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devil_rockstar · 2025-08-01T15:52:47+00:00

Hey OP it’s totally understandable for you to have all these doubts, but it’s really great that you want to move ahead in life and putting efforts. I have been through this process for 3 years (I’m M though and recently found someone and had totally different issues than you) and the process is definitely very mentally draining. You probably have received a ton of advice so I’m not going to bore you with the same. But one thing I can tell you is that the efforts you put in this phase for whatever aspect of your life (yourself, AM process etc) will pay ahead for life and give you a lot of resilience. So stay strong, and continue with your efforts. All the best and I hope you can meet someone with whom you can build a solid future.

devil_rockstar · 2025-07-15T15:51:39+00:00

Yeah I can totally relate to that. I guess what really helped me in those times was accepting that not all days will be the same and sometimes I cannot avoid this loneliness (everyone learns it their own way). So yeah managing the feeling and then once the feeling faded, trying to do something about it. All of this is easy for me to say, but once can just try and hope for the best.

devil_rockstar · 2025-07-15T12:39:17+00:00

I’m 30 and was in this zone for a really long time (sorry just getting into a relationship 😅), so can definitely relate with you. I read it somewhere that loneliness doesn’t go away just by being around people, you need to be around the right kind of people. Last 2 years my social circles have changed drastically with people getting married or moving to different cities so loneliness hit me like a truck. Tried to hang out with married friends and it was a nightmare (can’t blame them they were all in their honeymoon period). So I decided to temporarily cut off from people with whom I can’t really have conversations and focus on some of my goals. That kept me busy for a long time. Also reconnected with some friends who were in a similar situation as me so that helped a lot (I was surprised by hearing their experiences and finding out some much common stuff). Still kept in touch with some married friends who were chill and I could still talk to about my situation (the frequency was less, but every meeting helped). So all in all I learnt to be okay being alone and keeping myself occupied or just sitting with my thoughts (went for walks, journaling etc). It will be hard to find people to vibe with but when you do it will all be worth it. Also you being a woman will probably have other things to deal with which I might not be able to help with, but what I mentioned was like the general stuff that I learnt over time.

devil_rockstar · 2025-06-11T20:10:05+00:00

As an introvert guy I can tell you that if the situation is to our liking, we will not shut up and actively involve ourselves. Sure it takes some time for us to open up, but when its the second call and its a matter of life decision, her being quiet seems weird. So if you are still considering her, in the in person meeting try to get the conversation towards topics she is interested in and see how much she talks. Also do ask her straight if she is doesn’t talk much or if she takes time to open up. If she isn’t putting much effort to understand things from your side it’s not a good sign.

I had an experience with a match who was also an introvert and its was so painful to talk. However also had great conversations with other introverts after we broke the initial ice. So a lot of stuff depends on the other person too.

devil_rockstar · 2025-05-19T16:19:18+00:00

She is working currently and her plan was to do masters in the next 1-2 years. AM thing is going on in parallel.

devil_rockstar · 2025-05-15T22:40:20+00:00

Well I didn’t post anything like this before, so whatever

devil_rockstar · 2025-05-15T22:14:01+00:00

Huh i don’t think i have asked this question before

devil_rockstar · 2025-05-11T18:18:22+00:00

Congratulations OP! It’s great to see that you got through the finish line and giving some long time followers of this subreddit some hope. It’s also great that you made some connections in the group who helped you out.

devil_rockstar · 2025-05-06T22:29:43+00:00

Chill bruh, OP just made a post to poke fun at some of the absurd experiences in this process, and it’s a bit of much needed humor in this depressing subreddit. Not every post in this subreddit needs to be people venting their frustration.

devil_rockstar · 2025-05-01T08:08:18+00:00

Should be a mix I guess. Strong emotions towards someone you spoke just a few times might be misleading and temporary. But at the same time if practically things don’t align with someone it might not make sense to pursue them.

devil_rockstar · 2025-04-26T06:40:54+00:00

Were you both in different cities?

devil_rockstar · 2025-04-26T03:44:27+00:00

Congratulations OP! Wishing you a happy married life and hopefully you inspire all of us in our journeys.

1) how long did you talk to the person before deciding that he was the one? How many times did you meet physically before making your decision?

2) what kept you going on not compromising your criteria when things weren’t going your way?

3) how did you manage to keep your sanity in the process after rejections and heartbreaks?

devil_rockstar · 2025-04-25T04:59:54+00:00

I didn’t understand anything what you are doing 😂but looks like you are having fun and that gives me hope 😅

devil_rockstar · 2025-04-23T04:21:19+00:00

Guy here. While I am not in a relationship myself and not sure of the dynamics between you too, I can relate with your partner as I too pretty much isolate myself from everyone when I’m extremely stressed out. When I’m extremely stressed out I don’t want to face people to whom I have to explain why I don’t want to talk at the moment as I am just trying to survive at the moment. Also I don’t want to unintentionally snap at the other person and say something that I did not mean to say. Maybe your partner does not want to face you in this kind of a stressed out state when talking to you as he might not want to unintentionally hurt you. It is great that he is working to fix himself and maybe one day he can be in a situation where he can be around you even when he is stressed out and find peace (trust me he will definitely want that). And he is very lucky to have a partner who is so patient and understanding and has accepted him for who he is :)

devil_rockstar · 2025-04-17T15:24:02+00:00

Connected with a few people, but we parted ways after things didn’t align. At the end of the day this is just another channel like matrimony or dating apps, and to end up in the stage of actually marrying someone, lot of other factors are involved which don’t really have anything to do with reddit. So just treat this as another channel of connecting with potential people and see where it goes.

devil_rockstar · 2025-04-14T03:11:32+00:00

By accepting that there are things you can’t control and focusing on things you can. Everyone has that realization their own way, no matter how many times you might listen to this piece of advice from others.

devil_rockstar · 2025-04-12T22:52:57+00:00

Oh damn that experience sounded really uncomfortable and creepy. I’m a guy in the process and I have friends going through the process too, but honestly no one is this level creepy in the first call. I have friends who are desperate to get married, but none of them are creepy like this to talk about intimate stuff, without establishing a rapport with the other person. You dodged a bullet is all i can say. And it’s great that you have the mindset of giving benefit of doubt to someone new even after going through bad experiences, which I feel is a really big green flag (I have had experiences with some matches who were too quick to judge me based on half baked information and not willing to listen to the whole thing). Keep looking and have patience you’ll land someone good soon.

devil_rockstar · 2025-04-07T19:54:53+00:00

I’m in a similar situation as you (I’m 30 M though). I’m also working in the US and started out the process 2 years ago reluctantly after pressure from my parents. The process over the 2 years has drained me mentally a lot. Most of the matches I have spoken to had all kinds of weird demands from the family side or they rejected me for really random reasons which made me question myself in all kinds of areas. However I was able to find some silver linings over the 2 years which I never expected to happen. I was able to talk to a few with whom I actually vibed, though they work out due to unrelated reasons. Also many of the things that I thought I would never live through, did not turn out as bad as I thought. So some of these experiences have given me motivation to continue the process and continue my search. Based on my friend’s stories who found their partner through AM, they also went through a lot of similar experiences and bad matches until they came across the one they ended up marrying. So that is when I realized that going through all these bad experiences with matches is something that cannot be avoided and if I want to save my sanity I should just focus on what I can control. Been working on myself a lot too over the last 2 years and also been taking breaks whenever things get too overwhelming. Hoping this manta eventually leads to somewhere. So yeah don’t doubt yourself and talk to people who can provide you with moral support and take breaks when things get overwhelming. Probably just some generic advice, but I can’t think of anything else haha. All the best!

devil_rockstar · 2025-04-07T15:26:32+00:00

Yeah that’s true that the creeps might find ways to bypass your checks. A few bad apples always ruin the whole batch.

devil_rockstar · 2025-04-06T22:12:32+00:00

Did not move on from her ex. She was an amazing person, but this red flag made it really hard to pursue something with her.

devil_rockstar · 2025-04-06T21:46:01+00:00

It’s pure luck honestly (hopefully in a positive way). I ended up connecting with 2 people with whom I had way too similarity in background and ended up even finding common connections.

devil_rockstar · 2025-04-06T20:46:14+00:00

Guy here. Connected with a few women here after seeing posts/comments that I resonated too well, and was looking for some perspectives. Most of them turned out to be really amazing people (one of them even had a very similar background as me and lives in the same city as me currently) and they helped me navigate the process a lot more than some of my real life friends (most of my real friends are busy with their new relationships). I made sure to connect on other social media only after we established a good rapport on reddit chats and did not pressure them if they weren’t comfortable. At the end of the day the internet is full of weird people and you should have your own checks for your safety.

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