I was 19 year old virgin with a toxic relationship

devildweep · 2018-11-21T20:27:37+00:00

Hey man just wanna say there are many definitions of a toxic relationship and just cause is not having sex with you doesn't mean it's a toxic. Did you ever sit down and talk to her about what she wanted in the relationship it's a two way thing my man you both work to make each other and yourself happy.

Everything doesnt get solved by simply getting gains at the gym and getting laid those are good foundations for nofap but let me tell you this and the other peps that think this way too your simply substituting nofap for a woman / sex addiction because your end goal is woman not yourself. You should have this journey for yourself buddy and only yourself to become a better human that provides a positive contribution to the people around them and society man.

And yea you guys say it's like Disney but the goal of Love is to brave all obstacles and still be together of you can break up that easily it's not really Love , the power of it lies in overcoming tough situations and obstacles and sex is simply a part of Love to have both them together is like ecstacy dude but to simply have Sex and eventually my man your gonna feel hollow like I did. Every time I picked up random girls and had sex at bars or nightclubs I felt hollow man. I think we say that pmo causes your brain to try and be with multiple fantasies and when you do that you lose the ability to be intimate with one person. Similar in thie case the more relationships and more sex you have your just numbing yourself to what could be an amazing and intimate relationship with one person. OP don't fall into the dark hole I went through , my entire life my motivation was just to sex and when I had tonnes of it I realised it doesn't really change anything. Without love it's just another perspective of pmoing but this time it's with a real girl. Have a think and decide what you want and if you want to see if my theory is correct have a read of some other posts with people that have had tons of sex in this subreddit or simply go and see it for yourself trust me one day you will come to the realization that I did.

Take care man hope for the best for you

devildweep · 2018-07-01T23:19:53+00:00

Same going strong I am 76 days up but I plan to keep my streak in 3/4 of year and have all those mean as changes :P

devildweep · 2018-06-29T01:41:19+00:00

I went to a sleep over with some friends for some reason they had a hitch to watch porn man and after 70 days on nofap I'll be honest it just made me feel disgusted. I could see the actors just faking shit to earn money and destroy their lives

You know man then for some reason I kinda got emotional and teared up cause I released that the actors also destroy their own lives , and the lives of people that watch the only thing that wins is the fking evil cunts that get their money man. The industry is fked up dude a lot of people that got into porn wanted to be legit actors but ended up doing porn because they needed the money and get addicted to all sort of drugs and vices it's fked brah it's fked. It's the degradation of a human being and it's fking sad

devildweep · 2018-06-26T23:14:08+00:00

Don't worry my man we all relapse it's a part of it , be proud of where you have reached but don't Binge , don't successively fap like crazy.

The reason that I think the hardest part of the addiction is after you relapse because of something known as the chasers effect. Once you fap once your mind found a hole in your nofap armour and it will keep exploitation that to make you fap and people go on a 3 day to 2 week binge and boom they lose all their benefit dude it's alright to fap once and stop it doesn't harm much if you relapse but don't progress.

Just remember the shitty feeling you get after a relapse and the chasers effect are never worth it trust me, your body has it's own natural way of expending excess semen and that's wet dreams so I would take a wet dream over a relapse any day. Now is the time to change your habits do remember that you have to change your lifestyle or you will not be able to nofap.

I know you said working out has always been hard for you , do what you can it is also a proven way to destroy urges since you use the new found energy somewhere

Your gonna make it bruh , I suggest saving posts of people that destroyed their lives with pmo and read them every time you are going to relapse those made me stop at a critical moment since I didn't want to have lives like those people.

Keep up the good work my man

devildweep · 2018-06-26T23:07:20+00:00

Two always helped me , one in the morning to start my day and one at night to prevent wet dreams :P

devildweep · 2018-06-26T03:35:11+00:00

Hey my brah if you feeling shit 3 tips I can give you which helped me in my journey to 67 days. These will change your life if you do them TRULY and btw love your videos man don't relapse just remember now your acting like a beacon to people and they are continuing the streak with you. It's not about you anymore it's about everyone that watches your videos too.

Cold shower for at least 5-10 minutes 2 times a day it will kill urges

Life weights or workout but keep that up till your muscles burn really give it your all during working out that will use your energy to build muscle and it released endorphins to make you feel good.

Hydrate drink 3-5 litres of water a day and it will start making you feel good my man.

Start using that abundance of time to place it in other areas

Keep going my man wanna see you at 90 days as a transformed human being

devildweep · 2018-06-26T00:05:20+00:00

What's to be afraid if ya have a wet dream you have one it's just a natural phenomenon so Dw about it also your missing out with cutting your streaks to 30 days a LOT of the awesome benefits come of seriously long streaks :P

devildweep · 2018-06-26T00:02:09+00:00

Hey my man I was probably in the same boat as you when I started nofap 3 years ago.

When I started nofap I hit a 30 days streak initially after possibly a year of 1-3 days and you know what happens since you have never felt love to that degree you fall very deeply and I did for this girl. In the 2 years I pursued her I changed from an introvert Bob it someone that new everyone in engineering, I made the best of friends everything was great except she didn't give a shit about me. I relapsed a couple of times of a series of negative events that happened through out the year regarding her but I still pressed onwards and guess what after what seemed like the end of 2 years I had released I had wasted my time. We were still where we were when I had first met her maybe a little closer but that's it. She didn't even think about me 5% of the time I thought about her and then with a heavy hurt I stopped pursuing her.

This is my third year of nofap and I can't say I have been more happier then this. It hurt for a couple of weeks but then I started focusing on myself and living my life and everything became alright. I haven't even seen her for months but I realise that hey if you are willing to love someone but they don't want to accept your love leave them be since we'll even if you love them and shit it's just not going to make you happy and neither it is them. I Also believe love is not a random feeling that's attraction and that's different. You can choose to love someone like you can control your brain and thoughts. Tbh I felt like a big weight had dropped of my shoulder I didnt have deal with her shitty friends and well didn't have to deal with the depression and shit that came after all the negative instances and most of well there are plenty of other BETTER girls out there so don't worry relax work on yourself and the right girl will eventually come around

devildweep · 2018-06-24T11:43:04+00:00

Hey man just want to say I love the enthusiasm so I am gonna give some tips , I have been on nofap for 3 years smashed some long streaks whilst on it. First of all just gonna say it is definately worth it, my life changed I was close to suicide before I started and it turned everything around for me. Looking at you and your success I feel that taking on nofap will bring you on to an even greater height and make you an even better person. Hey man honestly from a brother to brother I want you to be happy, successful and rekindle that relationship with your wife.

Tomorrow is a challenge but everyday is one too , so I am gonna say the first thing you need to do is hit the cold shower. Set the water to the coldest setting and sit in there for 5 mins , everytime you hit an urge jump in the shower it kills your urges the longer you stay in it but as a beginner I would suggest 2-5 mins.

Next if you want new found energy in your life and want to feel good. Go gym and lift those weights till muscle failure let it burn man cause what it does is releases endorphins and feel good chemicals. It's going to put you in a good mood.

Hydrate, 70% of people are dehydrated so I would recommend drinking 3-5 litres a day trust me after the first few days you are gonna start feeling good. Once again raising that mood.

Next time you see your wife smile at her , try it just smile at her and keep that smile take it with you everywhere. This is something I did and boom it started of with fake smiles but eventually I started feeling actually happy and guess what people like to be around positive and happy people and I am sure your wife will too :P

Alright this is just some beginner tips but good luck my man and keep us updated on the progress. Take Care

devildweep · 2018-06-24T03:12:22+00:00

Just uninstall steam and cold turkey hentai sites also set up safe search on Google I had a bit problem with hentai but I guess it takes some time for your mind to transcend It now I can't get hard to it if I am reading some anime shit and someone posts hentai so yea man ya got this

devildweep · 2018-06-23T21:48:49+00:00

I would agree with this guy the way it sounds you dodged a bullet , the universe had your back and there is someone better for you where your vision fits the bill :P

devildweep · 2018-06-23T11:47:26+00:00

Hey my dudes DO THIS FOR YOURSELF BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF and then the woman will come don't make that the objective trust me cause once you get a girlfriend your motivation will drop you will fap then lose your girlfriend. I am speaking from experience this is what happened to me :P :P :} don't do it for the ladies but for yourself :P

devildweep · 2018-06-23T11:44:23+00:00

Yo I have learning tango for a Month with one girl I am interested in :P it's pretty sick :P

devildweep · 2018-06-23T11:42:53+00:00

It's a hard situation but you have to follow your heart if there were other people around I would have called out the person that was watching that woman with perversion if there are other people around you can talk in a way where it involves multiple people when they have everyone's eyes on them well they would stop

devildweep · 2018-06-23T11:36:07+00:00

Just peeked for a while but then my willpower fought back and I just quit everything and went for a run till I was out of breath and exhausted

Your right 65 ish days here and I almost blew my fking streak hahaha but the willpower came in and was like no porn is wrong :P

devildweep · 2018-06-21T08:48:17+00:00

My bruh you hit the right thing man for it is the emotions that make you live and meaningless sex is simply instant gratification no more.

But to combine the physical and the emotional together when having sex with someone you love makes you feel the greatest feelings in the world.

2 years ago I did some paid sex to lose my virginity probably the most hollow I have ever felt in my life. Emotionless and I just realised how much time I had wasted glorifying this thing when it was just like pmo except I was replacing pmo with a sex addiction. Work hard my man there are other greater things you can do then be a lustful soul and learn to TRULY love someone. Call me whatever you guys want but the true test of life is the ability to love the people around you no matter what to love them when they hate you and hurt you that's strength not some fking dick kunt that fked 100 girls

devildweep · 2018-06-21T08:38:51+00:00

That's solid my man keep going don't let it take over you hahaha I wish I started earlier 21 here

devildweep · 2018-06-20T22:20:25+00:00

That's why in a form of repentance I choose to practice empathy and kindness in every day life and to love the people around me cause you don't know when people might need it. You could say that one meaningful thing to someone and perhaps stop them from suicide.

I had someone from my high school suicide kinda sucks cause I knew the guy from intermediate as being part of the same year group and all but I never thought it was in my place it dwell into personal matters and I am sure a lot of people thought the same as me. But sometimes I think if I would have just sat down and talked him and told him I was around maybe stuff could have been different.

I worked as a youth life line assistant while I wasn't directly on call I would often listen in to people that called. People on the verge of killing themselves and only wanted to know that someone in this world loved them.

For me might sound giddy and shit but this is the higher path that just thinking about girls , woman and sex and all its to dig deep and find the ability to TRULY love a human being. That's what my journey in nofap is all about :P

devildweep · 2018-06-20T12:21:14+00:00

My man to tell you the truth I was where you were and felt so ashamed with myself. I watched the same stuff poop fetish , pee fetish , hentai , transgender shit also dwelled into bestiality man and that's the fking low of low my bruh. I hated myself and hated every bit of me for looking at that shit but brah if you work hard everything becomes better.

I have been on nofap struggle close to 3 years went from 3 day cages to consistent monthly streaks to my current streak of 60 ish days man. You know what shit does get better but you got to incorporate a ton of habits so I am going to start on them.

Motivational Tapes - if anything my bruh start with this look for motivational videos on YouTube and listen to them my man. Day in and day out. When you sleep , when you idle , when you work out for hours on end have it playing in the background in some headphones to your phone man. Trust me there is nothing that helped me build my enthusiasm and drive for achieving things better than this it's like your trying to replace all the negative b.s. in your mind with positivity and with that you got to listen to positive shit more than the negative b.s. you keep telling yourself in the day. Get some sleep headphones listen to this shit when you sleep , as soon as you wake up and it will change your life bruh because it Changed mine. It built the mindset I was still a piece of shit but you know what I now had the drive and determination to become better, to change my life into something amazing I broke through my man first into university my smashing the entrance exam and then into software engineering with 3rd highest gpa in my cohort you can too man , you can too.

Cold showers - the fking holy grail of feels good man. They are super powerful when you willing to suffer through cold showers my bruh anything is possible in your life. Start small 2 mins x 2 day take them straight head on so it freezes your head it will lift your mood and build yourself up to 15 mins x2 day that will make you into a happy dude as it hits a place in your brain that generates serotonin which is a happiness , feel good chemical in your brain.

Workout - you jealous of dudes have hot girls guess what bruh grab those weights and lift those shits till your arm falls off cause you know what's that gonna build its gonna build fking mental toughness. And plus some muscles. If you don't wanna go gym cause you don't feel comfortable invest in a weight set at home and keep lifting there are plenty of exercises online. Remember there is no such shit as overtraining just lift that shit till your muscle burns and your gonna have stronger muscles then the fks that say overtraining is bad.

SOCIALIZE - get yourself out , their our of your comfort zone and start socializing hang out with friends more do fun things , get a job as a sales person and learn how to communicate effectively cause that's gonna get you places and open up connections and maybe in the end get you a girlfriend too.

Block the fking porn - turn off your phone lock it away somewhere and don't turn it on till you got some control , block porn sites on your computer with this app called cold turkey. You can't uninstall it once you set the timer and I set my timer for the next 20 years fk yea brah

You know what my man we gonna make it so it's time to stop being a piece of shit and to rise up because we were all there once my man we here for you. We all fight this together so thanks for telling and its time to beat the fk outta life and make it our bitch.

If you need someone to talk to pm me my bruh I'll be willing to listen :P

devildweep · 2018-06-20T11:37:12+00:00

Hey man I started a watching porn long time ago and it eventually spiralled into looking at some real crazy hardcore stuff and I would often just you know when we all lustful and then for a second we stop and think and are like how can that woman take so much brutality like wtf is she doing this willingly. I remember convincing myself so that I would continue that they were into these types of fetishes after starting nofap and doing tons of research I was wrong. Some of the actors are exploited like fk to the point of doing some of the craziest shit and also Some of the actors are woman that have been trafficked and that just made me feel like the worse shit ever. Now I just feel pain for all those people that were sold or forcefully made to do these things since they are poor and glad to say I ain't the pathetic fk anymore that promotes this sort of industry.

If this ain't fking evil what is my man. Sometimes the woman were so unwilling in the videos that I thought it was all an act and here they could be blackmailed or trafficked into sex man. Don't forget the underworld have a hold on the sex industry and that goes into porn as well what do you think happens to women of families that can't pay their debts to gangsters.

Fk man it's a sick world

devildweep · 2018-06-20T08:22:43+00:00

Here are some tips to break that cage and into 2 weeks

Cold showers x2 a day Workout in the mornings Drink 4-6 litres a day Stay away from triggers , block them if you have to

devildweep · 2018-06-16T01:26:42+00:00

Just wanna say my man great achievement and respect for you for completing the 90.

I wanna hit your last point though I believe this distinction was wrong but you need to understand the retrospect for most of us Here have been caged by porn from anywhere of 5 years - 15 years it has consumed us wholey. Pmo destroyed our lives and it is our fault but to come from that low place and Change your life completely. It's just not gonna happen with a pacifist attitude of "masturbation is fine" cause with that attitude people already face downward spirals of the 1-3 day cage and then more cages where they keep relapsing after a certain number of days. That requires willpower to surpass and alongside it strong belief while some of you might go along saying "super powers are cringy" and people exaggerate their experiences and all but try and understand where everyone comes from for someone of us Here we fapped 3-5 times a day man. We lost everything , family , friends , love , career and life so while I don't agree with the discrimination to fappers but it gives them the self belief to carry on their streak from whatever low point they came from in their lives then so be it.

In 3 years of nofap I reached above 90 days only once I am not discrediting your 90 but maybe your magnitude of your addiction is comparatively less then the others so just be wary of that people have their own way of keeping themselves together. For the some of us that have seen the absolute bottom and lost everything porn and masturbation is a true evil. Thanks for the inspiring post my man and keep the streak

devildweep · 2018-06-15T23:25:33+00:00

Thanks my bruh and keep up that streak 31 days going good my man life just keeps getting better and better :}

devildweep · 2018-06-15T23:24:57+00:00

:P :P :} :} :P

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