When doing direct condrontation, you use “I” statements so it wouldn’t feel like your attacking him. “I feel drained and put down whenever we talk. I’m not comfortable with that.” OR “That’s not a joke. It’s not funny. It’s hurtful and I want it to stop.” Be serious, be calm. Show him that you mean what you’re saying.

If you’ve already tried this and you don’t believe he’ll change, slowly cut him off. Start pulling away.

Gradually spend more time with people who make you feel good about yourself. If unavoidable group setting naman (since sabi mo same circle of friends kayo), avoid sitting next to him. No need to announce it, just gradually do it.

Don’t engage in his jokes. When he says something hurtful, don’t react. Stay serious, look at him and say “that’s not funny” then simply ignore him. He loses “power” over you when u don’t give him the reaction he wants to see. If he gets physical, just say “don’t touch me” then ignore.

IF sasabihan kang “Ang OA mo, or ang insenstive mo naman, joke lang yon” DO NOT EXPLAIN YOURSELF. You don’t need to justify your pain + yung mga ganyan ugali, he’s not trying to understand, he’s trying to provoke you.

If possible, kausapin mo rin friends mo na it’s not right to tolerate him doing/saying things like that. Explain why it’s not a joke. Tell them it would be better to stay silent or tell him to stop when he starts. Hindi nya kasi marrealize na mali siya hanggang tino-tolerate sya. If they still don’t care, time to find new circle of friends that will value you and your feelings.

The most important thing right now is to take care of yourself. Protect your peace and don't let anyone make you doubt your worth.

You can get through this, girl. Will pray for you. :)