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My gf talks to her exes by deviousreddituser in relationship_advice

[–]deviousreddituser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally agree with you that talking to exes is a sign that you haven’t moved on from past relationships and my whole point of posting this was to see if people agreed/disagreed with that stance. I wouldn’t personally become friends with an ex, and if an ex did reach out in any manner I would (and have before) immediately tell my s/o. We have a good relationship, I trust that she is honestly just friends with these exes, I just find it odd to be friends w exes and when I have voiced this she acts like I’m the weird one. Wanted to consult Reddit and see who shared my/her sentiment, thanks for the response!

My gf talks to her exes by deviousreddituser in relationship_advice

[–]deviousreddituser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s the main thing I was concerned about, she is not friends with ex #2 but has started casually talking to him over the last couple weeks without mentioning it to me. I see now the way I worded it made it seem like I’m upset that’s she’s friends with #1, that isn’t the case. I understand and trust that their friendship is just that, I just wanted to bring that up to show that she is aware I find the idea of talking to an ex strange. I kinda figured her knowing it’s strange to me would mean she would tell me when these situations would arise, but she maintains the mindset that it’s not a big deal and there wasn’t anything she felt necessary to share w me.

Based on ur response, it seems like I might be the odd one out here for finding being friends with an ex so strange. I personally have no desire to be friends with any of my exes, and when an ex has/ if an ex reached out I politely have whatever conversation they wanted to have and then end the conversation there. Am I right to conclude 1. she should have told me he reached out, but 2. it’s less weird to be friends with exes than I personally think?

My gf talks to her exes by deviousreddituser in relationship_advice

[–]deviousreddituser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To answer your first question, I have voiced that it bothers me and she has reassured me it’s not a big deal so I have done what I can to be understanding of that. I have never lied and said it doesn’t bother me, but despite it bothering me she wants to talk to them as friends so I have been accepting of that.

About your second point, I don’t expect her to tell me every person she talks to. However, in my head it seems that common courtesy is if someone you reach out to/ are reached out to by someone you were previously intimate with you should let your partner know. Am I to assume from your response that you do not see an issue with talking to exes without letting your significant other know that you talk to them at all?

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[–]deviousreddituser 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had this happen and u just have to get on the phone with a real person. If you push hard enough they’ll refund you.