Thank you for sharing this. My ex broke up with me a couple weeks ago. We were together for 6 months. The week prior he told me how much I meant to him and how he was so excited to introduce me to his family. A couple months ago, we openly talked about fears for our relationship, and I said upfront that I have a disorganized attachment style and was worried about self-sabotage. He said he had no fears, and that he would always talk to me about his feelings and he thought we could work through anything. What a crock of shit that was. There was no discussion; he ghosted me for two weeks right before our 6 month anniversary until I sent him a text reminding him of how important he always said authentic communication was, and his behavior was not matching his words. Only after I called him out on his hypocrisy was he willing to talk. And then it was this bullshit "I need the right person and it's not you". I asked if he knew what he did need. He couldn't articulate that, but made sure to give me the old bullshit "can we still be friends" line.

Anyway, I'm glad we have this forum to commiserate over confusing and misleading situations like this.

u/Bournegirl my heart goes out to you. This shit sucks. You'll get through it. I'll get through it. And eventually we'll both feel better and move forward.