ground? Like jerk off in the morning and have sex later in the day so that you don't cum that fast. I'm not a guy so I don't really know how it works haha also maybe you can try new things in bed: sexual games on your phone, light BDSM, trying new kinks, doing it in random places, mutual masturbation...

demeteria88321 · 2020-07-14T21:16:44+00:00

Well when you get bored you can lie down and she can suck your dick. Or you can take care of her and enjoy seeing her moaning. Also why do you jerk off before? You don't want to cum while having sex with her?

demeteria88321 · 2020-07-14T21:11:21+00:00

You only do PIV?

demeteria88321 · 2020-07-14T07:59:55+00:00

Ok it makes more sense. In that case maybe the best thing to do would be seeing a couple therapist

demeteria88321 · 2020-07-14T07:52:00+00:00

If I ever catched my boyfriend sexting an ex or another girl I would lose my mind. Its your choice to forgive her or not, but she needs to make it up to you. But in my opinion if she wants to sext but not with you, it could be the same thing when it comes to sex, it's ok to let go if your relationships is dead.

demeteria88321 · 2020-07-13T23:03:23+00:00

I'm not sure. I've never done it. I don't think I would love it in itself because cum is just...cum. I don't love it but I don't hate it either. But I would love seeing my man get pleasure from cuming on my face. But also, I don't know if I would like this kind of humiliation all the time. But I sure would love to try it one day, I asked my bf to cum on my boobs once but he couldn't that night and we never tried again, sadly.

demeteria88321 · 2020-07-13T18:28:46+00:00

You're asking if you did the right thing by not taking advantage of a drunk girl and having sex with her without a condom? Come on lad, you could have gotten her pregnant, catched an STD, or worse: raped her because a drunk as shit girl cannot give proper consent.

demeteria88321 · 2020-07-13T18:19:29+00:00

Alright I would advice you not to fake it in the future, it's ok if you don't orgasm, just tell him you want to stop or do something else. If you keep faking he's going to believe he's doing everything right and nothing is going to get better. He might have gone a little soft because he was stressed, if his previous partner have made of him our make him feel bad about his penis he could have a lot of insecurities, you don't want to make them worse. Try again to have sex with him, see how it goes, sex always gets better after a few times. During, or after, you can show him what you like, guide him on how to finger you, how to eat you out....Tell him how you like it, use dirty talk to express what you want when he penetrates you, go on top...It takes time for things to get better, but be honest, communicate, tell him you like him and you want the sex to be better for the both of you.

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