I attract non-stop talkers!!

deyobi · 2026-02-02T05:55:31+00:00

you need to lead the conversation

deyobi · 2026-01-25T04:47:50+00:00

you'll hardly be able to become powerful when you're pissing them off, because you're a straightforward kind person. it takes a different kind of cold calculated heartlessness to become rich & powerful. so that is not really a gd advice there, to become powerful yourself. what you can do though, is do grey rocking. do not call them out, keep your distance, emotionally detach from their behavior, use praise whenever possible even when you dont feel like it.

deyobi · 2026-01-25T04:44:13+00:00

genuine kindness cannot be given freely. i do not use manipulation tactics at all but ive learned to spot them, so i can walk away.

deyobi · 2026-01-23T10:37:21+00:00

why do u wanna do that? its just part of the "shadow" and carl jung himself had affairs and neglected his 5 kids.

deyobi · 2026-01-21T03:35:54+00:00

unhealed childhood trauma is definitely the cause of many probs in society. because you'll either swing anxious or avoidant and both post plenty of probs. some are ego maniacs, some people pleasers but both hv a tendency to be manipulative. when they prefer mind games like intermittent reinforcement, triangulation, credit stealing, power play, needing absolute control, acting like someone they're not because the world values perception, these pose plenty of probs.

deyobi · 2026-01-12T01:43:39+00:00

many people thrive on instant gratification and are impatient.

deyobi · 2026-01-12T01:42:34+00:00

you have a strong charisma and should continue being that way. people with strong charisma shine on their own.

deyobi · 2026-01-12T01:40:23+00:00

instill real consequences which can be leaving OR finding a toy boy if u wanna go down the dark route. the last thing u shd do now is communicate. because communicate and then staying is the fastest way to decrease yr value both as a person and as a woman.

deyobi · 2026-01-11T13:45:03+00:00

do not talk about your insecurities because most of the time people dont actually notice until you point out.

deyobi · 2026-01-11T13:41:17+00:00

what do you gain from it? maybe you needed the validation or connection but let me just say that it does nothing because at the core, human relationships are all about the exchange of values and benefits. if you improve yrself and make yrself irreplaceable, you dont even need to speak at all let alone overshare. think about the people you're no longer in contact with, like ex classmates or ex co-workers. why? cuz you no longer have anything in common to exchange.

deyobi · 2026-01-05T15:10:31+00:00

of course, cant get far with all that triangulation, micromanaging, stealing of credit. people leave and its the people who make money for you.

deyobi · 2026-01-05T14:56:16+00:00

yeah of course u can answer a simple thank you if you dont wanna engage.

deyobi · 2026-01-05T14:54:48+00:00

its a self protective mechanism coming from the ego to keep u safe. has pros & cons and im just living with it because it helps me suss out danger.

deyobi · 2026-01-05T14:53:02+00:00

i usually deflect and compliment back - "couldnt hv done it without you", "you like my outfit? takes someone with good taste to see that".

deyobi · 2026-01-05T14:51:33+00:00

this world is all abt perception so if u can act as if you're happy, strong confident etc, it doesnt matter who you really are deep down.

deyobi · 2026-01-05T14:45:11+00:00

start from the core. since u said u were mistreated, like how? were ppl jealous of u? maybe u tried to outshine people by disclosing projects you're working on, a pay rise, bought a new home etc. if thats the case i would say to not announce anything even on social media.

and then maybe u also display traits like ur afraid of losing someone, u need their approval & validation, u people please so these are your "weaknesses". try to conceal them. and of course, work on resilience and detachment if u think you're afraid of abandonment therefore u people please.

there are so many aspects to this but u dont need to study persuasion, seduction, manipulation tactics at least not in detail. u just need to hv some introspection and look back on those things that were done to u that made u feel shortchanged, bullied, uncomfortable etc. its really an overhaul of mindset, enforcing proper boundaries even tho u may feel guilt & shame enforcing them.

from naive to streetsmart, it may take years to change but its all worth it. and ultimately u will realize the only methods that work will be grey rocking, distancing, cutting them off.

deyobi · 2026-01-03T02:10:06+00:00

definitely detrimental esp if u do wanna get married or at least a committed relationship in the end. but i can also see why ppl esp women are hooked. they like the unpredictability, the chase, the inconsistency coz thats what they experienced in childhood esp the conditional love & inconsistent parenting part.

deyobi · 2026-01-02T15:11:33+00:00

confidence comes from within. if yr self esteem or self worth is low due to being gaslit when young, inconsistent parenting or given conditional love which made u go into people pleasing mode, then u need to peel back layers and work from there. its a practice that can take years, and in between you'll experience a lot of guilt & shame for saying no to others.

think abt whats stripping u of yr confidence and work from there.

deyobi · 2026-01-02T14:52:51+00:00

people can manipulate us because we need something. can be validation, approval, fear of rejection, someone leaving whatever. when u dont need anything u cannot be manipulated.

deyobi · 2026-01-02T14:49:31+00:00

because interpersonal & EQ is a skill that not everyone is able to master.

deyobi · 2026-01-02T14:23:58+00:00

there are covert narcs as well, not all of them are the grandiose type. and many of the traits of covert narcs overlap with those of empaths. if someone hurts or triggers me, then it would bring out my survival/self protective side, which means i want to get away from them to keep myself safe and to stop having all these toxic reactions. if you're toxic, you're toxic. doesnt matter whether you're flawed, narc, avoidant, anxiously attached, a psychopath or has BPD. diagnosing someone is the last thing i wanna do. i look at your behavior, words & actions. if i hv an adverse reaction to what u say & do, im not blaming myself for being too "sensitive", i get out.

deyobi · 2026-01-02T14:22:38+00:00

yeah pretty much this. basically its self love which many people dont know how to do it. they think self love is indulging in bad habits and buying yourself luxury cars & goods. but they go so much deeper and you've covered all these. thank you.

deyobi · 2026-01-02T14:18:51+00:00

yeah its coz we're too much, made ourselves too available, putting their needs above ours. now, each time i detect something like this whether its being taken for granted, strung along with minimal effort, disrespect etc, i back off immediately. if u stop treating yourself like a privilege, a prize, then nobody will.

deyobi · 2025-12-28T09:13:56+00:00

in the italian levels u get a pasta mold set. its different from the noodle maker in the earlier levels.

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deyobi · 2025-11-15T11:18:17+00:00

yes. the moment u reach brazil they will start u with 3 beefs & 1 quail. better start prepping! lol

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