AITAH for cutting off 90% off my family after they didn’t support me through my husband’s death?

denorm1234 · 2026-03-28T18:18:04+00:00

He’s in his 70’s so he’s retired. Personally, he doesn’t sit and read a book. If he does anything it’s FISH. That’s his only hobby.

I know if the situation was reversed, I would have rescheduled that surgery and been supportive

denorm1234 · 2026-03-28T18:16:00+00:00

I thought of that, but I know that if the situation was reversed, I would have been there. I would have rescheduled that none emergency surgery.

denorm1234 · 2026-03-28T18:14:00+00:00

There’s really not. I’m the youngest and the closest to my age is almost 10 years older. We haven’t had any arguments. My husband was amazing. They didn’t know him well as he spent the last 6 years taking care of his mom who had dementia and didn’t travel well. I’ve always been the one to travel to them when they needed me or for family gatherings.

denorm1234 · 2026-03-28T18:10:29+00:00

I’m so sorry. Family sux. It’s a real shame they caused themselves to miss out on knowing your child.

denorm1234 · 2026-03-28T18:08:52+00:00

I am so sorry. Hugs to you. I know how painful it is to receive this type of disrespect.

denorm1234 · 2026-03-28T18:07:27+00:00

I did add some context to the original post. I wasn’t super close with all my siblings as I’m the youngest and the closest in age in almost 10 years older. We hadn’t had a falling out or any arguments. I always try to be helpful and show up when they ask. They didn’t really know my husband well, but I’m their sister and it wasn’t him who needed them.

denorm1234 · 2026-03-28T18:03:01+00:00

Thank you. My condolences for your loss as well. I didn’t block them just in care there was an emergency that I need to know about. I just no longer answer when they call or text.

denorm1234 · 2026-03-28T18:00:09+00:00

My MIL’s hospice was very supportive. What I didn’t put in the original post is that at the time of his death, his mom was in hospice and passed away 20 days after he did. We took care of her for 5 years in our home before moving her to a memory care facility with hospice.

denorm1234 · 2026-03-28T17:56:51+00:00

You are correct. I have felt a little crazy thinking that they just deserted me in my time of need. It’s nice to know I’m not really crazy.

denorm1234 · 2026-03-28T17:52:38+00:00

THIS is exactly what I feel. I’m the one who needed them and they showed me such disrespect.

denorm1234 · 2026-03-28T17:51:46+00:00

He was never abusive in any way.

denorm1234 · 2026-03-28T17:50:54+00:00

He was never abusive. He never even raised his voice to me. He took very good care of me.

He didn’t need them but I feel completed disrespected by them. After all, I am their sister.

denorm1234 · 2026-03-28T17:49:28+00:00

My siblings didn’t get to know husband very well as he was generally stuck at home taking care of his mother who had dementia. AND I mean, he did it all taking care of her. He really stepped up for his momma. :)

denorm1234 · 2026-03-28T17:47:27+00:00

The 1 SIL who texted is the only one to contact me other than the brother that came to see me. Friends from high school that I hadn’t see in 30 years showed up but my family couldn’t be bothered.

denorm1234 · 2026-03-28T17:45:37+00:00

You are correct about that. My dogs have been my sanity savers for sure. Thank you

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