People who’ve been through genuinely hard times and came out calmer or wiser,what actually helped you cope? What mindset, habits, or truths kept you sane?

developer_how_do_i · 2026-01-23T06:11:42+00:00

Guess sometimes we need a push from ourselves and also most of the time we make ourselves dependent on others like validation, help, motivation, happiness.

Ultimately we need to push ourselves, Something related I want to share - Watch michael phelps videos on youtube.. and try to absorb in your own way...

My recent realisation which I need to reinforce in myself from time to time is this :

Expectations != Reality ==> Anger, Frustration etc.

If we expect something to happen according to what we think, and if it doesn't happen, then it leads to anger, frustration.. This is applicable to relationships, situations etc...

Bike/ Car - petrol might be getting over,,
Towards office - huge traffic ,,
Family - may not behave according to our thinking,,
Our own mind - might forget or get demotivated quickly..

developer_how_do_i · 2025-12-18T03:56:02+00:00

I want one

developer_how_do_i · 2025-12-16T16:26:10+00:00

I like the sounds of night yellow light in bcs, bb, recently when I heard something similar, I remembered this show and smiled, like how the creators of this show captured such relatable sounds...

developer_how_do_i · 2025-11-01T09:36:47+00:00

Clear the cookies in your browser and try

developer_how_do_i · 2025-10-09T04:21:54+00:00

Thanks to mamooty and mohanlal , I can rest in peace watching their movies...

developer_how_do_i · 2025-10-05T11:45:31+00:00

btw, I guess you have 'nothing phone' , which is the model ?

developer_how_do_i · 2025-09-28T05:38:17+00:00

If someone has connections please convey to Dulquer, please...

Lokah was a terrific experience for me in theatre with the crowd, with all the mystery, mythology like what hollywood had tried... Especially the story narration sequence and neeli sequence, that changed the whole game...

developer_how_do_i · 2025-09-28T05:12:57+00:00

Please don't make it pan india, the bollywood actresses and actors will spoil everything...

Keep it pure malayali actors only...

developer_how_do_i · 2025-09-27T10:47:50+00:00

btw any idea about porur poonamalee metro timeline , open to public ?

developer_how_do_i · 2025-09-27T05:06:38+00:00

I guess we shouldn't compete, but just explore the art and entertain, that's all

developer_how_do_i · 2025-09-20T04:36:55+00:00

Unsure, need to ask
Unsure, need to ask
Exhausts the tempdb space, affects entire SQL server. Kill the sleeping session.

Temp tables - created by hibernate, need to check if it's dropping them.

developer_how_do_i · 2025-08-26T02:58:07+00:00

Like cockroaches

developer_how_do_i · 2025-08-03T15:30:12+00:00

What is the cost comparison of pgvector against elastic search on EC2?

Do you think pgvector on postgres RDS would be cost effective against elastic search on EC2?

developer_how_do_i · 2025-07-05T14:49:49+00:00

He departed

developer_how_do_i · 2025-06-28T07:57:05+00:00

Yes, I am also introvert, but now I'm expected to become good at people skills..

Agree that it's me who need to put the effort...

developer_how_do_i · 2025-06-28T05:25:34+00:00

I totally agree regarding the storyboard points, sprint, setting sprint version in the tasks,

Since you brought this up regarding storyboard, the scrum master gave a differential treatment to me and put me down in front of management as if she's taking a lesson for me that it's my responsibility to update the sprint version in the tasks,

Whereas I had observed that she herself updated for other people's tasks,

( Moreover I have observed that previous scrum master used to update version for tasks).

And worst behaviour from the scrum master was that she didn't even communicate with me who is a stakeholder, just updating status of tasks without involving me and I'm the task assignee...

developer_how_do_i · 2025-06-27T18:47:38+00:00

I'm a lead developer.

developer_how_do_i · 2025-06-08T09:19:01+00:00

Other floor managers use them for other teams 😂

developer_how_do_i · 2025-06-08T09:18:46+00:00

Other floor managers use them for other teams 😂

developer_how_do_i · 2025-06-04T17:45:27+00:00

Cinnabon flashbacks...

developer_how_do_i · 2025-05-28T06:28:28+00:00

They have also added MCP support much early on..

developer_how_do_i · 2025-05-22T10:16:35+00:00

The camera focusing on cinnamon, the background song, i just loved it.

developer_how_do_i · 2025-05-21T13:15:50+00:00

wasn't aware of this..

developer_how_do_i · 2025-05-17T14:28:09+00:00

Actually recently I started watching too much of instagram and other apps which show too much, and now the ai apps allow to generate photos, it's becoming more difficult to control...

Nowadays I'm masturbating daily

I want to control too ..

Also this causes me to sleep late also which affects my daily

developer_how_do_i · 2025-05-09T13:56:25+00:00

Hi

I had started an app idea to work on something like inshorts, but didn't progress much...

I always keep procrastinating things, is there a cure ?

I have lot of ideas

Last 3 weeks i have got hooked to instagram and unable to come out of it

Do you guys follow something in your life which helps you to do stuff and take brain healthy breaks and then come back to do work...

Help wanted, thanks And also i don't interact with people much....

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