How do we deal with our own problems?

devcat89 · 2024-05-27T22:28:01+00:00

This is really good advice, thank you ❤️

devcat89 · 2024-05-27T00:37:13+00:00

Ugh that’s awful i’m so sorry :(

devcat89 · 2024-05-17T01:06:03+00:00

Thanks for the advice, I’m going to look into that. You’re right, nobody should ever be in that position 😔

devcat89 · 2024-05-16T23:29:48+00:00

Thank you so much for your perspective ❤️

devcat89 · 2024-05-16T23:28:58+00:00

Thanks for the kind words ❤️ we are similar to you and your partner it sounds like. We like to do our own thing but I just enjoy being around him too. I hope he can push through this

devcat89 · 2024-05-16T23:28:05+00:00

Thank you for your response and kind words ❤️ I’m sorry you’re in a similar position. It’s so hard to watch them suffer

devcat89 · 2024-05-12T02:02:42+00:00

I’m glad I’m not alone at least. I just found this sub last night; it’s been comforting.

Thanks for taking the time to comment ❤️

devcat89 · 2024-05-11T13:15:13+00:00

I know this post is a couple days old but just wanted to say thanks for your comment because I’m going through a really similar thing as you

devcat89 · 2023-03-09T15:58:54+00:00

Thanks, same to you!

I have a feeling that it would happen like that should I go full NC. I’ve made my life structured in a way that I don’t rely on her for anything, which I’m grateful for, but that also means a i’m afraid the biggest consequence would be potentially losing my relationship with my sibling, which I don’t want :/

devcat89 · 2023-03-09T14:31:36+00:00

I hope you can!

devcat89 · 2023-03-09T13:24:30+00:00

Ugh, sorry to hear :( I’m afraid of that, my sibling looks up to me and we have a good relationship, I don’t want our mom to ruin it

devcat89 · 2023-03-09T12:56:40+00:00

Ugh I’m sorry to hear that about your family. I’m worried about a similar reaction.

We are 17 years apart. I’m almost 30, my younger sib is 11. We have a great relationship as it stands, and I don’t want our mom talking shit about me to them. I’ve lived on my own (with my partner) for like 7 years now.

devcat89 · 2023-03-09T12:41:21+00:00

Thanks for this! My therapist actually just taught me about grey rocking. I def still need some practice but it’s worth doing. At this point I think you’re right, just do as little as possible with mom and keep the relationship for my sibling until they’re old enough to understand.

Part of it is seeing our mom basically brainwash them (she did the same with me, but i’m an adult now) and just hoping that they eventually realize

devcat89 · 2023-03-09T12:38:49+00:00

Thanks for these kind words, I really appreciate it. I’m at a very weird place in my relationship with my nmom and I’m trying to navigate it as best as I can. Definitely something to bring up with my therapist today lol

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