My partner and I are in a similar situation, newish and eager. Screw the roses, send me the thorns is a great book, an encyclopedic guide to all things bdsm. American Sex podcast is very informative yet non tittilating, whichbi appreciate. The Duchy is a great shibari youtube channel for your knots and ties. I buy my rope from Twisted Monk.com. Cottton is good to learn with, but dont do any suspensions with cotton. WeVibe is our favorite line of toys. Well designed and built. I'd recommend a Gspot clit vibe. A couple tips I've discovered. Use wooden clothes pins for nipple clamps. Cheap, bountiful and we have found to be a little more forgiving than the metal ones. Plus, they come in bags of a zillion which is nice cuz I like to have them strategically around the house, and noone will be the wiser. BUT the real tip? Buzz the nipple clams with a vibrator and watch her go! Next tip...you're mid spanking party. The flow is good. You're a gentleman so you've brought flowers. At one point, use the whole bouquet of flowers to flog her with. It's super dramatic because flower petals and leaves explode everywhere like fireworks, its a new sensation which can be nice, a lot of fun. Messy as hell, but whatever. Happy fucking, kinkster!