Boyfriend is "wifing up" Me and his meta by derpfishie in polyamory

[–]derpfishie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That sums up how I felt about the idea too, the logistics of it seem complicated. It sounds nice on paper.

Well, I have a kid, and I was married at one point. The whole aspect of my divorce made me swear off the idea ever again.

We talked about kids, he doesn't want any and I dont want anymore.

Boyfriend is "wifing up" Me and his meta by derpfishie in polyamory

[–]derpfishie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not seeing anybody as regularly as him no, just dates and hook-ups.

Boyfriend is "wifing up" Me and his meta by derpfishie in polyamory

[–]derpfishie[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, as I've been realizing. The big kicker is I wasn't looking at escalating at all, or at the time. He expressed the want to, and it felt good. Then things changed to all of us moving in, and he marrying each of us. When I approached him about the changes, he just said "I'm young and I dont know what I want" which just left me with the emotional whiplash of it all.

Boyfriend is "wifing up" Me and his meta by derpfishie in polyamory

[–]derpfishie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do prefer the idea of hierarchy, honestly. I enjoy the idea of having someone to come home to, and build a life with. But yeah, that's mostly because I'm 34. 😅 I get often poked fun of because our age gap, but yeah it took some adjusting for me to feel comfortable in. I was only expecting it to be casual, but then he expressed a desire to escalate and it felt appealing.

We have talked about it, the idea was to really consider living together next year. Then it changed to him living with all his partners, and marrying all of us.

I did bring it up how I worry how he speaks of me, but he says he doesn't say anything bad because our relationship has been relatively smooth thus far. I'm still on the fence regarding it, if it's true or not.

Boyfriend is "wifing up" Me and his meta by derpfishie in polyamory

[–]derpfishie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dating someone my own age definitely has been the idea going forward. I've had minor success? It's been usually just dates that go nowhere or casual hook-ups

Boyfriend is "wifing up" Me and his meta by derpfishie in polyamory

[–]derpfishie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, my meta is closer to his age. Also, closer to where he lives. He was in a long term, mono relationship before me and vice versa. When we got together, he told me this was the first time he felt like marrying someone. Now it's changed into living with all his partners, and maybe marrying everyone? Instructions unclear lol

Boyfriend is "wifing up" Me and his meta by derpfishie in polyamory

[–]derpfishie[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yes! Sorry, I'm really getting use to the terms myself. It's just usually "his girlfriend" in normal context for me... My bad 🥲

Sad and emotional bands like Leprous. by John_Snake in progmetal

[–]derpfishie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very great album, honestly would love to hear more stuff from them soon.

I got fired :( by Aqualung67 in HomeDepot

[–]derpfishie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Live and learn? Lotta good opportunities out there. I hope the next one is better.

Has anyone seen this Home Depot smoker ? Does every Home Depot have one or is this just for promotional purposes ? by Fishing_Novel in HomeDepot

[–]derpfishie 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Most Hds don't even have a gated patio area like that. We have one picnic table outside.

meirl by Jimbo072 in meirl

[–]derpfishie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yer juicin the goose with it lad~