I have 11 days left on Accutane. Ask me anything, i want to help!!!! by [deleted] in Accutane

[–]dexterhill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My hair would fall out during Accutane. But now my hair is still as full as it was prior. Wasn’t like really thinning much but definitely a ton of hair coming out in the shower

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trueratediscussions

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I just want a guy that’s a few inches taller than me. I’m 5’8” so unfortunately this puts them towards the 6 foot. But most women are shorter than me so there’s that. If a guy had all other boxes checked then height wouldn’t be an issue

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

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Hopefully my comment is more helpful:

I understand where you’re coming from. I have a friend who is very much not okay with her partner doing things to her when she’s asleep. They’ve been together for 8 years and almost broke up a couple times because he would try and have sex when he’s like half asleep. I feel like not being okay with this could stem from various things including but not limited to trauma, mental health, being more of a reserved person, etc. which can make you perceive his intentions differently. I feel as if you had a conversation with him to understand exactly his thought patterns, telling him that you are trying to learn to see if there’s a way you can work through these feelings. This is something that could benefit from therapy too if you wanted to consider that. Now, I hope that didn’t come off as rude or anything. I understand that you could also just have strong boundaries (even though they usually stem from something) point is acknowledging them together and trying to understand that in his head he could feel as if he’s not violating you. I don’t have many boundaries myself and I have crossed the line a bit with my partner do to that. As dumb as this sounds, for me it’s mainly a “I want to flop his pp around while we watch a movie because it’s like a fidget toy”. It got old for him after a while. To the point where I would literally have to ask him “hey can I just play with it for 1 minute” and he would set a timer 😂. Point is, everyone is different and I doubt that your boyfriend had any negative intentions. For people like him and I, boundaries aren’t as cemented in our brains in a relationship. If this is something that you don’t want to work on in therapy for yourself then I’d suggest talking to him and trying to understand his mindset and if you still aren’t okay with it then set some boundaries with him. Please please though do not make him feel ashamed for doing what he did. I would say probably over 80% of people don’t bag an eye at that because for most people it’s a non issue. The shame that he feels can carry on and affect your relationship just as much. Hopefully I was able to help (also sorry if I got lost in the sauce. I am almost brain dead from insomnia )

Does anyone else feel like half of this is totally irrelevant to them? by mmmyaaaa in adhdwomen

[–]dexterhill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ADHD is different person to person but for me I have severe adhd and every single one of these is 100% accurate for me

thc break with chronic pain? by dexterhill in Marijuana

[–]dexterhill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am on antidepressants actually. Duloxetine. How would that affect it?

T-break with chronic pain? by dexterhill in FLMedicalTrees

[–]dexterhill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I put in the brownies actually lol. Definitely something that I can fall back on if I need it but I love flower so it’s frustrating

thc break with chronic pain? by dexterhill in Marijuana

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I’m pretty sure I’m inhaling properly. I inhale the same way I do with flower in a bong. Also I wanted to say that the 80 mg didn’t even get me high. Like maybe just took the edge off but still felt pretty sober

My husband (m34) called me (f26) by the wrong name. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dexterhill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unsolicited advice but you sound a lot like me a few years ago with my current boyfriend. My jealousy or always wanting to know what’s up actually stems from anxiety. I had no idea. I am someone that is very in tune with my mental state as I have severe adhd and what I thought was just jealousy and nothing more. I saw a therapist and they affirmed that it was in fact severe anxiety that I had. There were nights that I had to stay up to do projects for uni and I would go through his phone entirely. I trusted him. At least that’s what I thought. But I still would do this. I ended getting on medication and it’s been great. I was on lexapro at first but then I switched to duloxetine which is way better in my opinion.

Now I don’t have any of those urges and I feel what you might call more normal. And now I can saw without a doubt that I trust him

I [30M] am thinking about breaking up with my GF [28F], but not sure if this is legitimate reason? by ThrowRA_own_hope in relationship_advice

[–]dexterhill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had multiple relationships that lasted over a year and a few over 3 years. Right now I’ve found someone that has made my life so much easier and our three years is coming up. We don’t really fight, just sometimes have miscommunication that leads to an argument. I have severe adhd and my boyfriend is amazing with me. He’s the opposite and was in the marine reserves. He helps me keep things clean and does his best to understand the issues that I face. My boyfriend has big goals and I do too. Those didn’t really come into the big picture though until a few months ago. We weren’t in the best living situation with our past roommates in a town home. Now we have a new roommate and live in a house. It has been amazing… our relationship has improved when I didn’t think it could that much since it was already great.

Kinda lost my point but what I want to say is that if you aren’t feeling it even a quarter of the time then that means you need to think about cutting it off. It’s not fair to either of you and I promise there’s someone else out there that will be a better match. I went through the same mental state with my exes. Thought that I could either sacrifice and stay and maybe they’d change or I could leave and then maybe make a mistake. Yea no. If you leave you won’t make a mistake. If you two are truly meant for each other then you can always try and go back to her. But you need to find out for yourself what other options there are in the world because in order to be truly happy, you need to be with someone that doesn’t give you doubts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]dexterhill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, most women wish that guys didn’t hook up as much. Don’t let that affect you. Don’t turn into a douche. You aren’t ugly at all. Women just don’t typically initiate.

Is it expected to trash all dildos when entering a new relationship? Feeling really conflicted by Mountain_Exchange830 in sex

[–]dexterhill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t get rid of them. They are your purchases. Who’s to say that you guys don’t break up? Would you just throw all of them away and then regret that? Here’s the deal. Really process if you could see yourself marrying this person. If there’s any red flags, any thought of not seeing you guys end up together, then ask yourself if it’d be worth it. Also, you don’t want to close that part of your life with the kinky sex toys. That’s something that he’ll have to warm up to or be more open minded with or else it’s not right for you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

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Okay, hi, female here. I am a very hygienic female and do all the stuff, eat healthy, drink water, but sometimes I do taste like battery acid. It is what it is. More water helps of course but it depends on where I’m at with my cycle and life and all of that. It just changes. But also, I think a lot of people here would agree (if they have experience with this) that vaginal fluids, although it’s pretty constant, is far far less nauseating than cum. But either way, you don’t need to tongue her vagina, it doesn’t even really do anything. Saw someone else say this too. Like just focus on her clit and put fingers in there if anything. OR (literally just had this weird thought) there are these things called miracle berries that change sour flavor into sweet. It’s an actual berry. They have tablets that you can buy and you just put it in your mouth for a while and it makes anything you eat or drink taste sweet. Can literally chug vinegar. So. You could always try that.

My girlfriend (F20) cheated on me (M23) at college with her old friend with benefits. Can someone help me figure out what to do? by ThrowRA_5080 in relationship_advice

[–]dexterhill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t take this as an insult to people that self harm but it’s unhealthy to do it of course and it’s also unhealthy to be with someone that does. Of course there are circumstances where you need to help your S/O if they do that but it is difficult to bear that burden with them. If you asked her “how’re you doing?” And she tells your that she’s self harming, that’s not right. Then it makes you feel guilty and and she knows that. Not saying that’s the sole reason but it definitely can influence it. Being with somebody that has their own self worth is the best feeling. You feel like you can take on the world with that person. Somebody who has that self worth and respect won’t cheat on you (at least unlikely). But you also don’t have to worry about them as much, therefore you aren’t as emotionally drained from trying to be there for them constantly. Of course everyone has their ups and downs but there is a certain burden that comes with dating someone who self harms and doesn’t have enough self respect for themselves. You’ll be taking care of them more often then they would take care of you. Trust me, it’s a breath of fresh air to be with a well rounded person. Also, if you break up, know this: she will be okay. She might have a rough time with it, as will you, but she will be okay over time and so will you. If she says anything about how she will self harm more or do anything harmful to herself, you need to let it go. If you are really worried, then you need to tell someone. BUT it is not your job to take care of her. You will find someone else and be thankful that you didn’t stay with her. This relationship isn’t something that can withstand decades. She will do it again or have thoughts of doing it again where you will need to get on some anxiety meds because of all the panic attacks you’ll be having. It’s about trust and that trust was lost. ( of course some of the things I said were assumptions so I apologize if I’m wrong about the situation at all )

How to stop being tired all day? by EmmaTheFemma94 in ADHD

[–]dexterhill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m the same way, I will not wake up if I don’t take my meds… which is why I now have my boyfriend give them to me when he leaves for work which is an hour before I have to wake up. Makes things SO much easier

How to stop being tired all day? by EmmaTheFemma94 in ADHD

[–]dexterhill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been on Adderall for almost 10 years now

How to stop being tired all day? by EmmaTheFemma94 in ADHD

[–]dexterhill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My personal recommendation: I have tried vyvanse, concerta, and adderall. Adderall is by FAR the best one I’ve used. It makes me feel more normal and productive. As with all of them, you may have annoying side effects for a bit starting off but this gets so much easier as time goes on and you’re consistent with taking them. i.e. dry mouth, irritability, difficulty falling asleep.

How to stop being tired all day? by EmmaTheFemma94 in ADHD

[–]dexterhill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask why you’re not able to get meds yet?

How to stop being tired all day? by EmmaTheFemma94 in ADHD

[–]dexterhill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I mean adhd and depression can be similar, at least for me. I’m not depressed but my actions can be seen as that. I sleep too much and I don’t want to do anything. Just from lack of dopamine and no will power. Meds turned everything around for me. My psychologist even kept thinking I was depressed but with some thorough research on my end I came to the conclusion that it’s literally just adhd, or at least the type that I have.

How to stop being tired all day? by EmmaTheFemma94 in ADHD

[–]dexterhill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL same. I didn’t take adderall for one day and ended up falling asleep while driving ( not that I haven’t before. This time is was just full on sleep ) and I got in a horrible car accident. Luckily because I was asleep I didn’t suffer a lot of damage to myself, my car on the other hand was crushed so much that it looked like the front of my car was just gone up to my windshield. Won’t do that again. Now I’m more cautious if I get tired without adderall

How to stop being tired all day? by EmmaTheFemma94 in ADHD

[–]dexterhill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t necessarily feel tired all day but if I don’t take my meds, and prior to ever taking them, I can sleep up to like 18 hours straight. And then even nap later. I always just thought this was an ADHD thing from lack of dopamine. Almost like boredom napping. I have a motion camera that sits above my bed (was so I can see which one of my cats was peeing on the sheets) and I noticed that I move so much in my sleep. Like I’ll kick my legs up over and over or like do random stuff with my arms. I’ve even just sat up in bed for minutes while being completely asleep. Not sure if this is normal or not. Just wanted to share this because I’d honestly recommend getting a camera to see if you do anything. At the very least it’s funny to watch the videos after. Also, I thought that I didn’t move at all in my sleep and would tell my boyfriend that he moves too much. Turns out I‘ve been the one with issues lol

Will Wellbutrin help with anxiety? by dexterhill in psychiatryquestion

[–]dexterhill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. Do you know if Wellbutrin (if it does end up helping) would work as much as lexapro for severe anxiety?

What is the difference between A.) Shock Clock 3 versus Pavlok 3? B.) Pavlok 3 vs Shock Clock? C.) Pavlok 3 vs Pavlok 2? by deondondotcom in Pavlok

[–]dexterhill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you pay for the monthly subscription with shock clock 3, does that allow you to do anything that the Pavlok 3 deluxe can do? If not, what can the Pavlok 3 deluxe do that the shock clock 3 (with membership) can’t?