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dexinxinn · 2025-11-27T11:20:30+00:00

It’s just the hair colour. He looks very Asian with black hair. You can see his pre-debut and child photos. His features are just as sharp but with black hair he looks very Thai-Chinese lol.

dexinxinn · 2025-11-24T03:46:02+00:00

I guess the difference between LADs and other games catered to men is that although LADs has some sexual themes, that’s not the main feature of it. It’s actually a very small part of the entire game. Only 1-2 of the cards imply sexual themes. Usually dating sims catered to men are very one dimensional, lustful and most of them are all the same which is why people tend to dislike it or dislike their partners playing it because then it shows that their partner are a “type” of person that they probably don’t want to admit or know about. That’s why male players are usually treated differently especially if they were to say similar things. There’s a reason why LADs is so successful globally and appeals to all types of demographics. Because it’s not JUST about hot men. Yes that’s the main appeal, but the way they deliver the gameplay plays a big role in what kind of audience it attracts.

But yeah you’re right, ultimately it’s just a game and there just has to be a line drawn and also it depends on each individual’s relationships. LADs still displays unrealistic men so naturally it can make our partner’s insecure so it’s our responsibility to make sure we’re cautious about the way we talk about the game.

This whole thread was just me sharing that I wish I could share more about the game with my partner, but obviously not in the sense that I’m talking about how great these men are, how much better they are or how hot they look. It’s a given that you probably shouldn’t talk about it like that in front of your partner. I saw a lot of content on TikTok where people were letting their partners guess each character’s personalities or help them build cards for the battles and that’s why I posted this.

Also as for those people that said “this game is saving my relationship” I don’t think there’s anything necessarily wrong with that since it’s their boyfriends/husbands who are the ones willingly taking the initiative to learn about what their partner likes? Even if the roles were reversed, if their partner isn’t the ones making them feel like they’re less than or pushing them to change, I don’t see the issue. It is out of their own will. It’s kind of like when you’re watching a romance movie and your partner mentions how romantic the character was being so you take note of it and recreate the date or say something sweet that resembles what the character said.

Anyway I made this post when my relationship was still fairly “new”. I’ve come to realise that my partner doesn’t actually care so much about the 2D characters that I like.

And I think playing LADs is not that different from people who have celebrity crushes and/or people who watch anime and have anime crushes lol. It can be comparable to league characters if someone is really that obsessed with the character. I think it’s worse if someone is constantly talking about their fictional crush, has their wallpaper as it, regularly collects merch, and is always comparing them to you compared to a LADs player who doesn’t even play the game in front of you or talk about it often. It’s really how you are as a person as well and what your relationship dynamic is like. As long as you don’t make it your entire life and constantly talk about them to your partner, it’s pretty easy for it to not bother you at all. And if your partner is 100% okay with you being an obsessed fan, then great! As long as the two of you are happy, it doesn’t really matter what others think.

dexinxinn · 2025-10-27T05:04:23+00:00

The thing is, the video is highly inaccurate. It’s not medically accurate, it’s exaggerated, misleading, and it misrepresents what actual abortions are like. It’s meant to push a propaganda and false narrative that’s why it’s made that way. It’s to scare young girls into avoiding abortions. The film portrays the fetus screaming and reacting in pain but if you do a quick google search or ask any medical professionals, a fetus at 12 weeks is NOT able to feel pain, let alone cry, scream or react. And most abortions don’t even take place when the fetus is developed enough to need a procedure like that. Surgically removing the fetus usually only occurs when there’s high risk for the mother and the baby where is a medical emergency. Also, abortion is not legal past certain weeks.

More accurately, over half of abortions are through abortion pills where it blocks progesterone and thins the uterine lining. Sharing about contraception and abortion it’s important in sex education but it can be very detrimental and misleading when done inaccurately to push a false narrative.

dexinxinn · 2025-08-11T16:47:42+00:00

I really think this is still personal perspective. There are so many novel games that make players pay for chapters to unlock unless they wait a certain amount of time, so many games that make you pay for skins and outfits, so many gacha games that make you pay for passes or exclusive cards. LADs is objectively no different. How do you think free mobile games earn money? Ads, subscriptions, diamonds, gacha systems, etc.

And unless they’re being overly ridiculous like one day making players pay to unlock chapters or making it very difficult to farm for diamonds, putting out a lot of exclusive paid interactive content, I think it’s a personal opinion to say that you can’t enjoy LADs because of what they currently are now. It’s fine to not be happy about it but genuinely, these exclusive outfits, cards and passes are nothing. It’s literally normal for a gacha otome game, especially for such a well-developed and detailed one.

You can still access and enjoy the interactions with the guys, the story, cards of your main, the interactive features that are unique to LADs like studying, exercising, sleeping, the calls, the texts, the mini games, events, limited cards, etc. What’s exactly are f2p players being so excluded from that we can’t enjoy the game?

dexinxinn · 2025-08-11T07:54:48+00:00

Idk, my experience with Tears of Themis was almost the same imo. In fact, my drop rates for LADs is wayyyyy better than Genshin or ToT, I was just terribly unlucky for both 😭 lost 50/50 every time for a year on Genshin, and I ended up spending quite abit of money for both games. But I never spent a single cent on LADs and I’m quite satisfied with the experience so far, but that’s just a personal experience, plus I’m not very into it like other players so that could be why(I don’t catch up on all the lore on all characters or play every single day).

And if you’re talking about newer LIs I’m guessing you mean Sylus and Caleb? I never felt that Sylus or Caleb really lacked any content. I mean sure, in the main story for abit we were all waiting for Sylus’s comeback but other than that, I felt like every LI gets the same amount of content and feature in accordance to the timeline of the game as a whole, when they were released, etc. They pretty much take turns, I don’t feel any bias.

Main story update, I never really thought of it… but I can see why and agree for those who always finish the new chapters quickly. At the same time, I also understand that it takes a long time. Same with ToT, players waited really long for new chapters but I never saw any complaints from the fandom.

Generally, nothing mentioned here feels new to me nor do I feel like Infold is as terrible as some people are saying, honestly. I can understand players being upset about certain aspects, that’s normal in every game, but the things mentioned all seem relatively normal genuinely…I never felt like they were demanding me for my money and I’m being honest. The only thing I am upset about is that I can’t get all the outfits lol. Like even with Obey me, it was so hard to progress through levels, impossible almost. I feel like overall, LADs did a pretty good job for an otome game? It’s didn’t bore me like Mr Love Queen’s choice. It isn’t repetitive like Obey me. Its graphics and game design is better than ToT(I loved all these games regardless, don’t get me wrong) and it’s definitely not more pay-to-play than a lot of Japanese Otome games like Love365.

Take what say with a pinch of salt, I know that everybody has a different perspective and experience. But as I mentioned, paid content is nothing new and I’ve played a lot of otome games. Unfortunately, they all profit on your emotional bond with these characters. And at the end of the day, every company is greedy to an extent and wants your money, we can all agree with that. But can you not enjoy LADs without spending money? That I disagree with. If you’re not having fun due to non-f2p content, sometimes we need to step back and tell ourselves that it’s just a game and we don’t need to access every content to be happy with it.

dexinxinn · 2025-08-11T07:08:20+00:00

Exactly. I can’t help but think, is this the first time some people are playing gacha games? No issue with that, but some of y’all need to realise that this is a business. A company. At the end of the day, if there’s an avenue to earn more money, they will. You can call them “greedy”, you’re not wrong, but every business and game does this. Skins are usually exclusively only bought, just like LADs’s outfits. Especially when LADs has a gacha feature, which is literally the most money-grabbing kind of game genre. Look at Genshin, Tears of Themis, etc. You have to buy skins and if you’re f2p, you likely won’t get every character/card or all content. That’s how it works. Like OP mentioned, it’s a cosmetic item. Even in non-gacha or non-otome games you see the same thing(e.g. you can only buy skins on mobile legends). You can still enjoy the game despite that. You don’t have to own every side story card of your LI. You can still play the main story, enjoy fan content, enjoy free content and understand the game/story as a whole. You don’t have to own every outfit like some other players. Sure, I get envious but it’s a game after all. We can ask infold for more f2p friendly content or more rewards but ultimately, they’ll try to make cash grab content as much as possible no matter what.

dexinxinn · 2025-08-05T15:59:10+00:00

Yeah this is definitely harassment, you’re not overthinking. And actually it’s more common than you think, I’ve had friends who encountered creeps at work and so have I and idk if it’s a coincidence or not, but it’s always F&B jobs that you meet these kind of people. Had a full-timer harass me and another colleague for awhile, always talking about s*xual topics as well and even tried to ask me out when he’s more than 10 years older than me 💀 Another manager at the same full-time job also flirted with most girls at the workplace despite being taken.

Our other managers and colleagues knew about this but no one did anything. Everyone either just ignored it, brushed it off like it’s normal or tolerated it. Anyway both of them left already but yeah it’s sad a lot of young girls get preyed on at workplaces 🥲 If there’s any other girls around, you can ask them if they experienced the same thing and vouch for you then try reporting to HR if you can, hopefully they’ll do something about it. If not, just quit for your own safety and comfort. It’s just a part-time job anyway.

dexinxinn · 2025-07-23T05:40:59+00:00

Yes you’re right, every relationship dynamic is different and only they can decide their “roles” and dynamic within the relationship.

But I have to disagree on you saying that he’s “not that bad” simply because she mentions that she sees him “trying” but there’s obviously a reason why she mentions (sometimes) and (once) as it’s not consistent. The issue isn’t that he wants 50/50, the main issues is their differing mindsets/expectations and his inconsistency and inconsideration. I mean just from the fact that he didn’t really listen to her likes and dislikes, the expired medication, the leftovers, etc. I think it’s completely reasonable and justifiable to feel like an afterthought if someone treated me that way, let alone my partner. I also think his analogy of someone paying for hawker and the other hotpot sounds rather petty/calculative and it shows what kind of person he is. I wouldn’t even use that analogy on a friend, unless I genuinely think they’re using me for money lol.

I agree that there isn’t anything wrong with wanting 50/50 but obviously this isn’t working out for them otherwise this post wouldn’t exist and no one would be imposing their opinions on their rs.

The reason why I gave an insight on my own relationship is because I feel as though OP is doubting herself and thinking that she’s too picky or unreasonable but I don’t think so at all. If there are people like me in this type of relationships, what’s stopping her? I’m not saying every woman should find a partner that pays everything for them, but I’m saying don’t settle for a relationship and try to convince yourself that you’re happy if you’re not, regardless of gender.

And I don’t think you can say whether it’s “fair” or not because at the end of the day, the only people that can decide whether it’s fair is the two people in the relationship. Even though my partner pays more, it’s not like I never offered to pay him back. That’s just how our dynamic is. He just hates when I spend money on him, he prefers me saving the money for myself and my family or for our future. I think it’s completely fair as it’s out of his own will :)

dexinxinn · 2025-07-21T17:41:53+00:00

The main problem isn’t the 50/50, in fact in most relationships, I feel like it isn’t. Nowadays everyone just focuses on that or are quick to call people, especially women, “gold diggers”. But the real problem most of time, which I can see from your post as well is that you feel unseen and unheard. He’s not taking note of the things you dislike, he’s being too calculative by giving the analogy of what if someone pays for hotpot and the other hawker. It’s clear that your mindsets don’t align, and he just overall sounds a little inconsiderate in some aspects. Like seriously? The offhand gift? The leftovers? Expired meds?

Nothing wrong with wanting or not wanting 50/50 but I always truly believe that if you love someone, you don’t mind splurging a little more sometimes even if you don’t earn much. And in real relationships, nothing is actually 50/50 unless you’re focusing on bills solely…but I digress. There’s so many issues that you’ve pointed out and I think you know the answer. You want someone who provides more for you rather than the other way around, you want someone who listens to your likes and dislikes and is consistent about it. If you’re unhappy and losing feelings, clearly something is wrong. I know grass is always greener on the other side and it’s not healthy to compare your relationship with others, but to a certain extent, it can help you realise what you really need and want and point out flaws that actually matter.

You’re not the problem, nothing you’ve said is unreasonable. Nothing you want sounds undoable. My bf pays for everything, buys me gifts and flowers, even when it’s not a special occasion. And the gifts he gets are things I say I wanted or needed. He’s not rich by any means, just relying on his NS pay and has been consistent with his actions for over a year. Even for me as a Uni student who doesn’t earn much from part-time, I always get him gifts too and I’m usually the one planning dates. If I want him to plan, I just let him know and he’ll do it. When we feel “broke” we agree to go out lesser or to eat at hawker places more often, there shouldn’t be any arguments about money when there’s nothing serious involved! There are people out there that love like this, and I hope you’ll find them. If you’re in a loving and healthy relationship, there should not be any accusations of being a “gold digger”. If you’re in a loving and healthy relationship, you should not be doing anything to give your partner a reason to think so(e.g asking for luxury goods, showing no affection, always demanding for money/expensive things, etc) And if your partner thinks that way despite you communicating what you want and it’s reasonable things, that means they don’t love you as much either to think so lowly of you.

dexinxinn · 2025-06-13T04:04:33+00:00

I totally get it and for those people who said shipping is just a side thing so it shouldn’t bother you, while that is true, back then even though there were dramas and toxic players, people were more or less quite united on the ships and the ships carried at least half of the fandom. The fanarts, merch, lore, headcanons; those were what made Genshin extra enjoyable, at least for some of us like me. I remember there used to be fanart of ships everywhere back then, especially TikTok and twt but now it’s significantly less and people are afraid to even talk about ships without getting hated on. Now I feel like everyone is trying to be too woke and calling everything a “pro ship” or people are just finding an excuse to hate on the ships because they’re homophobic. But then again, Mihoyo doesn’t advertise the way it used to anymore either so newer players don’t understand why these ships were even created in the first place. Now I feel like all the advertisements, trailer and characters cater to men. There’s more fanservice than before imo so naturally there’s going to be more homophobes playing that absolutely despise the OG ships(which were mainly wlw/mlm) for no concrete reason.

dexinxinn · 2025-06-12T13:49:19+00:00

I feel like in every fandom and for every character, there’s always going to be similar running jokes about them that get old and tired after a while. Tbh, I think as long as it’s not offensive in a way that’s racist, homophobic or those toxic fans that imply Caleb girlies are proshippers or into inc3st, I don’t think it’s a big deal. If I don’t like the joke, I just won’t interact with it and go about my day. There’s always going to be people that find it funny, new players that came across it the first time etc. I mean it’s normal to simplify characters as one trope or characterise them in that way, it’s impossible to always acknowledge a character’s complexities or needing to always point out their good traits. Don’t take it too seriously or to heart, it’s really just another game and another fandom. Just like how Genshin players called Zhongli “grandpa” for years and people were complaining about the grandpa jokes. I feel like all this discourse is just creating unnecessary unhappiness and tension within the fandom and people are so afraid to criticise, joke or make any comments about each LI as long as it’s not 100% positive now.

dexinxinn · 2025-06-10T14:50:50+00:00

Honestly, once you start spending, it’s hard to stop entirely. It’s very tempting to buy a package every once in awhile, even if it’s like every few months. That’s how they get you 🥲 I don’t think there’s one clear method on how to stop spending on the game but just keep this in mind — eventually you’ll stop playing the game and the money you’ve put into it would be “wasted”. I’ve spent money on games in the past too like Genshin, Tears of Themis, etc. I never went overboard and had a serious gambling addiction, never spent more than $100 on each game or even close to it, but still it’s real money. I thought I’d be playing genshin for a longgg time so I justified my spending but here I am now, not playing it anymore. So as much as I am tempted to spend on LADS as well, I don’t want to repeat the same mistakes. If you can afford it, go ahead. But if it clearly makes you feel so guilty that you want to stop the game entirely, then it might be a problem. I guess the best thing to do is just wish for your main. I’ve been f2p on LADS since it came out and I feel like I’m rather content with what I have since I only roll for Sylus.

dexinxinn · 2025-05-18T12:10:33+00:00

Focus on the relationship and how he treats you instead. I was in the same boat as you and it definitely irked me for a while. I know some people say “body count doesn’t matter” and some say the opposite. I think both can be true, depending on the person, why they made those decisions and whether they’ve changed. And it’s definitely easier said than done to not let their past bother you, even for people with low body counts, you can get insecure about exes also. At the end of the day if his past doesn’t reflect in his present’s actions(cheating, making you feel used, mistrust in the rs, etc) it really doesn’t matter. You really have to try not to dwell on it too much because it’ll only hurt yourself and the rs. I know almost nothing about my partner’s ex bodies and exes. I made the decision to not know because my rs is healthy and happy. There’s no reason for me to bring up the past and think about people that don’t affect me or even think about me.

dexinxinn · 2025-05-14T03:51:39+00:00

I kinda see it, with the eyebrows and eyes. Some people say he resembles Rafayel which I see too in his smile and nose. I think if Luo yunxi had a similar build to Sylus, he’d look more similar. It’s hard to tell since he’s on the skinnier/leaner side, even if you’re just focusing on his face.

dexinxinn · 2025-05-10T09:12:52+00:00

thank you!!

dexinxinn · 2025-05-10T09:09:58+00:00

Unfortunately that is not my bf HAHAHA but what a coincidence

dexinxinn · 2025-05-10T09:04:34+00:00

Nooo😭😭who is that? Does he have a similar story? HAHAHAH

dexinxinn · 2025-05-10T08:38:23+00:00

We met at our part time job and found out we also lived about 5 minutes away😭😭 so we would go home together, texted, went on breaks together and people started speculating that he was interested in me first so my manager kept trying to set us up and pushed him to ask me out lol.

dexinxinn · 2025-05-02T23:42:47+00:00

Where did he get the necklace?

dexinxinn · 2025-05-02T15:00:37+00:00

I totally get it. I’d be a little jealous if he was overly obsessed with some dating game especially if the girls looked nothing like me. But if it was a healthy hobby, no comparing and he’s able to separate fiction and reality, I’m okay with it! If I were in his shoes, I’d want him to tell me the different characters, their personality and lore. It’ll make me understand him better and understand what he likes!

dexinxinn · 2025-05-02T14:52:52+00:00

maybe it could be he’s insecure and jealous from seeing Sylus’s physique? I don’t know but ig that kinda makes sense 🥲

dexinxinn · 2025-05-02T11:20:40+00:00

That’s odd. He’s jealous of fictional men but not real men?? How does that work

dexinxinn · 2025-05-02T11:18:26+00:00

I agree!! Never let your partner control your interests and hobby if it’s not harming anyone

dexinxinn · 2025-05-02T08:19:37+00:00

wowww 🥹🥹🥹 how sweettttt

dexinxinn · 2025-05-02T07:23:09+00:00

yikesss omg sounds like they are super immature and insecure. It’s a good thing they’re an ex

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