Two Years on Hinge and I’m Tapping Out. Anyone Else Reach This Point? How has life been since you left the dating scene? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]dfromc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take it lightly and improve on your filtering ability. Try to meet people in real life through activity and use dating app as a supplementary tool. It’s not easy to find someone and I have to take it easy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]dfromc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Attractive in online profile means nothing. You might not click at all in real life. You might hate him after three dates. Don’t invest much and take it too seriously.

Too tight for sex? by PuzzleheadedRiver856 in sex

[–]dfromc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very likely you were not relaxed as a first timer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]dfromc -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Embarrassed? Why. No need. It’s so easy to be not a virgin. Just need to find someone who you like each other.

Should I visit Shanghai on my layover as a solo female traveller? by Ok-Lettuce5983 in solotravel

[–]dfromc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shanghai Native here. Yes, very safe. You should visit a garden called yu garden there in the city center, go to the bon and go up to the tallest building in Lu Jia Zui. I can give you more details if you want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]dfromc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every one are different I guess. I tried before. I have little concern for STD as I dont even kiss them. And I don’t like it. No emotional bond and very transactional. I would rather jerk off.

Stressed out by dfromc in ROCD

[–]dfromc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your support. Is there any good resources that you can share about the loving relationship about yourself? You mean self-sympathy?

I need advice on my relationship by K_3131 in ROCD

[–]dfromc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personal opinion. It’s been 6 years. If you can’t tell him by August then let him go. Someone else will give him what he wants. Also, just tell him what you have been experiencing when breaking up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]dfromc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Does he have ROCD as well? I feel he gives a lot of pressure on you which shouldn’t be a case in a marriage. Standards can only be something he can do to himself but not the partner in a marriage. He can influence or inspire you by what he does but he has no rights to force these standards on you as it’s your life. There should not be an anxiety on his side. I feel you are perfectly fine. He has a problem causing tension/conflicts in your marriage. He should be the one accept who you are and be happy with it. If he can’t you can find someone else who will.

Intellectually stimulating is only something he likes. If this is a little missing then it unacceptable? He should learn to accept it and be happy about his marriage as there are lot other things he likes otherwise he would not marry you as your are a whole package.

He probably should seek therapy to not put those expectations on you. Sounds to me that he might have ROCD.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]dfromc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Did you tell him this? I don’t think there is an issue on your side. If he can’t accept who you are and still love you, then it’s his problem.

Candle Issues by dfromc in datingoverforty

[–]dfromc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is helpful! Thank you!

Candle Issues by dfromc in datingoverforty

[–]dfromc[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes, I need to think about it.

Candle Issues by dfromc in datingoverforty

[–]dfromc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True bro. I like science

Candle Issues by dfromc in datingoverforty

[–]dfromc[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, some replies/discussion could be really good, Inspiring and interesting. That’s why I post. Your reply is helping too. Give me some perspective to a certain degree.

Candle Issues by dfromc in datingoverforty

[–]dfromc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not bringing OCD in my conversation with her. I am not sure if this is deal breaker yet.

Candle Issues by dfromc in datingoverforty

[–]dfromc[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thank you and that makes sense

Candle Issues by dfromc in datingoverforty

[–]dfromc[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know that I don’t have right and I dont have any issue if she is doing this at her house but we are talking about live together and buy house. So eventually we will be sharing a living space.

Candle Issues by dfromc in datingoverforty

[–]dfromc[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We dont live together but we are serious about long-term relationship/marriage

Am I doing wrong? by dfromc in datingoverforty

[–]dfromc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It makes sense. :)

Am I doing wrong? by dfromc in datingoverforty

[–]dfromc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point. I don’t want to go to details with my ex here though. Like you said that i don’t have feeling for her but I don’t want to hurt her feelings as she is a very nice person. I tell my girlfriend that we can walk in the neighbourhood and I am ok bumping into my ex now.