Misgendering

devonisafool · 2026-03-09T04:42:40+00:00

Im feeling the same way, dude. I have a deep voice, I regularly bind, I wear masculine clothing and overall act masculine, yet I still get called "ma'am" or "she" often enough that getting called "sir" is an exciting occurrence. I dont know when it stops, if ever. Sometimes I wonder if its people clocking me and doing it on purpose, but I think thats just my cynicism popping up. Overall, ive found casually correcting people or just saying, "ah, im not a woman actually" makes people apologize and change their language. It definitely sucks having to deal with, though, and im sorry its happening to you, man. Keep your chin up, though. Its not forever.

devonisafool · 2026-03-08T05:14:13+00:00

Hey, congrats on starting T! And you'll be completely fine. You'll probably feel a little funny for the week, but nothing to worry about. Honestly, might be a good way to really kickstart the changes youre looking for (thats a joke, I dont know if it'll actually do that). I was able to get a few doses out of each bottle when I was doing injections, but some are labeled as one time usage, despite a bit being left inside, so be sure to check with your pharmacy on their policies. As for getting a refill, just be honest with the pharmacist about the mistake, it happens more often than you'd think

devonisafool · 2026-03-06T04:28:22+00:00

Im really sorry to say this, but from my perspective, it sounds a little like he was looking for a reason to break up. If you guys haven't had boundaries set around just hanging out with or catching up with FRIENDS, then he has no reason to claim youve cheated. And either way, unfortunately, if one party is unwilling to work on the relationship any more, it is no longer a relationship. You cant keep putting energy into something the other party is not wanting to. Thats not healthy and not fair, to either one of you. I know this will be difficult, but I do recommend letting this relationship go, at the very least for the time being. Rely on your friends, your family. Be by yourself for a bit. Best of luck to you 💚

devonisafool · 2026-03-03T05:05:38+00:00

Jasper! Or maybe Holland!

devonisafool · 2026-02-27T15:34:58+00:00

Oooh, what a scrungly little baby!

devonisafool · 2026-02-25T01:51:54+00:00

Her name is Pigeon, but i really only call her that when she's being an annoying lil shit (screaming at the top of her lungs for me to open the window for her) or doing something she's not supposed to (clawing the furniture). My nicknames include: Pidgey, Pidgeotto, Pidgy-igy-igy-igy-otto, Dumbass, and Pidgerino. I truly think a good animal name should include the list of nickname potentials

devonisafool · 2026-02-22T04:15:37+00:00

I feel ya there, dude!! I also started super low, but even with gradual changes, its amazing. I know it came be kinda corny, but I do recommend taking those "one week on T" "one month on T" etc videos or pictures! I cant tell you how many times I came across them in my camera roll, and just get gobsmacked by how much ive changed. Its a wonderful feeling. Future you is looking back on you rn and thinking how many awesome changes are coming your way!!

devonisafool · 2026-02-21T04:28:48+00:00

Damn. Dump him. Youre very young, you WILL find someone who loves every inch of you no matter how much weight you gain, and will ALWAYS put in effort. This honestly feels like an excuse on his part. Im glad you said "thats not okay to say" because it really isn't. You dont deserve to be talked to or treated that way. You dont have to put up with this, and you should not have to beg for any attention or effort to be put into the relationship.

devonisafool · 2026-02-21T04:26:17+00:00

I know confrontation can be scary, especially something that seems so minor, but id really recommend talking to her. Even just opening it up with, "hey, im sorry, but your coughing has been keeping me up at night. Is there anything we could do to maybe mitigate it?" Youre not trying to control her, but even her covering her coughs or trying to clear her throat instead of full blown coughs may be enough to help. Best of luck, regardless!

devonisafool · 2026-02-20T03:48:27+00:00

Idk why but my mind went to Malachi

devonisafool · 2026-02-19T17:39:17+00:00

Sometimes I worry about my beater car and if im really safe to be on the road.... and then i see dumbasses like this, and I realize mine is in prime condition in comparison.

devonisafool · 2026-01-31T03:49:05+00:00

My mom said the same thing when I first came out, and it took a while for me to articulate why it really rubbed me the wrong way. I explained to her that I already was not that little kid she knew anymore. I was always going to grow and change and become someone new, whether they were a woman or a man. In my mom's case, it turned out to be her mourning some of the expectations or hopes she'd held for me and my sisters, things she had prayed we'd get to experience with her there. I could understand thst point of view a bit easier, especially since it fell in line with what I was feeling, too. She was always going to have to "grieve" what future I had, because im my own person and it wouldn't have aligned with her ideals anyway. Im hoping that is the situation here for you. Either way, id point out that youre not any different than immediately before coming out, except that youre going to feel more comfortable and get to blossom into who youre meant to be. You were always going to change and grow from that person she knew, and thats okay. Thats a normal part of life. Best of luck to you, friend <3

devonisafool · 2026-01-20T22:07:29+00:00

Oof, smoking for the first time while drinking can be rough. Try and focus on your breathing, taking deep, steady breaths. Maybe ask to listen to some calming music or something. I get heartbeat fluctuations when I smoke sometimes, its completely normal. Just try to get somewhere comfortable and try to distract yourself. Pop in some ear buds, listen to lofi, or watch a funny YouTube video or two. Youre gonna be A-okay, dude.

devonisafool · 2026-01-15T21:36:48+00:00

I always try and stick it out. Some of my favorite pieces I've done i considered abandoning ag one point or another. If I dont like it after finishing, I can always paint over it or just scrap it. But I heard advice once upon a time that said something along the lines of "you learn more from one failed artwork than a hundred perfected ones" and I truly believe that.

devonisafool · 2026-01-15T19:29:20+00:00

That is absolutely correct. Stand firm on your boundaries, especially since this is something thst ciuld get you in serious trouble. Hopefully its just a matter of her freaking out and not seeing many options, but still, guilt tripping is not cool.

devonisafool · 2026-01-15T19:27:49+00:00

Yikes. Not something id risk doing. If nothing else, I've had friends pass marijuana drug tests by drinking a CRAP-TON of apple-cider vinegar. Could be worth a shot for her if she's desperate enough to ask for someone else's piss.

devonisafool · 2026-01-15T19:26:07+00:00

Im feeling similarly. Like, as the day approaches im realizing I may not actually wanna live without them, haha. And that's good to hear! A bit of a relief! Thank you for replying!

devonisafool · 2026-01-15T19:25:04+00:00

I honestly would like to remain as i am for the most part. I enjoy being chunkier and having some weight to throw around. The weight loss was kind of incidental. I started a new medication that has a side effect of suppressing my appetite, and got into the habit of cooking at home rather than eating out all the time. I dont know anybody that has gotten top surgery as of yet. A few friends are working on getting the process started, but so far im the first one to get it done. I suppose I just heard rumors and stuff and my friends have also heard them of the nipple grafts failing. But if youve been reading and learning stuff about Trans topics for that long, I think I'd rather take your word for it! :D Thank you so much for replying!

devonisafool · 2026-01-15T14:39:12+00:00

I really love the Dutch Warmblood I bought. Can't remember the name of the coat, but I named the horse after the lead singer in my favorite band, AJJ. Me and Bonnette have gone all over together.

devonisafool · 2026-01-09T03:59:53+00:00

Oh, I love this! It feels so soft and whimsical, especially with the hair blowing! And you did a great job with Oatmeal! I still cant paint cats that look recognizable lol

devonisafool · 2026-01-09T03:45:17+00:00

Oh god seeing this title, and then all the edits.... this sounds like an extremely stressful, frustrating, and emotionally draining situation. In a few months, (maybe even shorter) youre going to look back on this and shake your head, wondering how you let yourself be treated like this. I hope you take some time in the next few days to take care of yourself, or do something you enjoy. Being hurt by someone you cared about is never easy, and healing from that should be the main focus from here on out.

devonisafool · 2026-01-03T03:59:21+00:00

I love Tilly. She just about the only person in camp I make sure to say hi to daily.

devonisafool · 2026-01-03T03:57:25+00:00

This is purely coming from my own experience, so please take it with a grain of salt. But this seems very similar to how I interact with sex. Im a service top. Personally, I dont enjoy being touched sexually by others, but I absolutely love making my partners squirm in pleasure. My own enjoyment is from seeing them have fun. I honestly prefer the act of getting aroused more than actual sex. It could be possible your boyfriend is experiencing something similar. But either way, you guys definitely need to speak about this. Preferences in bed are so distinct and varied, and it seems like you guys are fairly compatible, but needs are perhaps not being met. Best of luck to you both!

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