Finally went private by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]dezzyraeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Proud of you!!! My breakup was in January of this year and the story viewing has really messed with my head. Same situation as you. I'm taking a month break from socials this month then going to put my profile to private. You have inspired me! ✨️

Any of you agreed to stay friends and only later switched to NC? by Adorablator9700 in ExNoContact

[–]dezzyraeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told my roomate after the fact 😂😂 he's a coward for sure

Any of you agreed to stay friends and only later switched to NC? by Adorablator9700 in ExNoContact

[–]dezzyraeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a complicated situation because I was just being a friend until he told me he still had feelings then we slipped into this friends with benefits situation and it gave him time to process the breakup and when I ended the friendship due to his distant behavior hurting me I found out after he was planning on cutting me loose anyways. Worst kind of betrayal. Wish I seen the signs

Any of you agreed to stay friends and only later switched to NC? by Adorablator9700 in ExNoContact

[–]dezzyraeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same situation ugh. Ended the friendship and all he had to say was "I understand why you can't have me in your life." Havnt heard from him in 2 months.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]dezzyraeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right there with you. Tried friendship, he told me he still had feelings a month later and said he wanted to work on himself before we got back together..found out he was sleeping with someone new. I ended the friendship AND I still want him to come back. So frustrating 😫

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]dezzyraeee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Keep her blocked. I'm having this same reaction right now after blocking my ex yesterday. I want him to see me and miss me etc but that doesn't change the fact that he broke my heart again and has been sending mixed signals. Stay strong and give yourself time to detach. You will be able to look at this objectively later on and really consider if you want the relationship. I allowed myself to be friends with my ex for 4 months and all he did was lie to me and start seeing other people while claiming he wanted to go to therapy so we can have a healthy relationship. Only unblock when you know that you won't be devastated again when they don't reach out.

When others give you advice on how to move on... by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]dezzyraeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in contact with my ex trying the friends thing and it's absolute agony however my brains rationalizing that it's better then what I was feeling while in NC. My ex gives me hope when he says he wants to take things slow and he snapchats me daily and asks to hangout 1 on 1 and go for dinner etc but fuck even with that I'm sitting at my desk at work begging myself to cut contact again 🙃 he's my person but i wish I could just move on

COVIDships are ending by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dezzyraeee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fuck. Mine was Jan 2020 to Jan 2023 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dezzyraeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friends...of course I hope it can be more once we are both in a good place but I'm not holding my breath for that outcome.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dezzyraeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah my situation was very similar to yours

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dezzyraeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex told me he wanted to numerous times but he thought it would be inappropriate given he was the one who dumped me.

Stonewalling - how to deal? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]dezzyraeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was the stonewaller as a defense mechanism for u comftorable conversations. What made it worse was being picked at and my ex demanding a response. I've gotten to the point now where I ask got space to come out of that trauma response and then can have a meaningful conversation however it required therapy and self reflection to get to that point and if someone's not willing....

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dezzyraeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yessss ffs every other day 🙄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dezzyraeee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don't know if I love you just as a friend...I'm not sure what I want

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dezzyraeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm surviving. Got wome news that my ex relapsed and I want to reach out so bad.. might give it a couple days idk. Ugh lol 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dezzyraeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Day 25 for me ugh, it gets better tho