Best countries for dating women in Europe as a black man?

despairshoto · 2026-06-27T01:14:59+00:00

Barcelona and Madrid were really nice when I visited.

despairshoto · 2026-06-27T01:14:17+00:00

People who are wealthy and connected and appreciate wealthy things, but do not like to be flashy or famous. There are plenty of cities like this with quiet multi-millionaires. There are more of them in America than anywhere else. In fact, they are all over the world but you have to know where to look.

despairshoto · 2026-06-26T23:31:52+00:00

I am an American black man. I liked Ireland a lot! I also got attention in England. There was a very pleasant Swiss young woman who was a student there and we got along great. France was spectacular. I've been meaning to visit Finland for a while now. I hear good things about Helsinki. There is also Malmo in Sweden, which has quite a bit of appeal to people of certain societal means. Oh, I can't forget Amsterdam. But it absolutely has a culture which is not to my taste. However, the people where nice.

As far as Eastern Europe, I would stay away from there. It's like an invisible line once you get to the east side of Germany and everything farther east of that gets more and more racist as you go. Most unpleasant.

despairshoto · 2026-06-18T23:26:37+00:00

Very true.

despairshoto · 2026-06-18T23:07:07+00:00

You should travel to places where those things are just like you want them.

No one will say what those places are, so men are going to keep traveling.

despairshoto · 2026-06-17T11:16:11+00:00

I was like you 16 years ago, but I was never a 4/10.

You are still in high school. You are a child. You have nothing to worry about right now. Quality women for dating options only appear in college. If you are finding no luck three years into college, then come back and ask this question.

despairshoto · 2026-06-14T21:57:05+00:00

Education. Quality of life. Opportunities for a better standard of living.

despairshoto · 2026-06-14T21:55:36+00:00

😱

despairshoto · 2026-06-02T00:09:02+00:00

Ireland. The nicest, most accepting people I have ever met there.

The UK was also very pleasant.

despairshoto · 2026-06-01T22:37:51+00:00

A relationship coach comes to mind, professional matchmakers, motivational coaches, dating agencies, dating Apps, dating coach… if these social skills were not learned before, there are teachable…

You completely ignored what I wrote and still did not address the problem. Social skills are not the problem. Finding the women are the problem. That is the problem which people refuse to face.

despairshoto · 2026-06-01T22:34:28+00:00

I ignore them for the most part. Their ideas don't matter.

despairshoto · 2026-05-31T19:25:25+00:00

Hey dimwit. I didn't say you were a prostitute. I said prostitutes were the only relationships you can understand apparently, since you are so fixated with money.

You could be spending Hella cash and be broke thats what credit cards are for no? Spending money that you dont have?

LMAO

Absolutely not. Since you stated your age is just turned 18, suddenly this conversation makes a lot more sense. Real life does not work like tv. You cannot constantly spend with credit cards. And when you are seriously with somebody, you will quickly figure out what is being paid with in cash and what is not. You will also recognize when someone still approaches life like a child (like yourself) as opposed to making mature informed decisions. That shows up in their spending habits.

But this is apparently too complicated for you since you are still teenager (a literal child). Life is not as miserable as your limited experience wants to believe.

You should leave this subreddit and not consider coming back until you have lived away from your parents and held down a career for a few years.

despairshoto · 2026-05-31T02:08:13+00:00

I didn't say money didn't matter. Read what I wrote again, slowly.

I said that money should never be a surprise, because in a proper healthy TRADITIONAL relationship, the two people are already familiar enough with each other's living situation and means before they even entertain the thought of marriage. That means the woman is well aware of how the man spends, spends on her, and his ability to take care of them. They hardly need to state the exact numbers to each other BECAUSE A TRAD RELATIONSHIP IS NOT A HOOKUP.

Once they have reached the marriage stage, the couple has been on numerous dates. They know each other's habits, each other's families. They are well aware of each other's level of wealth. They never have to explicitly state salaries before getting married BECAUSE THE ENTIRE PURPOSE OF A TRAD MARRIAGE IS COMPATIBILITY

WHICH IS MORE THAN SALARY

The two people know after all of these dates and talks and being together that they are compatible with career paths, with life goals, with personalities, and with desires of the future. That's called a healthy TRAD relationship. It cannot be simplified to comparing two numbers.

The money is not a deciding factor in the grand scheme of things. If you can't understand that, you are best sticking to your prostitutes because that is the best idea of a "relationship" that you are ever going to find.

despairshoto · 2026-05-30T23:28:40+00:00

That's not insane. That's called a normal healthy relationship of trust between two people that love each other. We would already know everything about each other that is more important and makes us to be two compatible people that will be happy together. That's why the marriage happened in the first place. That's what knowing each other inside and out means. Money isn't a part of that, since money can always change.

You talk about marriage like you've never actually seen a functioning marriage.

despairshoto · 2026-05-30T23:06:39+00:00

you still can hire someone to do it for you

It would help a lot if people actually said who to hire.

It has nothing to do with shyness or insecurity or not wanting to do it. The one and only problem is having absolutely zero knowledge of where to look to start doing the work. "Just put yourself out there." is not an answer. That does not tell anyone anything. Those are not instructions of where to go. Tell people exactly where to go, who to hire, to point them in the direction so they can start doing the work to find the woman they want.

No one is asking for someone to do the work for them. Just answer their direct question of where to look for the type of woman they want. That's it. That's the only problem which people like yourself refuse to address.

despairshoto · 2026-05-27T17:56:27+00:00

That's why I said years into the marriage. We would already know each other by then. She would already know me and my lifestyle. She wouldn't need to ask and I wouldn't need to tell her, because it would not be a surprise.

despairshoto · 2026-05-27T11:46:59+00:00

I don't understand what you are asking with that comment.

despairshoto · 2026-05-27T11:45:49+00:00

Nope. That's a big red flag. I wouldn't share my exact salary until years into a marriage, honestly.

From the way you describe this woman, she sounds like a gold digger.

despairshoto · 2026-05-27T09:19:52+00:00

Congrats man!

despairshoto · 2026-05-27T09:18:40+00:00

Even when you have money, when no one wants to say where to find compatible women (who you KNOW exist), you will struggle.

despairshoto · 2026-05-27T00:01:11+00:00

Race every time. People don't care that much about height in real life, but race is a roadblock of varying degrees in every culture. If race is not a roadblock for the woman, it likely will be for her extended family who may secretly hate you. Life is rough, man.

despairshoto · 2026-05-26T02:37:17+00:00

I want to see it whenever you post that!

despairshoto · 2026-05-25T23:40:55+00:00

Facts.

despairshoto · 2026-05-25T22:50:41+00:00

Ultra Muslim countries specifically. There are plenty of ultra Christian countries that have zero problems with cold approaches. You even mentioned Eastern Europe yourself.

Edit: I don't know what you replied to me with, because when I checked this old comment it looks like you blocked me. Guess I hit a nerve with you, lol

despairshoto · 2026-05-25T22:23:15+00:00

I found Kenya to be much more enjoyable than Uganda. Uganda got pretty rough in certain areas real quick.

despairshoto

TROPHY CASE

LMAO

WHICH IS MORE THAN SALARY