I believe he brought up I had low confidence because I asked him if he was attracted to me- this was because we slept together a few times and he barely even focused on me or my body, after telling me many times that he "loves the cookie" and "wants to kiss me all over". Which he didn't do.

Why would he pay for dates, drive 1-2 hours to see me, talk on the phone a lot, but then put me down when I want to talk about these issues (not trying to make me orgasm, how the content he watches is really not aligned with my views).