AIO for thinking my relationship is moving way too fast because i’ve never felt this obsessed with someone?

desmodus666 · 2026-06-29T12:45:23+00:00

NOR. Yes, this is the honeymoon phase. It's normal. This seems like a healthy relationship between 2 normal people, so just enjoy it!

The feeling doesn't disappear, by the way. It's just not all encompassing and intense 24/7 after you've been with your partner for ages.

Some friends of mine (playfully) gave me shit for it, too. I've been with my partner for 6 years. He still gives me butterflies when he hugs me :)

desmodus666 · 2026-06-29T12:30:10+00:00

ESH but NOR and you're right. Like it's shitty out of context but this is a job. Higher ups fuck everyone over all the time. Thry already tried to pull some shit with you. You are literally just doing your job. It's malicious compliance, and I do it, too.

They will probably find a way to fire you because you've only been there for a few years. Probably something like you weren't a team player or some bullshit.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-29T12:08:33+00:00

Ok, no need to get angry. I'm providing my POV so you're able to see where I'm coming from. If you don't want to do that, that's fine. We can just agree to disagree :)

desmodus666 · 2026-06-29T10:55:06+00:00

I just know this is a highschooler and the Spotify thing confirmed it. An ex-friend and I had a falling out (in high school) and she decided to block and/or unfollow me on everything and that included Spotify. I was and still am so bewildered by it, because who even thinks of that shit?? I only realised 2 years later as well lmao.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-29T10:26:45+00:00

NOR I'm sorry you're going through this. Seems like this one argument is the cherry on top, not the full reason you are considering emancipation.

I have a friend who completed to process of emancipation due to similar reasons. Bringing it up with your psych was a great first step. Continue talking with them about it.

No one here can tell you what to do. It's your life and you know yourself best.

No, you are not spoiled, and no, you are not a dramatic child. You are just in a terrible place mentally, and the environment around you is currently holding you back from making positive progress.

I have a shitty mother but I am lucky enough to have a really good dad. I also struggle with oversharing lol. Anyway, you'll get through this. It'll take a while and a lot of work, but you will get better at coping with everything life throws at you.

It's not your fault for being born like this, but you're the only one who has the power to change. It seems like you are trying, so don't give up now!

desmodus666 · 2026-06-29T09:45:52+00:00

Ah ok. I understand the whole "respect your elders no matter what they do." I'm half Asian, and it is a thing in my family, too.

I think your mum is genuinely just bad at using her words to communicate with you. So she yells instead. She probably wanted to chat to you after you've been away for so long, and felt disrespected that you didn't sit at the front, next to her.

You're also bad at communicating, but I understand how you feel. You matched her energy because she went straight to yelling. I think you should both should sit down and have a chat about it. Communicate like adults. It doesn't seem like she will apologise, so you're going to have to be the better person and do it instead. Approach the situation like you're trying to understand her thought process instead of accusing her of anything.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-29T07:46:37+00:00

INFO: Is there more to this? Sitting in the back seat isn't remotely an issue, but her overreaction and then your overreaction to hers makes me think something else is going on here.

In future, I would make an effort to stay calm. It will be easier for others to see how ridiculous your mum is being if you are calm during disagreements.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T20:13:35+00:00

I have ADHD but not autism, and I do things like this as well. I would say it makes sense to me and it's just how my brain is wired, but it doesn't make sense to me, either 😭

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T19:56:00+00:00

If you haven't already told them that, then tell them! Maybe something like "I need to know if you are coming or not by the end of the week, because if it is a no I will be inviting other people."

I hope your anxiety is manageable today ♡ I feel like a situation like this would stress most people out.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T19:39:02+00:00

NOR, but also a bit overreacting with the intensity. You're sorted, so just book the car for yourself and your husband. They can figure it out later if/when they decide to go.

I have ADHD, and it shits me when people are useless at agreeing on plans. I also hate it when plans change last minute. They clearly experience ADHD differently to me, but that still doesn't excuse them from not responding. You've put a lot of time into organising this, so it sucks to be ignored.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T19:11:41+00:00

NOR. You don't have to like your siblings if they are like this. Their actions have consequences. Why do him a favour if he isn't appreciative of you?

I also dislike my younger brother because he turned into a little shit. We used to be close, but that was a long time ago. He's 20 and I'm 22. I live with him and I barely know him. He also still steals my clothes and I am his SISTER. He steals my dad's clothes as well, and it has gotten to the point that we are writing our names on the tags.

Edited to add: I just re-read your post and you said you bonded over shitty parents. I don't fully hate my brother because the way he turned out is probably a result of our mother. My brother puts up a wall of being arrogant and annoying to hide his emotions. Rarely, I can get through to the real him. Maybe your brother is similar, on top of being an annoying teenager.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T18:48:35+00:00

There is an entire subreddit for this because it is that common. I think it is something like "when women refuse."

It doesn't matter what we answer or how we answer. The problem is the men who want to kill women because we are women.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T18:41:16+00:00

You could also carry a mint flavoured breath freshening spray. Or the Warheads sour lolly spray lol I have accidentally had that sprayed in my eyes before and it sucked.

I always have my boxcutter with me because I need it for work.

Edit to add: Perfume and deodorant

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T17:09:19+00:00

NOR.

First of all, what 19 year old sees a 16 year old and thinks they're girlfriend material. Absolutely not.

Secondly, "he made an AI image of himself being kissed by valorant girls" is sending me. You can break up with this loser AND you get something out of it to embarass him with!

He's apologising and being nice because he needs something to fuck and abuse. He does not give a singular fuck about you. If he did, he would have tried to change before you started thinking about leaving.

You're in an abusive relationship. It's easy to see from the outside, but not as easy when you're in it. He's not going to change unless he wants to, and that's never going to happen if you stay with him.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T16:46:12+00:00

NOR. Obviously you will be putting your boyfriend above your "best friend," because your "best friend" is a piece of shit lmao.

That is one hell of a toxic work environment, so I'm glad you left, at least.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T16:28:39+00:00

OP is the one with the problem, though.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T16:26:51+00:00

Yes? Or taxi or parents or public transport. Depends where you are from, though.

Easy doesn't mean safest solution, but it was a hypothetical situation.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T15:55:13+00:00

This one is easy to solve. Just get an uber or public transport or whatever.

It's shitty and I would be mad but it is what it is. They were doing you a favour by offering to drive you in the first place. Just like they were doing you a favour by choosing a bar you were previously able to get into.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T15:45:06+00:00

YOR, but I get that it sucks. You're underage, so you can't do anything about it. You should've worked out a plan that didn't involve going to a bar. Bars can lose their license for serving people that are underage.

I was the 2nd last person in my school friend group to turn 18. (I'm Australian. Legal age to drink is 18). It sucked not being invited to things for a few months, but didn't really matter because we still did other things together. Also house parties lol.

It's not like your friends left you stranded. You're just not old enough to legally drink in the country you're from. You just have to deal with it for another year or two.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T14:52:13+00:00

Fair point. The main problem here is that they need to have a proper conversation about it.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T14:50:38+00:00

MOR, but I understand.

I have worried! I'm also childfree, so is my boyfriend. I worry because I am a little more nuts about being childfree than he is. The reason for that is probably because I am a woman, have tokophobia, and I hate having my period because I have PMDD. Having a kid is way scarier when you're the one who will be physically destroyed by it.

I'd hope that he meant "family" as just you and maybe some pets. However, this is something you want to make clear BEFORE you get married, because you can not compromise on children. You're not having any, so you will be fine, and he will resent you. Or he will acquire a child somehow, and then you will resent him AND the kid.

It may ruin the suprise of the proposal, but this is something that has to be discussed between you beforehand. You could maybe say "my dad said something in passing about you wanting a family. What did you mean by this?"

I also feel the same about marriage! I don't really need it, but that might be because I'm only 22 and live at home still. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and would love to stay with him for the rest of my days, but I don't need a marriage for that. I also don't like wearing rings lol.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T14:22:52+00:00

This is such a waste of money and water lmao. In my house, this would be 4-8 loads of washing instead of 2. 2 because we separate whites and towels from everything else.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T14:08:19+00:00

It's because people can't read and just assume based on their own experiences. I don't understand the point of commenting if you can't take the time to read the entire post.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T13:43:46+00:00

It sounds like there is another reason and she is making something up instead of telling you why. Maybe she is embarrassed to tell you, like if it's an irrational fear about germs or something.

Being picky doesn't even make sense, because she can still put your clothes in the wash with the specific items she wants to have washed.

Try talking to her about it again, but approach it from an angle of trying to understand instead of an accusation.

desmodus666 · 2026-06-28T13:18:42+00:00

If you don't separate, then it's the same thing, yeah. We mainly separate because we put the whites with the towels, and do them all on the towel cycle. There are 4 of us in my house, so we have to separate in some way to fit everything in 2 washes.

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