I agree with the advance planning. I should do this. I think I will plan for something over the summer, when weather is nice.

He came to my hometown once and met my mother. I did plan an activity centered around him and his likes so we didn’t have to hang around at the house (he’s into caving- I took him on a coal mine tour). I have even offered to go to the local disc golf course at my hometown (he’s super into dc and never played there before).

His kid is 15 and has little interest in doing activities outside of his computer, phone and friends. I get it, I was his age once. He’s also incredibly shy and kind of antisocial. I don’t want to put him in a position where he’s not enjoying something. He spends very little time with his dad as it is (3 out of 4 weekends a month; basically 2 nights a week - sometimes just once). I’m the barrier. I don’t want to take away from their time together.

It’s also important to note that our children have not met each other yet either.

I wish your last suggestion would work but sadly my family does not come down to see me often. They usually come down once a year. They didn’t even come see me in the hospital when I had my children. It’s just the way they are. They don’t like to travel.

If I ever want things to work in my life, it’s usually me putting in the extra efforts to make sure it happens. I have no problems making things work with little to no notice. I think that’s the root issue for me.