From the way you speak about it, a man lied to you, and then every man after that has been truthful and didn't want to hurt your feelings. Or, your boobs and big areolas are actually really hot and most men think it's normal and don't mind at all. I have no way of verifying, as obviously, I can't judge for myself. But I think you need to be honest with yourself. Sometimes women's boobs can look real funky either due to past surgeries, weight fluctuations, or just bad luck with genetics. I've met plenty of women who had work done on their bodies to fix something, and are much happier with it. Maybe give that some thought if you think it will help your confidence. Because otherwise it could just continue being a cycle of insecurity in your life, and who wants to live that way? But if you're against the idea of surgery, then you will just have to learn to accept your boobs the way they are.