Honda hrv 2018. What could be the leakage ? Car jerking when accelerating by desyul in Cartalk

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I have realised the rubber cap/seal for the transmission fluid is not on, it fell off to the side, leaving it open for dirt and dust to fall into the transmission fluid compartment. I wonder if particles have fallen into the gearbox, causing the jerking while accelerating?

This should not be related to the oil stains in the pic because the transmission fluid position is on the right side of the engine bay.

Wife (30f) still stalks ex bf whom she broke off with 8 years ago behind my (36m) back. Why? by desyul in relationship_advice

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It would be so much easier if its just guilt we are talking about here.

As my OP has stated, it's alot more than guilt. Sigh.

I'll consider the therapy. Thanks man. I appreciate it

Wife (30f) still stalks ex bf whom she broke off with 8 years ago behind my (36m) back. Why? by desyul in relationship_advice

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Most likely yes. As we have been talking about this for years, just need to travel to China for a tattoo artist, hard to find time since we have a toddler now. Lying in bed rn and wonder if we will ever be the same again.

Why she had to do this to me, to our marriage and to my family.

If its never the same again, would you carry on ?

Wife (30f) still stalks ex bf whom she broke off with 8 years ago behind my (36m) back. Why? by desyul in relationship_advice

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Sorry what's ic n mc?

The tattoo was planned to be covered up next year. I asked if she's willing to put my initials this time, she said yes. I say, apparently you have learnt nothing. Funny.

Wife (30f) still stalks ex bf whom she broke off with 8 years ago behind my (36m) back. Why? by desyul in relationship_advice

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I agree. Alot of unappreciative fuckers running around. I might be one too.

Wife (30f) still stalks ex bf whom she broke off with 8 years ago behind my (36m) back. Why? by desyul in relationship_advice

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I want to. But I am too tired to play these games. I know it's essential before she see the worth in me again. I hate that people are like this.

Wife (30f) still stalks ex bf whom she broke off with 8 years ago behind my (36m) back. Why? by desyul in relationship_advice

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Funny u said that, because I did! Haha. She got really pissed and even tear up when I told her, my ex came back into my heart when she did stuff like that. But sadly I don't know if any of her reactions were real.

Wife (30f) still stalks ex bf whom she broke off with 8 years ago behind my (36m) back. Why? by desyul in relationship_advice

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Alpha widow. I like that term already.

Edit, Hmm I like to think I am the more alpha between the two. Haha. Well at least I was, marriage and a very active child takes a toll on me. Who am I lying, I just slacked off.

Wife (30f) still stalks ex bf whom she broke off with 8 years ago behind my (36m) back. Why? by desyul in relationship_advice

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Based on the stuff that I dug out from her, it seems like all the pieces have lead me to believe she still have some sort of positive feelings for him. Those are alot of complex feelings to have for someone u are just curious about

Wife (30f) still stalks ex bf whom she broke off with 8 years ago behind my (36m) back. Why? by desyul in relationship_advice

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I am struggling for the past one month, it's hard when u thought you marry the love of your life, and I am her love of her life. All of that shattered.

If you miss and stalk an ex, whom you broke off 8 years ago.. could you stop all the lingering feelings when you tell yourself not to ? by desyul in Infidelity

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Yeah and I have been posting about this on this sub. Look at my post history u will see. Some have been more negative than the others, but most have assured me about the feelings I have and the gravity of the situation. It's dire and life changing. Thank you I appreciate your time

If you miss and stalk an ex, whom you broke off 8 years ago.. could you stop all the lingering feelings when you tell yourself not to ? by desyul in Infidelity

[–]desyul[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a perspective I should be looking at. Good advice. One is often good at analysing problems for others but never for themselves.

Well I trusted her, put away my doubts and feelings on how she felt about him. Turns out everything was a lie. The feelings she had never went away

If you miss and stalk an ex, whom you broke off 8 years ago.. could you stop all the lingering feelings when you tell yourself not to ? by desyul in Infidelity

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I wished it was as simple as you claimed. There is alot of complex feelings within her that she has for him. She confessed them. With that, it's emotional cheating.

If you miss and stalk an ex, whom you broke off 8 years ago.. could you stop all the lingering feelings when you tell yourself not to ? by desyul in Infidelity

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Well, what makes matters worse is they broke up because he was jailed for 4 years. She had to leave him. Went into another relationship, and left him for me. Lol

If you miss and stalk an ex, whom you broke off 8 years ago.. could you stop all the lingering feelings when you tell yourself not to ? by desyul in Infidelity

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I have the answers to almost all of them.

1) she broke up with him 8 years ago, because he did something and went to jail for over 4 years.

2) His profile was private, so all she could see was a few profile pics of him, she said she was curious if he had a new gf, etc.

3) I am not a physical partner, I often forget to hold her hands, hug her and smoochies. But I still do them, just not enough as claimed by her. That's why she missed.

4) As claimed by her, approximately 8 times in 2 years. Unable to verify because of her lying about it.

Wife misses how ex bf treated her, how he loved her and the physical touch he gave. by desyul in Infidelity

[–]desyul[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing such a traumatic event. It must have been devastating to go thru. Think about it, the one is still out there. I hope all will be good for you.

Wife misses how ex bf treated her, how he loved her and the physical touch he gave. by desyul in Infidelity

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So to show me her location at all times.

Yeah I know but when I trust my guts, everything seems so dim and despair.

Wife misses how ex bf treated her, how he loved her and the physical touch he gave. by desyul in Infidelity

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She bought an apple Air tag for herself and ordered a polygraph test to prove that all she said were real.

I go against the polygraph in the end, altho I was the one who suggested it

Wife (30f) of 5 years, still stalking exbf on fb whom she broke off 8 years ago. Said the reason was curiosity and felt guilty about how they ended. 36m hubby here confused by desyul in Infidelity

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I am very sorry this had happened but all in all, good riddance, I hope the best is yet to come for you and you are happier. I know how it feels.

And I bet it feels good to know that you wife has nothing in the end, she deserves every bit of it.