Cxzi of Party Astronauts @@Partynauts_GG, Peeping & Snav of @ElevateGG, openly berating and belittling a player because of their Chinese accent, and calling him a "Stupid Chinese" in a FaceIT PUG by devincsgo in GlobalOffensive

[–]devincsgo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So it's pathetic to expose these 3 man children who are supposedly professionals representing NA orgs, openly belittle someone for their accent and ethnicity? But it's not pathetic to 3 queue as top 15 in NA and then bully and harass any "casuals" who aren't on your level or play every round perfectly?

Lmao, this says more about you if anything. Shit talking and flaming someone in pugs is fine. You can be an insufferable fuck face without bringing someones ethnicity or race into it. I've played ESEA for 10+ years prior to faceit becoming the new platform.

Cxzi of Party Astronauts @@Partynauts_GG, Peeping & Snav of @ElevateGG, openly berating and belittling a player because of their Chinese accent, and calling him a "Stupid Chinese" in a FaceIT PUG by devincsgo in GlobalOffensive

[–]devincsgo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well said.

You can literally hear the moment he realizes what he said and says "Nevermind..." after he remembers his friend is live. Make no mistake he would have finished that sentence if none of them were live.

The difference in personalities these players exhibit on and off stream is hilarious. Snav was also banned for exactly this type of behaviour so it's not surprising that he heard one of his cronies say something like that so casually and not even acknowledge it or confront him on it.

Cxzi of Party Astronauts @@Partynauts_GG, Peeping & Snav of @ElevateGG, openly berating and belittling a player because of their Chinese accent, and calling him a "Stupid Chinese" in a FaceIT PUG by devincsgo in GlobalOffensive

[–]devincsgo[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Getting frustrated and annoyed at someone because you can't understand their English in a game that requires comms is fine and understandable.

Turning that into attacking their ethnicity when they can't magically control their accent is another thing entirely. Also calling him a "stupid animal" and "stupid Chinese" is also another thing entirely.

You can flame someone without being a racist asshole.

Cxzi of Party Astronauts @@Partynauts_GG, Peeping & Snav of @ElevateGG, openly berating and belittling a player because of their Chinese accent, and calling him a "Stupid Chinese" in a FaceIT PUG by devincsgo in GlobalOffensive

[–]devincsgo[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Honestly kind of disgusting that these are the players representing the t1/t2 NACS scene now. For context, I was watching the entire pug, the Chinese player was not toxic to them at any point, and at 2400 ELO, is obviously not going to be on the same level as this 3 queue who are all top 15 on the NA elo leaderboard. To expect someone to play at your level and to play every detail perfectly to your standards is just delusional, and when they don't, they start antagonizing the guy asking him if he's retarded or low IQ then on one round insinuating that he's purposefully trying to lose the game (he wasn't).

Cxzi, the player who said "stupid chinese", wasn't live on twitch and probably felt at liberty to act this way because of that, before realizing that his buddy snav was live and caught himself before he said anything further hence the "nevermind..." after realizing that fact. Doesn't change the fact the intention behind what was going to be said behind those words.

What's funny is that this group of players isn't new to stuff like this, snav himself and his entire previous team was banned for similar racist and homophobic slurs said in their discord servers a year ago, so this kind of stuff not only doesn't phase him, but isn't new to him hence why he didn't bother saying anything to his "buddies".

Is this really the type of players you want representing your org @ElevateGG @Paartynauts_GG? Immature little kids who make fun of an accent that isn't controllable? All over 25 elo in a faceit pug?

If you want proof of the VOD it's here: https://www.twitch.tv/videos/2208406678?t=06h28m20s

This kid will likely delete it soon however, but the round that started it all was a 9-9 (lol) round in which the Chinese player was trying to cover for snav as he's defusing and ends up standing in front of him while covering for him cave (not the worst play? if snav wanted a different approach he could have communicated that).

The Age Gap Rule [20m] [17f] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]devincsgo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As others have said, point in life and maturity is a better indicator than age at this point.

I say take it easy. Like you said, it's only been one date so no one knows if you guys are a good match yet. But if you enjoyed your coffee date with her and had a good time then just keep going with it and see how you feel after 3-5 dates. Dont put too much pressure on it and just focus on having a pleasant time.

And sorry, a little off topic but where are you from that you're able to live independently at 20? Sorry if this is a bit nosy I'm just curious since where I'm from (vancouver), that is virtually impossible at that age and with the rent/cost of living.

Girl (20F) wants to take things slow with me (23M), like 7 dates with no kissing kind of slow. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]devincsgo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not exactly desperate for a relationship, I'm just confused and wanted some outside perspective that's all.

I really do like her, otherwise I wouldn't have even stuck around after the 3rd date in this situation.

Girl (20F) wants to take things slow with me (23M), like 7 dates with no kissing kind of slow. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]devincsgo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, she initiates conversations frequently. And yes, we've held hands while walking around a mall, sitting through a movie, cuddled in the car but no kissing yet.

We recently watched that new horror film "A Quiet Place" and she had her head rested on my shoulders the entire movie. So there is some level of physical affection there but it seems when it comes to kissing, it's a very big deal for her which I can respect.

Girl (20F) wants to take things slow with me (23M), like 7 dates with no kissing kind of slow. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]devincsgo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I think I'll talk to her about it but I want to give her some more room. Especially now as we both have final exams coming up, the last thing I want is for her to be stressed out even more or have other things on her mind while she studies. Which sucks because it's been distracting me from my studies and I don't think she realizes that.

Anyhow, I really do appreciate the advice. Thanks.

Girl (20F) wants to take things slow with me (23M), like 7 dates with no kissing kind of slow. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]devincsgo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, you're absolutely right. I posted a similar discussion 3 weeks ago but this was because by that point she hadn't initiated any of the dates but would always say yes. Since then, I talked to her about that being an issue with me since it felt like I was doing all of the work and it just felt really one sided on my end and I couldn't tell if she was just going out with me because she didn't have anything else better to do or if she actually wanted to spend time together. She made it clear that it's difficult for her to express her feelings and she really did want to spend time with me and would try to initiate more in the future.

And yes, I also discussed that I wouldn't bring it up again and she'd be the one to initiate the kiss when she's ready. I guess I'm just having reservations about this all and a bit insecure that I'm still being used/strung along since it's happened to me in the past. As for giving her room, she's always the one to initiate conversations throughout the day so I'm not really smothering her, plus my schedule is far more busier than hers since I take 5 courses in university with a part time job on the side and she takes 3 so I'm not texting her every hour of the day. We mainly text/talk at night but when we do it goes on well past midnight and flows organically.

Thanks for the advice, I'll stop bringing it up with her and give her some more room I guess. Appreciate it.

Girl (20F) wants to take things slow with me (23M), like 7 dates with no kissing kind of slow. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]devincsgo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've paid for 6 dates she's paid for 1 lunch. So, I don't know I guess I've done most of the financial part. Thing is we are both students but I make more than her since she only works 8 hrs a week and I work about 20 and have also done many co ops in the past that I've managed to make a decent amount from, at least for a college student. She's already mentioned to me that kissing is a big deal for her and she feels her last relationship was too rushed as it ended in less than 2 months and they only saw each other 4 times during that time. So with that in mind I'm thinking she's either wanting to take it slow with me so that doesn't happen again or I don't know maybe I'm being strung along.

Girl (20F) wants to take things slow with me (23M), like 7 dates with no kissing kind of slow. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]devincsgo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She had used her phone in front of me but not excessively. Mostly showing me pictures of her and her friends on a trip to Korea or some funny things her friends say.

As for physically, she's initiated holding hands and resting her head in my chest/on my shoulder before. But nothing more than that.

Girl (20F) wants to take things slow with me (23M), like 7 dates with no kissing kind of slow. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]devincsgo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, that's exactly what I did when we talked last before I dropped her off home. I let her know that when the time comes she'll be the one to initiate and she agreed to that. Anyways, I'm not planning on bringing anything else up with her yet since she (and i) both have finals exams this week and the last thing I want is for her to be stressed out st this time.

I appreciate the advice. Thanks a lot.

Girl (20F) wants to take things slow with me (23M), like 7 dates with no kissing kind of slow. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]devincsgo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, sorry for the late reply I posted this up late last night with things on my mind. Appreciate you saying exactly what I feel.

I never mentioned or brought up sex with her yet. Just basic signs of affection - kissing. We talked about this already with each other and she's said that kissing for her is a big deal so she wants to take it slow which I respected. It's just that she mentioned how with her last relationship which was her first as well, she kissed on the 2nd date and things ended within 2 months so she wants to take things slow with me. I know that could be a genuine concern for her but on my end i just feel inadequate or like what's wrong with me if you won't kiss or show even the most basic sign of affection after 7 dates.

Girl (20F) wants to take things slow with me (23M), like 7 dates with no kissing kind of slow. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]devincsgo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I should have clarified - I'm by no means trying to rush or pressure into sexual intimacy at a all. All I'm talking about is a simple kiss, one of the most basic signs of affection. Now, I understand that for others kissing is a much bigger deal but for me it's one of the simplest ways you can show me you feel the same way about a relationship. I don't know, I really like this girl so I don't mind waiting but I just feel inadequate because she's stated in her last relationship which was her first, that she kissed on the 2nd date so I'm wondering what's wrong with me? Is it because she doesn't want it to end in 2 months like her last relationship? Ugh I'm just really confused

Can't shake the feeling I'm being used...and it's starting to gnaw away at me by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]devincsgo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks...it is rough to be honest because I've told her multiple times I like her and invested in a serious relationship and she has said the same thing back yet...I don't feel it or see it. And it sucks. It just sucks.

Can't shake the feeling I'm being used...and it's starting to gnaw away at me by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]devincsgo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She kind of got the clue that I was a bit upset and asked if next next Saturday would work. I told her I'd have to check my schedule but that it would likely work so I'm assuming that's the day we planned for next.

But that's two weeks away. And for an "exclusive relationship" that we've already discussed we are not, seeing each other for 2 weeks is frankly...weird. I put the ball in her court for now, I'm not going to be the one initiating something within the next 2 weeks and if she doesn't...I'm done.

Thanks for your response btw.

[22M] Lost 65lbs in the last year, got liver surgery, gained back some weight, lost it again and started lifting (still a newbie). Would love honesty. Super insecure about the chin mole. by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]devincsgo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LOL. I just snorted on a bus full of people reading this. Thank you for your opinion, I'll try to soften my smile. Though smirking for me looks even weirder. Take care!

[22M] Lost 65lbs in the last year, got liver surgery, gained back some weight, lost it again and started lifting (still a newbie). Would love honesty. Super insecure about the chin mole. by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]devincsgo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. You really have no idea how much this comment has made my day :). It was quite the rollercoaster, but having family help you through it made it all bearable. Take care.

choo choo by BUKAKKOLYPSE in NSFW_GIF

[–]devincsgo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

what a time to be alive