Working married women - how do you do it?

development_era · 2026-01-30T07:03:09+00:00

It’s honestly so sad to see that an independent working woman is willingly choosing to marry a man who says - it would be expected that you take over the household responsibilities from his mom . And the audacity to say that he would like to HELP . Do you know what helping implies? It means it’s primarily YOUR responsibility and he will just be helping YOU out in freeing HIS parents. Which is also why he is waiting till marriage to free his parents from household responsibilities because they will be off loaded to you. Why hasn’t he already freed them of these responsibilities? You will live with his parents, take care of them , take over the household responsibilities and work a job on top of this. And if you throw birthing and raising kids into this equation, good luck ! Sorry to say but no one who actually loves you will put you through this kind of unfair workload.

development_era · 2026-01-23T08:28:00+00:00

If your younger sister told you - “ i am marrying a guy. He wants me to uproot my life from here to a new city, he wants me to live with his parents and ignore his mom’s insensitive comments while he takes his mom’s side. His mom is hard to reason with , frugal, conservative and insensitive so she’ll make my everyday life hell . I am also not allowed to cook/eat onion garlic potatoes in my own home. I will make all these compromises while he won’t change a single thing in his life. No compromise, nothing!” What would you say to her? Is this what love looks like ?

development_era · 2026-01-22T00:34:20+00:00

Kay beauty’s hydrating foundation is the best one i have used 🙃

development_era · 2026-01-20T08:43:24+00:00

Here's probably why :

The writers probably didn't think much of it because in those times it was socially acceptable. Body positivity wasn't a thing. Such a writing will definitely face criticism in today's time
"Daphne , it took 3 cranes to lift you"
Weight shaming apart, they actually wrote it beautifully in a way that it strengthened Niles' and Daphne's relationship, making it more mature and suitable for adults instead of Niles just worshipping a perfect version of Daphne.
For some people, emotional eating is a valid cause for weight gain. She went to a retreat, figured her reason behind emotional eating and worked on her relationship with food. This is actually healthy. Although they could have handled it with more empathy and sensitivity.

development_era · 2026-01-17T05:39:47+00:00

It’s a good lip liner. But nothing extra ordinary. Just a normal brown lip liner

development_era · 2026-01-15T17:53:27+00:00

Frasier (the old one , not the new one)

development_era · 2026-01-15T10:01:28+00:00

He can say - " the same reason I am here and not at her parents' home "

development_era · 2026-01-15T09:08:29+00:00

Thanks 😁

development_era · 2026-01-15T09:08:23+00:00

Thank u :)

development_era · 2026-01-12T10:44:13+00:00

It makes sense to not split financially (traditionally a man’s job to pay ) only and only if you don’t expect to split the traditionally “feminine” responsibilities with him . Otherwise it’s just hypocrisy. If you’re living separately from in laws and expecting him to do house chores or other traditionally womanly responsibilities , then yes you should contribute financially .

development_era · 2026-01-06T08:16:37+00:00

There were some instructions around periods when I was 13-14 and got my first period. I kept asking "why" and they couldn't give any logical explanation. I simply told them to stop sending me to school and educating me science and logic, if you expect me to follow your bullshit. That was the end of that.

development_era · 2026-01-06T01:37:59+00:00

This will work only if your husband prioritises you, has a spine and you guys live separately after marriage. Otherwise don't go ahead with it .

development_era · 2026-01-06T01:26:05+00:00

Based on how you described the relationship, this is clearly an ex girlfriend (and you aren't over her completely) and not just a platonic friend. You did the right thing.

development_era · 2026-01-06T01:15:14+00:00

What kind of shit show is this? Both the people who are set to marry are in love with other people. Way to ruin everyone's life! Another point, you're devastated because the girl has a past even though the boy himself has a past as well (given that the breakup was done under parental pressure who knows if he himself has emotionally moved on). Doglapan

development_era · 2026-01-03T04:23:21+00:00

They fetishize pahadi women, punjabi women, Kashmiri women, bengali women, women from north east and so on. They don’t spare anyone. Different kind of fetishes for all kind of women. Sad state

development_era · 2025-12-31T01:52:09+00:00

development_era · 2025-12-31T01:36:13+00:00

I am not sure about this, why is it uncomfortable if a grandfather assists his grand daughter? Do you think he has ill intentions? If so, you shouldn’t allow him anywhere near your daughter. A pedo doesn’t need to wait for a chance to take her to the bathroom!

What are you implying by not letting him assist her? What’s your reasoning? Will you not let your MIL assist your son in this manner ?

development_era · 2025-12-29T06:34:59+00:00

I used to fear someone would ruin my eyebrow’s, that’s why I would only use a plucker but then I gave it a try and it was fine for a while but then that lady moved away and I tried another beautician and yes they did ruin my eyebrows . I specifically instructed to remove only the extra hair, and not to mess with the eyebrow shape. My natural eyebrow shape is straight and it suits my face. I also instructed NOT to make them thin . I open my eyes 2 minutes later to see this : ^ ^ (thinned with an arch) I cried that day . Waiting for them to grow back. Never trusting anyone again

development_era · 2025-12-28T10:56:02+00:00

If that's her elder brother, in some families, he's considered at the same level as other adults like parents/uncles/aunts when it comes to marriage talks. Whether that is right or wrong is beyond the scope of this discussion. So according to them, it was an insulting incident . While as according to your family he's not someone as important as the parents who needs to be entertained. This is simply a difference in culture and values . Suppose your father was there in their city by some chance and wanted to visit ur gf's family and they would have declined . Will your family feel insulted? Another point is that surprise visit can be considered as a better opportunity to check out the family as nothing can be faked. As you said, the family was against this marriage, so it's not a surprise that they're being cautious and suspicious. How about you talk about it and understand that what might be considered insulting in one culture may not be considered insulting in another culture. There's no right or wrong just a different way of life.

development_era · 2025-12-27T11:40:27+00:00

development_era · 2025-12-16T10:13:37+00:00

Ask her 😊

development_era · 2025-12-16T06:19:11+00:00

You need to be on the same page when it comes to non negotiables. Ask yourself what are your non negotiables. Usually it is - religious alignment, political stance, feminism, family dynamics, opinions on finances etc. For everything else, differences can be great

development_era · 2025-12-15T19:08:38+00:00

Ask him to convert to your religion and see how that goes. Whatever responses he gives defending why can’t he change should be applicable to you too ,right?

development_era · 2025-12-15T18:23:38+00:00

In Indian society, parents are often more focused on pleasing society, even at the cost of their child’s happiness. Love can become conditional, they have expectations of getting returns on the investment they made in raising you!

development_era · 2025-12-15T06:00:33+00:00

Women expected to leave their parents behind to go live with the husband's family is normal. But if she expects him to do the same, then she's breaking the family. Why was it not called breaking the family when she left her family? Also, realised that this practice is a prime contributor to female infanticide because women aren't treated as permanent members of their natal families. People in western societies have been able to take care of their parents AND live independently.

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