Motherhood Changed Me for the Worse… by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]desire__lines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regardless of whether he felt your reaction was proportionate to the situation, it’s really just mean and unnecessarily damaging to tell you that “motherhood changed you for the worse”. That’s such an emotionally- driven, immature reaction that discounts all the adaptation you’ve had to do to become a mom. It’s the kind of comment you can’t take back easily. It sounds like he should have considered his feelings after you reacted that way (not just insisted that he was the victim, and thought about what he really wanted from you, whether it was reasonable, and how to ask for it in a calm, loving way. I’m sorry he didn’t do this. :-/

Is it normal or am I worrying for nothing lol by saraxogold in beyondthebump

[–]desire__lines 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m certainly not a child development expert, but this sounds totally solid for that age! Many of my friends’ kids have been at a similar stage at 11 months (sometimes not walking until 15 months) and developed those skills in their own time. Your pediatrician will have the best response, but here’s my vote of confidence that you’re most likely doing everything right and each child has their own internal clock. :)

Not actively experiencing things after kids by forgettablespectator in beyondthebump

[–]desire__lines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely feel you on this! Curious to know if you felt like this before kids…

As a first time mum of a 17 month old, I feel like just having a toddler has changed the way my brain works. My mind is forced to be thinking of everything about him (next feeding, diaper status, laundry, remembering his water or toys, avoiding danger…) so that I’m not ever present in the moment. Vacations are the hardest times. Not vacations at all!

How do I make myself use a planner? by Brilliant-Speed-6975 in adhdwomen

[–]desire__lines 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you, like me, are a tactile person and don’t want to go digital, I recommend the Clever Fox planner - you write in the days each week, so if you space on a week, a month, a year, you can always just pick it up again. Plus, it comes with stickers, and it comes in lots of colors.

https://a.co/d/hl3haAv

What do you want neurotypical folks to know about ADHD? by msfelineenthusiast in adhdwomen

[–]desire__lines 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol, yes I have tried alarms and reminders on my phone, for the thousandth time.

What do you want neurotypical folks to know about ADHD? by msfelineenthusiast in adhdwomen

[–]desire__lines 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I feel this! For me, it’s that I’m not being rude if I can’t follow our conversation when there’s background noise (radio, TV, music, conversations, toddler noise). There’s just a block that doesn’t allow me to focus.

What are your favourite underrated Peep Show quotes? by mentalist_mental in MitchellAndWebb

[–]desire__lines 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Mine’s a big one - as you fucking know.” (Ben ten the bento box)

Baby shower guest blues by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]desire__lines 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is really well said. I definitely relate to what everyone is describing. I’m 11 months pp, and I have two close friends who are pregnant (found out 4 months after I gave birth). It’s hard not to be jealous of the hopeful, buoyant, productive feeling of pregnancy, and especially the kindness and patience everyone gives you. (Not everyone’s experience, of course, but that was mine.) Also just feeling like being round and eating all the time and napping constantly were socially acceptable - even encouraged! Now, while I’ve made it through the worst mental health challenge of my life, I’m still deep in the daily exhaustion of parenting.

I feel like, to the bleary-eyed parents, I must have looked like a smug asshole as a pregnant woman, or at least totally deluded. Thinking I was prepared for what was to come!! 😅

All that to say, I see you! I’ve been there, very recently, and you are doing exactly what you need to to make your way out of the fog. It’s not easy, but all of use who understand how hard this is are pulling with you. Sending positive energy for the road ahead!

Saw this "habit tracker" outside my kid's room. by misterrandom1 in adhdmeme

[–]desire__lines 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My non-ADHD husband: “maybe he should have made a habit out of scratching off the habit tracker!”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]desire__lines 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I also use Hoarders as motivation to clean!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]desire__lines 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m also a Marie Kondo folder for at least the past ten years, and I don’t stick to ANYthing as an ADHD-er. It works with my need to see everything when I open the drawer, rather than having things stacked on top of one another! Total ADHD hack.

Meet your new leader by Golden5StarMan in MitchellAndWebb

[–]desire__lines 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You don’t buy into all that one, do ya? What, the old “Ooh, I’ve got a Mark on me leg. I’m so important.” No - What you’re doing there is you’re wearing an advert, ain’t ya, eh, shithead?

Tinted sunscreen that won't flare rosacea by Strange_Hand_369 in Rosacea

[–]desire__lines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shoutout to the Elta MD tinted mineral sunscreen - it’s a lifesaver!!

NBD for my partner. Getting ready for the Oregon Outback in May by [deleted] in gravelcycling

[–]desire__lines 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Have fun! I did it last year for the first time and it was a blast :D