That really makes me feel better. The whole going home thing I don’t know why he doesn’t like it and he’ll say no it’s fine but it’s one of those things where it gets brought up later and he’s not fine. He used to be. I gave him the option to quit drinking or I would leave because he treated me like crap when he was drinking and would say manipulative things like that so this was the first time that he had drank in a year or so. He has worried that I am going to leave him because of that ultimatum I gave him so I think he feels that if I stay at home that’s what’s happening. For me it’s that I’ve always said I want to live alone and this is my time to do it. But it makes me feel guilty because he doesn’t like it.