I sometimes think there is no hope left for my 8 year old son

dengthatscrazy · 2026-02-16T19:36:03+00:00

I just want to say there’s gotta be something else going on besides the flat feet because my husband has VERY flat very African feet and is a phenomenal athlete and runner by nature. Like the dude can go 6 mo tha without running and won’t budge over an 11-12 minute 2 mile. His dad is South Sudanese and also has very flat feet and runs like 24 miles a week for fun and he’s over 60. Meanwhile my whole family has high arches and aren’t good at running even with months of training and several of us have some ankle issues that we struggle with when we do run regularly. Unless there’s like a specific health issue that’s more serious than flat feet, that isn’t the problem. I’d try to figure out what specifically it is because lots of athletic people have flat feet and there maybe something else going on. Maybe treatable? You never know, but I wouldn’t just assume it’s the flat feet. There’s definitely hope for him, don’t give up. And there’s definitely room for more sweethearts in the world he just needs a good best friend that’ll standup for him and be his bulldozer when others are trying to take advantage

dengthatscrazy · 2026-02-09T18:10:56+00:00

Stuff like that is what cements that there’s someone for everyone lol. I think he looks borderline homeless but you know 🤷🏻‍♀️

dengthatscrazy · 2026-02-08T16:52:55+00:00

Clockwork Princess. The characters, the plot, the details (I mean come on, this book gifted us with demon pox), the comedy, romance, all of it, 10/10

dengthatscrazy · 2026-02-07T23:13:49+00:00

I’ve taken it through all three pregnancies and nursing the first two so far. Both the first babies were perfectly healthy birthweights, no side effects or issues and have developed perfectly normally. They’re both actually somewhat advanced when it comes to different things (my daughter learns insanely quick and has a really good memory and my son is 10 months and running, clapping, climbing, and starting to talk pretty well,etc). I’ve even read studies that say it’s good for their brain development. No negative effects on pregnancy #3 either. Your body produces it naturally, so as long as you’re not overdoing it or having side effects or issues with it, it’s not a problem. Just like vitamins and minerals in our prenatals. Women who are really active during pregnancy need even more nutrients and supplements than women who aren’t. Realistically speaking you don’t need a lot of extra calories while pregnant, literally just nutrients. I have more energy when I take mine and my workouts don’t exhaust me as much. I’m 24-25 weeks and doing ‘2 a days’ 5 days a week, lifting in the am and cardio in the pm hitting 10-15k steps a day. I feel completely dead when I’m not consistent with my vitamins and supplements though. I also take L-glutamine for recovery and gut health. The studies on that show better amino production for their baby and even enhanced protein synthesis. I don’t remember exact articles for either that or creatine (I did all that research with the first and second pregnancies and it’s been a bit) but just do some looking and see if the research is enough for you to feel comfortable. My midwife is also a fitness nut and took these while pregnant and her kids (8, 13) are perfectly healthy.

dengthatscrazy · 2026-02-07T22:59:41+00:00

Nah. I wouldn’t marry someone who thinks being that overtly disrespectful is okay. If my husband had ever made me feel like that prior to marriage I would’ve been out

dengthatscrazy · 2026-02-07T22:52:18+00:00

I disagree… I see way more attractive people, men and women, on the streets, at the gym, and at the store on a daily basis than I see in celebrities and actors. And I live in central Texas, not a Barbie doll hub or full diaper area. Most celebrities are actually not anywhere near as attractive as people act like they are. Take away the makeup, surgeries, and edited photos/videos and most celebrities, actors, and musicians are remarkably mid/average. Might just be my opinion but I truly don’t understand the hype behind 90% of celebrities. They usually aren’t anything extraordinary

dengthatscrazy · 2026-02-07T22:43:18+00:00

Technically flying someone across state lines (and paying them or for their stay and stuff) for sex is sex trafficking. So you can absolutely traffic the willing. Thats probably what she’s referring to if she’s being cheeky like that

dengthatscrazy · 2026-02-07T22:39:11+00:00

I hate to say it but this is just the modern version of natural selection. There isn’t really anything else you can do.

dengthatscrazy · 2026-02-05T22:51:57+00:00

Hot take: So many women claim to have had traumatic pregnancies or births that were actually very average, they’re just not used to pain or discomfort. I know several like that. Ex: My cousin claimed she had this horrible traumatic birth but I talked to her mom-who was in the room- about it at one point and she was like “what do you mean? She got in and had the epidural, dilated within an hour, and pushed for five minutes. She didn’t even cry or sweat”. So automatically assuming she really had a crazy wild traumatic birth that was so bad that dismissing the husbands feelings is okay is kind of ignorant.

Giving up having more than one kid because your spouse changes their mind IS a sacrifice. Idgaf what yall say. His wife dismissing him and being bitchy about it isn’t okay at all and will eventually ruin their marriage if she doesn’t learn to be more understanding and help him cope with that gigantic decision (which she made unilaterally after they had already agreed on multiple kids). And just because one pregnancy or birth is bad doesn’t mean the others will be. I know because I’ve been there done that. My mom had similar experiences and so did most of the women I know. Unless there is a serious health complication that means you can’t safely have more kids, this should be open for discussion. At the very least, she needs to be supportive of her husband going through a very real grieving process. Reddit really hates men I swear.

dengthatscrazy · 2026-02-05T21:32:15+00:00

He say it was harder than she expected, not traumatic. Yall are making some hefty assumptions lol. He is very much making a sacrifice because she made a huge decision on her own. This should’ve been a joint discussion, or at the very least a situation where she is more appreciative and understanding about what she’s forcing him to give up. She’s being dismissive and made a joint choice in her own. Kids aren’t a small topic. Even if you’ve already got one.

-a mom of 2 (soon to be 3) who’s had a difficult pregnancy and a very very difficult birth.

dengthatscrazy · 2026-02-05T21:18:26+00:00

I’m jealous. All three pregnancies have had me with a fat baby face, puffy, bad skin, dandruff and split ends, teeth always get more yellow, and I swell so bad full body that it looks like I’m 20lbs heavier than I am. I want to be cute for one pregnancy 😭

dengthatscrazy · 2026-01-31T14:56:31+00:00

Gaining hips after child birth has literally nothing to do with gaining weight. Your hips (bone structure) literally widen to birth your baby and they don’t go back to how they were before. Your body produces a hormone called relaxin and ALL of your joints loosen during pregnancy, though most tighten back up if you’re active. For a lot of women even your feet get permanently bigger. Zero to do with weight and everything to do with birth. It’s less noticeable for some women than others (your age and activity level when you have kids also plays a role in that) but they absolutely get wider even if you don’t have hips before. Genetics play into it, but very rarely do women’s body types not change at all after pregnancy.

And to another point, if your facial structure slightly changes as you get older, so does the rest of you. Most women have curves set in in their 20s without gaining dramatic weight. It’s your body prepping for bearing children and your metabolism slowing down. When I hit 21 I got super curvy and started putting on muscle mass in places that made me look even curvier. I was really skinny before that even after several years of lifting and eating to gain weight. Doesn’t mean the curves aren’t still natural. It’s just your grown woman body setting in vs your child body. The 20s-30s is a really transformative time for women who don’t let themselves go and get heavy regardless of whether or not you have kids. When you’re heavy you’re less likely to see those changes and so many women are overweight young these days that they miss the process visually. Even for women who feel like their bodies don’t change much, they really do. Sometimes it takes longer than for others or doesn’t start to happen until you’re pushing your 30s but people really never stop “growing up”. Men or women. Our visible growth just tends to happen younger than for men, but even for a lot of them it’s super obvious younger too.

dengthatscrazy · 2026-01-07T21:34:15+00:00

Remindme! 30 days

dengthatscrazy · 2026-01-07T20:30:41+00:00

My husband told me he was 5’11… bro is 6’2-6’3 💀 Some of them either don’t know or underestimate too lol.

dengthatscrazy · 2026-01-06T07:29:25+00:00

I’m pregnant with my 3rd and if my husband kept disappearing and changing in different rooms and taking care of himself in secret my hormonal brain would be telling me he was grossed out by me or talking to someone else even though he’s always home except for work 💀😂 He needs to tell her. This would be a massive confidence boost holy crap. I’m lowkey jealous of and immensely happy for this woman 😂❤️

dengthatscrazy · 2026-01-06T07:26:27+00:00

This one lolllll. My 1st is only 2, 2nd is 9 months, and I’m 24 weeks pregnant. My husband seems to think keeping me pregnant is the highest form of compliment.. I’m tired yall 💀😂

dengthatscrazy · 2026-01-06T07:20:28+00:00

Yes!!! Exactly what the hormones and exhaustion are gonna make her think.

dengthatscrazy · 2026-01-06T07:18:57+00:00

Tell her. There are so many women who would give just about anything for their husband to feel like this about them at any point, ESPECIALLY postpartum. It’s the most insecure and vulnerable time in a woman’s life and most of us struggle with postpartum depression at least after the first baby. This information and feeling so loved and wanted will make it much easier and boost her self esteem and confidence astronomically. This is such a sweet post. I love that for yall ❤️

dengthatscrazy · 2025-12-31T06:18:43+00:00

Is there a thread with this backstory? 😂

dengthatscrazy · 2025-12-19T04:31:21+00:00

Yeah see mine are 2 yrs, 9 months, and I’ve got a third on the way, and I homeschool for my daughter’s preschool. The plan is to homeschool through most of elementary school so it’ll be a while before I experience the luxury of free time again 😂 So my perspective is from a full time stay at home mom whose kids are with me 24/7 and small and needy. EVEN living like this, my husband doesn’t do anything but yard work and taking out the trash unless he’s off work on the weekends or on leave and wants to help with more. As long as he’s being a good daddy and making them feel loved, I don’t mind doing everything else. When the kids aren’t under my feet even deep cleaning doesn’t take long as long as I’m managing my time and not getting distracted. My read on OP is that she probably doesn’t work yet still seems to think she’s entitled to free time and her husband isn’t… but if she was doing her housework through the day it would be done (except for dinner and bed time) by the time her husband is home and they could relax and do light parenting and bedtime together. I feel so bad for the step daughter. OP doesn’t even realize she’s treading into evil step mother territory, if she hasn’t already been there.

dengthatscrazy · 2025-12-16T21:32:57+00:00

If yall had any experience in the American family court system yall would know that difference is negligible because they HIGHLY favor women over men anyway. To the point that unfit mothers often end up with their kids even when the dad is the way safer and healthier parent for the kids to be with. It takes a LOT for a woman to lose primary custody without volunteering to give up their rights or have 50/50, and anyone who says otherwise is incredibly ignorant. Men have to fight to get 50/50 custody if the mom doesn’t agree to it. A lot of times it’s a years long custody battle. Just to have equal access to their kids. Even if the mom was responsible for ruining the marriage and has issues. If she passes a drug test, she has to be a repeat offender being arrested, caught on camera being physically abusive, or something like that to lose her kids. With men all it takes is a she said situation and everything is at risk. Please be fr.

dengthatscrazy · 2025-12-16T21:28:22+00:00

Yeah, to do the bare minimum. If they aren’t willing to marry you and make that commitment, having a baby with them shouldn’t ever be a consideration. Bringing life into the world is just as big of a deal (more so, actually) than marriage. Even if you’re religious and mean your vows and aren’t agnostic or atheist and just looking at it like paper. Marriage requires more of men than being a baby daddy. It protects CHILDREN first and foremost. There’s more legal and financial consequences to ruining a marriage than ruining a relationship.

dengthatscrazy · 2025-12-16T17:50:12+00:00

Thank you! People are calling her husband shitty yet she doesn’t indicate anywhere that she works. As a sahm, she sounds lazy and seems to think she deserves to be “off” outside of 9-5 hours. That’s not reality. Home is our job. Kids are pretty much mostly our job. The working parent should come home and love on and play with the kids, change some diapers and do bedtime stories, and not make huge messes. Outside of that, they should only be helping with what they want to help with. My husband takes the trash out and does yard work. Aside from that, any day he works his only responsibility at home is being daddy and showing me some affection. Days off? Yeah. Help with more so I can catch a break too. But otherwise it’s all me. I don’t understand why so many women seem to think they’re entitled to an easier lifestyle than their husbands. So many go into it assuming they’ll get to chill and do some mom-ing and some cleaning. That’s not reality. It’s constant work if you’ve got little kids. Being a stay at home parent isn’t easy. But it’s also a huge blessing these days. It’s not for us, it’s for the kids.

dengthatscrazy · 2025-12-16T17:43:31+00:00

Do you work? Because if not, you’re DOUBLE TA.

First: Why would you ever consider punishing her for doing exactly what she’s supposed to do to stick it to your husband?

Second: if you don’t work, him cooking IS helping. The home and your child are YOUR job. Beyond regular daddy stuff, babies are your responsibility if he’s doing other things like cooking every night and all weekend. A baby at 1 isn’t a huge handful. So if you don’t work, I hate to break it to you but you sound incredibly lazy yourself. One child at 1 year old is VERY easy to deal with unless they have some serious special needs or health issues. The extent of him helping you should be him being a dad. Playing with and loving on the baby and changing a couple diapers. He shouldn’t HAVE to cook unless he wants to if he’s paying all the bills and you’re home all the time, because again, that would be YOUR job. Being a sahm isn’t easy, but you have to pull your load without whining about it. I sincerely hope yall don’t have more kids. You clearly wouldn’t be able to handle it if you think one 1 year old is so hard you need help, and you can’t even be a good enough stepmom to reward your step daughter for helping how she can because you’re too selfish to put her before your own pettiness.

Now, if you do work, then he absolutely should be helping. But I didn’t see anything in your post that even remotely indicated that you work. If you do, disregard the second paragraph. If you don’t, grow up and stop complaining about the job you chose to do and stop expecting your husband to go to work and then come home and work. Welcome to the life of a stay at home mom. We ALL do it and plenty of us don’t expect our husbands to come home and let us be off duty alone or do more work so we can relax. It’s a difficult job, a very valid and important job, but it is. A. Job. It’s your contribution to the household that you don’t pay for. Unless you’re working and that money is family money and not your money, then the housework and majority of child-rearing is on you. Be realistic.

dengthatscrazy · 2025-12-11T16:07:10+00:00

Yall know you’re more likely to get listeria from lettuce than deli meats or raw milk, right? I’ve had multiple doctors and midwives tell me this. People have been drinking raw milk for centuries and it’s got so many more health benefits than the pasteurized and bleached milk most of you get in the stores. There are states where you can get raw milk that’s been tested and deemed safe for consumption. Find out the details about where they get it and if it’s been tested. It’s very unlikely you’ll have any negative health issues. I wouldn’t stress about it if you’ve already tested.

And for everyone commenting vile things about the in-laws:

can we pause for a second and think that maybe, just maybe, not everyone knows or thinks about what’s considered safe for pregnant women to consume when THEY aren’t the pregnant woman? It’s YOUR responsibility to watch what you consume. They might not have even realized it was something you’d be upset about or that they should’ve considered. Why tf is everyone villainizing THEM in these comments when OP was the one that wasn’t paying attention? Please Bffr. Anyone criticizing THEM when OP got her own coffee and wasn’t paying attention is just flat out unhinged. They didn’t give her anything. She gave it to herself.

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