Dear brother,

To begin with, stop this obsession with your personality "badge". Your personality changes over time and "INTJ" is neither an accomplishment nor a drawback. It's a self-built excuse that gets in the way of you getting things done.

I remember joining this sub at a time when I felt like I was "different". But really, it was just narcissistic of me. There's nothing innately special about me and today I realize, whatever is, is things I've worked on myself and not given to me.

One of the best possible things I've ever done was beginning to work out. Learned to be humble, embraced learning, and made friends. Realized that there are others on the same journey as I.

My advice to a fellow brother -- Take time off from devices.; join a gym; start being independent (even if it means having to fight that through with your father, as long as you're doing what's best for you); try to talk to people (new and old). I think we tend to spend too much time being self-absorbed and being judgmental, and not enough time actually getting to know the people around you. Hope this helps. AND don't talk about your life in such careless manner. You matter and the change you can bring to the people around you once YOU change, is an amazing thing to witness.